Does a sexy and feminine woman make men crazy and wild?
by: Py Kim Conant
As part of my research, I asked both men and women what makes a woman feminine and sexy. I simply asked respondents what they felt made a woman feminine and sexy.
Here are some of their responses:
“She is receptive to a man’s suggestions and plans.”
“The flirting, the teasing, the suggestion.”
“She is comfortable being sexually provocative in her appearance.”
“She falls in love with me after she has a huge orgasm.”
“She is outrageous and sexy on the outside and inside.”
“She isn’t afraid of public affection.”
“She has a voyeuristic side to her.”
“She uses a few explicit words in the heat of passion.”
“She knows what pleases a man and herself.”
“She has a way of carrying herself.”
“She drips with sexuality.”
“She smells good, looks good, and sounds good.”
“She is appreciative of whatever I do.”
“It’s her way of talking to you or looking at you.”
“It’s her smile.”
“She uses her eyes to connect to you.”
“She shows her emotions.”
“She has poise.”
“She laughs freely and loudly and enjoys life.”
“She satisfies her man’s fantasies.”
“She accepts me for who I am.”
“She doesn’t take life too seriously.”
“She’s a little bit playful.”
“She is confident in her beauty.”
“She is beautiful and exciting to look at.”
“She is a ferocious feline in bed.”
“She tells me what she likes [sexually].”
“She screams [during sex].”
“She gets excited [sexually].”
“She never pushes me away [sexually].”
“She never uses sex for power.”
“She is shy and naïve outside; inside, she has a huge sexual desire.”
“She is sexual, sensual, and erotic.”
“Her clothing slightly reveals some of her body.”
“She gives a hint of what lies underneath her clothes.”
“She is smolderingly sexy, but always classy, in public.”
“She is responsive to the slightest touch.”
“She easily reaches multiple orgasms.”
“She is extremely oral, both giving and receiving.”
“She has highly responsive nipples.”
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Thursday, January 25, 2007
Tuesday, January 23, 2007
Sex and Swinging
Sex and Swinging
By: MN Nikk
Swinging has simply got to be one of the ultimate dreams of many men and not a few women. Although three may seem like a crowd, even the idea of going to bed with two women at once is enough to send the blood rushing to the pelvic area in any healthy man. Watching two women make out before joining in must be one of the oldest fantasies that men like to indulge in, while some women dream of having two guys at their beck and call, thus being absolutely sure they won’t leave the bed unsatisfied.
Swinging can be a nice fantasy for some and a true lifestyle for others, depending upon the personal preferences. Some people are quite content with the monogamous life, but are curious about the alternatives and willing to step over the line a little to see what the other side has to offer. Other people are just interested in getting laid with more than one lady at the same time, especially if their lover happens to have a hot friend that might be inclined to join in for a threesome. Some couples have turned swinging into a lifestyle and are inviting others to join them on a regular basis.
The best thing about group sex is the fact that satisfaction is almost guaranteed, that is if you don’t mind performing in front of other people. Even better: you get to choose. You are no longer limited to a single woman but to two or more, depending on how many are present. And, if you are really into experimenting, you may even consider trying sex with another man. Over the past couple of years, homosexual experiences have become more and more common among the hipster urban crowd. It’s all up to you and your lady’s preferences.
On the other hand, swinging is not without risk. It can place an additional stress on a relationship when one of the partners is far more attracted to swinging that the other. It may also reveal tendencies that some people find disturbing, mainly because having a threesome with the same partners again and again may turn a couple into a “ménage à trois”. It dramatically raises the risk of catching STIs, since you simply have to trust other people to be just as careful as you are. You may also run into people who are less interested in free sex and more interested in, say, blackmail or locating your valuables. Or who play rougher than you would like.
The most important thing is to come up with a set of reasons and rules. First, you must know why you’re doing it. It may be just short-term curiosity, it may be a fantasy or you may be aspiring to a different lifestyle. Whatever it is, you should take a good look inside and see why you want to do it. Second, you must have some rules about what’s acceptable and what’s not. You must know where to draw the line and what kind of sex you’re willing to accept. And third, you should always pay attention to health issues. Diseases are definitely not sexy.
If you want to learn about even more ways to spice up your sex life then Lovecentria™ has exactly what you need to really boost your sex life. It’s got all the content, features and advice that you need to explore more exciting sex. For more information, visit LoveCentria.com.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
By: MN Nikk
Swinging has simply got to be one of the ultimate dreams of many men and not a few women. Although three may seem like a crowd, even the idea of going to bed with two women at once is enough to send the blood rushing to the pelvic area in any healthy man. Watching two women make out before joining in must be one of the oldest fantasies that men like to indulge in, while some women dream of having two guys at their beck and call, thus being absolutely sure they won’t leave the bed unsatisfied.
Swinging can be a nice fantasy for some and a true lifestyle for others, depending upon the personal preferences. Some people are quite content with the monogamous life, but are curious about the alternatives and willing to step over the line a little to see what the other side has to offer. Other people are just interested in getting laid with more than one lady at the same time, especially if their lover happens to have a hot friend that might be inclined to join in for a threesome. Some couples have turned swinging into a lifestyle and are inviting others to join them on a regular basis.
The best thing about group sex is the fact that satisfaction is almost guaranteed, that is if you don’t mind performing in front of other people. Even better: you get to choose. You are no longer limited to a single woman but to two or more, depending on how many are present. And, if you are really into experimenting, you may even consider trying sex with another man. Over the past couple of years, homosexual experiences have become more and more common among the hipster urban crowd. It’s all up to you and your lady’s preferences.
On the other hand, swinging is not without risk. It can place an additional stress on a relationship when one of the partners is far more attracted to swinging that the other. It may also reveal tendencies that some people find disturbing, mainly because having a threesome with the same partners again and again may turn a couple into a “ménage à trois”. It dramatically raises the risk of catching STIs, since you simply have to trust other people to be just as careful as you are. You may also run into people who are less interested in free sex and more interested in, say, blackmail or locating your valuables. Or who play rougher than you would like.
The most important thing is to come up with a set of reasons and rules. First, you must know why you’re doing it. It may be just short-term curiosity, it may be a fantasy or you may be aspiring to a different lifestyle. Whatever it is, you should take a good look inside and see why you want to do it. Second, you must have some rules about what’s acceptable and what’s not. You must know where to draw the line and what kind of sex you’re willing to accept. And third, you should always pay attention to health issues. Diseases are definitely not sexy.
If you want to learn about even more ways to spice up your sex life then Lovecentria™ has exactly what you need to really boost your sex life. It’s got all the content, features and advice that you need to explore more exciting sex. For more information, visit LoveCentria.com.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Monday, January 22, 2007
Find your Sexual Partners Via Adult Dating Sites
Find your Sexual Partners Via Adult Dating Sites
By: Irene Thebeauty
Here you will find some important tips you need to know before you start.
The Internet has become the best source to explore the sexual lifestyles of thousands of people and find like-minded people with similar interests. However an incredible number of adult sites makes it pretty difficult to choose the one that meets your needs the best.
Here are some tips on how to save your time and money when choosing the right site and how to attract more Internet adult community members.
It is crucial to choose sites with the largest amount of members in your area. Otherwise you have low chances to be able to arrange a real date with somebody you will find. Isn't that your final goal?
Do not waste time on sites with a limited number of ways to search people.
It's better to deal with sites that offer extensive search options. Here you may look for partners focusing on their special characteristics such as height, physical features, ethnicity, sexual preferences and even... oops, cock/breast size!
You need to register on a site in order to be able to communicate with other adult singles. As a rule there are 2 options for you to get a membership on an adult site. Free membership allows you only basic searches (upon such parameters as gender and country, sometimes age) but viewing full profiles or initiating contact are usually only available to fully subscribed members. Subscribed membership usually provides you with a larger number of valuable options. It enables you to use chat rooms, discussion boards, internal IM systems etc. The best sites are those that allow you alive communication with other members. Before you pay make sure that the site uses a secure payment system that is well known and reliable. Protect yourself from phishing!
After you've found the most suitable site for you, the next step is the creation of your profile.
This is an easy sign-up process and it is a crucial part of the whole experience. Your profile forms part of your marketing campaign and the more attention you pay to it the more successful you are likely to be.
First, choose your target audience. Are you interested in couples, groups, transvestites...? Whatever your sexual preferences, if you are looking for a casual friend to swing with, swinging couples, transvestites, she-males, gays or just adult personals, you will be sure to find someone with whom to indulge your wildest fantasies. So be specific when stating in your profile what you're looking for.
The effectiveness of you profile depends on how you describe yourself.
Remember the golden rule "more info - more feedback". Write about your sexual preferences honestly and mention details that may generate members' interest.
"Is honesty the best policy? I think it probably is. I'm a married man who is not getting anywhere near enough sex", says one of the adult community members. "I'm interested in meeting singles of either sex or couples, mixed or single sex, for hot steamy sex. I'm well endowed and a long stayer. I love giving oral and will take it too. I'm willing to try anything except pain." This guy knows what he wants and he will definitely get more replies than an ordinary "Hey! I need someone to get laid with!"
Remember that photo/video is a must for an adult site. Profiles without photos get fewer responses. You may put more than just a facial photo on the site as part of your profile but a sexy or even nude photo is totally acceptable too. Pictures are the most interest-generating part of your profile!
Beware of time wasters! Some people create free accounts on adult sites with the intention of merely having some fun and aren't really prepared to engage in an actual sexual encounter. Others get into adult communities in order to promote other web sites via spam letters. Often fake profiles with extremely beautiful photos are created on sites so take your time as you would in real life and get to know who you are dealing with. Sometimes bogus profiles are created by webmasters to pad the membership numbers. You don't want to deal with such time wasters.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
By: Irene Thebeauty
Here you will find some important tips you need to know before you start.
The Internet has become the best source to explore the sexual lifestyles of thousands of people and find like-minded people with similar interests. However an incredible number of adult sites makes it pretty difficult to choose the one that meets your needs the best.
Here are some tips on how to save your time and money when choosing the right site and how to attract more Internet adult community members.
It is crucial to choose sites with the largest amount of members in your area. Otherwise you have low chances to be able to arrange a real date with somebody you will find. Isn't that your final goal?
Do not waste time on sites with a limited number of ways to search people.
It's better to deal with sites that offer extensive search options. Here you may look for partners focusing on their special characteristics such as height, physical features, ethnicity, sexual preferences and even... oops, cock/breast size!
You need to register on a site in order to be able to communicate with other adult singles. As a rule there are 2 options for you to get a membership on an adult site. Free membership allows you only basic searches (upon such parameters as gender and country, sometimes age) but viewing full profiles or initiating contact are usually only available to fully subscribed members. Subscribed membership usually provides you with a larger number of valuable options. It enables you to use chat rooms, discussion boards, internal IM systems etc. The best sites are those that allow you alive communication with other members. Before you pay make sure that the site uses a secure payment system that is well known and reliable. Protect yourself from phishing!
After you've found the most suitable site for you, the next step is the creation of your profile.
This is an easy sign-up process and it is a crucial part of the whole experience. Your profile forms part of your marketing campaign and the more attention you pay to it the more successful you are likely to be.
First, choose your target audience. Are you interested in couples, groups, transvestites...? Whatever your sexual preferences, if you are looking for a casual friend to swing with, swinging couples, transvestites, she-males, gays or just adult personals, you will be sure to find someone with whom to indulge your wildest fantasies. So be specific when stating in your profile what you're looking for.
The effectiveness of you profile depends on how you describe yourself.
Remember the golden rule "more info - more feedback". Write about your sexual preferences honestly and mention details that may generate members' interest.
"Is honesty the best policy? I think it probably is. I'm a married man who is not getting anywhere near enough sex", says one of the adult community members. "I'm interested in meeting singles of either sex or couples, mixed or single sex, for hot steamy sex. I'm well endowed and a long stayer. I love giving oral and will take it too. I'm willing to try anything except pain." This guy knows what he wants and he will definitely get more replies than an ordinary "Hey! I need someone to get laid with!"
Remember that photo/video is a must for an adult site. Profiles without photos get fewer responses. You may put more than just a facial photo on the site as part of your profile but a sexy or even nude photo is totally acceptable too. Pictures are the most interest-generating part of your profile!
Beware of time wasters! Some people create free accounts on adult sites with the intention of merely having some fun and aren't really prepared to engage in an actual sexual encounter. Others get into adult communities in order to promote other web sites via spam letters. Often fake profiles with extremely beautiful photos are created on sites so take your time as you would in real life and get to know who you are dealing with. Sometimes bogus profiles are created by webmasters to pad the membership numbers. You don't want to deal with such time wasters.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Saturday, January 20, 2007
What are Swinging Clubs?
What are Swinging Clubs?
by: Julia Tanner
When being on the computer just doesn’t do enough for you, then you may want to venture out of the house and find some swinging in person. Unfortunately, not every city has a swingers club. But there are ways to find out who’s in the scene, and where you can go. You’d be surprised how much you can find when you ask.
Finding your swinging environment
The Internet has become the easiest way to find swinging resources in your local community. You can go into any search engine and find whatever you pleasure is. Actually, you may want to get specific as to your fetishes and fantasies. Why not find EXACTLY what you’re looking for?
Once you’ve gotten a list of clubs and other swinging locales, then you want to grab your partner and make some phone calls. You need to know what to expect and get all of your personal questions answers. And interestingly enough, a lot of clubs will want to talk to the both of you to see what your intentions are and what their rules state. Many clubs only accept married couples, for example.
A lot of beginning couples will also want to ask if the environment is no-pressure or not. You don’t want to be too overwhelmed at first. And if the phone call is difficult or you realize that you’re having trouble communicating, then you may realize that you’re not ready.
But let’s say that you are.
What to expect
All swinging clubs are different and have different rules. You want to find out ahead of time what the dress code is and if there’s anything that isn’t allowed. Men will usually want to avoid jeans and sneakers, while women want to dress to thrill. Be sure to bring your identification with you as well.
Some clubs have theme nights and women can have a good time matching their outfits to these fun and creative nights.
Once you’re in, each club is different. If you’re in a pressure-free club, then you can pretty much do whatever feels right to you. Maybe you just want to watch the ‘festivities’ for the evening. Maybe you want to participate. Just don’t feel like you have to.
Something to remember
If you feel pressured, then you’re in a bad situation. You want to have fun your first few times in a swingers club, and then take baby steps to the next, even more hot and exciting level. Being talked into something that you don’t want to do is not sexy and makes for uncomfortable next mornings. If you don’t want to do something, then say so. No one should question that or make you feel bad for saying no.
Most swinging clubs are very good at helping you with any questions that you might have and have employees available if you’re just not sure about something. If you’re ready to try swinging, then this can be a great way to meet other couples with the same interests and within a safe and supportive environment.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
When being on the computer just doesn’t do enough for you, then you may want to venture out of the house and find some swinging in person. Unfortunately, not every city has a swingers club. But there are ways to find out who’s in the scene, and where you can go. You’d be surprised how much you can find when you ask.
Finding your swinging environment
The Internet has become the easiest way to find swinging resources in your local community. You can go into any search engine and find whatever you pleasure is. Actually, you may want to get specific as to your fetishes and fantasies. Why not find EXACTLY what you’re looking for?
Once you’ve gotten a list of clubs and other swinging locales, then you want to grab your partner and make some phone calls. You need to know what to expect and get all of your personal questions answers. And interestingly enough, a lot of clubs will want to talk to the both of you to see what your intentions are and what their rules state. Many clubs only accept married couples, for example.
A lot of beginning couples will also want to ask if the environment is no-pressure or not. You don’t want to be too overwhelmed at first. And if the phone call is difficult or you realize that you’re having trouble communicating, then you may realize that you’re not ready.
But let’s say that you are.
What to expect
All swinging clubs are different and have different rules. You want to find out ahead of time what the dress code is and if there’s anything that isn’t allowed. Men will usually want to avoid jeans and sneakers, while women want to dress to thrill. Be sure to bring your identification with you as well.
Some clubs have theme nights and women can have a good time matching their outfits to these fun and creative nights.
Once you’re in, each club is different. If you’re in a pressure-free club, then you can pretty much do whatever feels right to you. Maybe you just want to watch the ‘festivities’ for the evening. Maybe you want to participate. Just don’t feel like you have to.
Something to remember
If you feel pressured, then you’re in a bad situation. You want to have fun your first few times in a swingers club, and then take baby steps to the next, even more hot and exciting level. Being talked into something that you don’t want to do is not sexy and makes for uncomfortable next mornings. If you don’t want to do something, then say so. No one should question that or make you feel bad for saying no.
Most swinging clubs are very good at helping you with any questions that you might have and have employees available if you’re just not sure about something. If you’re ready to try swinging, then this can be a great way to meet other couples with the same interests and within a safe and supportive environment.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Friday, January 19, 2007
Every Girls Guide To Confidence and Self Esteem
Every Girls Guide To Confidence and Self Esteem
by: Adryenn Ashley
Remember Teri Hatcher doing those impossible splits right on the studio floor on Oprah? Or Carmen Electra positively gushing about what exotic dance has done for her body and bedroom tactics? A large number of celebrities have recently taken to a sexy alternative to working out, from pole vaulting they have leapt straight to pole dancing at the S Factor. And they aren’t stopping at pole-dancing, our celebrity pin-up girls have been everywhere and done everything, from Strip-Aerobics to Exotic Dance Work Outs, the motto this season is ‘Everything sexy goes’!
If all this sudden gush for sex is making you blush, you go ahead and click your tongue and hang your head in shame, no one will begrudge you. “SEX SELLS” and we are being sold it morning, noon and night through every possible channel. It screams at you from gigantic billboards featuring gorgeous demi-love-gods, pierces into your fantasy’s through the television and fondles your imagination with semi-naked bodies scattered all over the net. Living in the USA is in itself like one giant, prolonged orgasm…and as a woman you are expected to idolize those models and endeavor to look like one.
Sure you wanna be Carrie from ‘Sex and the City’ and moan and groan and roll around on your bed with a different guy every night, seven nights a week turning your life into a series of fantastic sexual escapades….but you’ll snap out of it, after all life is not a TV show, and learning how to embrace your sexuality takes time and effort.
In America amongst the glamour of the TV shows and the supposed sexual abandonment, the skin and the G-Strings, we women have to deal with mixed messages, guilt trips, religious dogma, body image, and misinformation. Sure getting your hymen snapped by 16 is a must, but so is regretting doing it by 25. Beneath all our external frills, getting laid is an issue we women deal with badly.
The concept of ‘Positive Sex’ is an idea not many of us have managed to fathom yet. Fornication is still, essentially a male domain, where we women participate like whimpering goats, hesitating and interestingly enough feeling insecure about our role in it all.
A majority of women I know swear by making love in the dark. ‘It’s romantic’ they coo when I ask them the point of that. Here’s what I KNOW, most of us are ashamed of our body. Nudity is a concept we haven’t been taught to handle well. Seeing ourselves naked freaks us out, and knowing that someone else is watching us naked, desiring our body for itself, brings to life our worst fears. This is the gaze our parents warned us against, this is what Church lessons have told us to avoid. So off goes the light, plunging everything, from ourselves, to that desirous gaze, to our insecurities, into comforting darkness.
The truth is that the darkness serves as a warm invitation to what Susan Bremer calls our ‘Shadow” side. ‘Every woman wants to take a trip to their wild side” she explains, ‘We all yearn to seduce. But we’ve been told over and over again that to rejoice in our body is immoral, yet the wish to feel powerful in our sensuality, to express our sexuality remains.” Susan, a proud ‘Gentleman club’ dancer considers her sexual prowess to be her way of establishing her role in a world hounded by men. “When I’m at work,” she says “I’m surrounded by men in coats and ties — bosses and underlings, jocks and nerds. All of them are the kinds of men who made me feel small. But now I can reduce the top dog to a lapdog by staring at him, opening my top, and smiling”.
This sense of power probably needs some delving into. As women all of us suffer from our own insecurities. It’s a cliché by now but we all know that the world belongs to the testosterone thugs. They keep us down everywhere, be it in our boardroom or our bedroom. And slowly we grow used to being kept down, such that we soon we are conditioned to not reversing the situation at all.
A positive sex-image, whether you use it or not, can and will alter all this most miraculously. Your sexual achievements in the bedroom can give you the kind of omnipotent confidence which oozes out from your personal to public sphere. For any woman with low self-esteem, the act of embracing your sexuality serves as a miracle tool for believing that she can have that effect on other people, in a non-sexual environment too.
The thing is, much as we try to shake it off, we are all sexual beings, sex is important to us and it has the power to make us feel good. 65% of women in the US do not, at their heart of hearts, take this idea seriously. Good sex and an attempt to have good sex for them is still a nudge-nudge-whisper-whisper issue. This attitude gets transferred from them to their kids and grandkids and so on, such that each generation of these young women grow up with the idea that every time they are making love they ought to feel guilty about it. This mystifying of the subject is harmful for a lot of reasons. For starters it gives us a lifelong baggage of guilt, every time we think about sex, every time we fantasize or our hands itch to masturbate we feel like a criminal. The constant feeling that sex is wrong or dirty leads to a negative self-image as a person. That misinformation means that when we are in the act it can be hard to enjoy it, leading to severe sexual frustration, not a feeling you’d like to carry around with you.
This discussion might go on and on, because of our trouble to face the fact that we like getting laid. But let’s just say, it all has a very easy solution. Get in to your sexiest lacy underwear, devote tonight to unleashing the temptress in you and for once really enjoy it without hang-ups. You will like the results tomorrow morning.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Adryenn Ashley
Remember Teri Hatcher doing those impossible splits right on the studio floor on Oprah? Or Carmen Electra positively gushing about what exotic dance has done for her body and bedroom tactics? A large number of celebrities have recently taken to a sexy alternative to working out, from pole vaulting they have leapt straight to pole dancing at the S Factor. And they aren’t stopping at pole-dancing, our celebrity pin-up girls have been everywhere and done everything, from Strip-Aerobics to Exotic Dance Work Outs, the motto this season is ‘Everything sexy goes’!
If all this sudden gush for sex is making you blush, you go ahead and click your tongue and hang your head in shame, no one will begrudge you. “SEX SELLS” and we are being sold it morning, noon and night through every possible channel. It screams at you from gigantic billboards featuring gorgeous demi-love-gods, pierces into your fantasy’s through the television and fondles your imagination with semi-naked bodies scattered all over the net. Living in the USA is in itself like one giant, prolonged orgasm…and as a woman you are expected to idolize those models and endeavor to look like one.
Sure you wanna be Carrie from ‘Sex and the City’ and moan and groan and roll around on your bed with a different guy every night, seven nights a week turning your life into a series of fantastic sexual escapades….but you’ll snap out of it, after all life is not a TV show, and learning how to embrace your sexuality takes time and effort.
In America amongst the glamour of the TV shows and the supposed sexual abandonment, the skin and the G-Strings, we women have to deal with mixed messages, guilt trips, religious dogma, body image, and misinformation. Sure getting your hymen snapped by 16 is a must, but so is regretting doing it by 25. Beneath all our external frills, getting laid is an issue we women deal with badly.
The concept of ‘Positive Sex’ is an idea not many of us have managed to fathom yet. Fornication is still, essentially a male domain, where we women participate like whimpering goats, hesitating and interestingly enough feeling insecure about our role in it all.
A majority of women I know swear by making love in the dark. ‘It’s romantic’ they coo when I ask them the point of that. Here’s what I KNOW, most of us are ashamed of our body. Nudity is a concept we haven’t been taught to handle well. Seeing ourselves naked freaks us out, and knowing that someone else is watching us naked, desiring our body for itself, brings to life our worst fears. This is the gaze our parents warned us against, this is what Church lessons have told us to avoid. So off goes the light, plunging everything, from ourselves, to that desirous gaze, to our insecurities, into comforting darkness.
The truth is that the darkness serves as a warm invitation to what Susan Bremer calls our ‘Shadow” side. ‘Every woman wants to take a trip to their wild side” she explains, ‘We all yearn to seduce. But we’ve been told over and over again that to rejoice in our body is immoral, yet the wish to feel powerful in our sensuality, to express our sexuality remains.” Susan, a proud ‘Gentleman club’ dancer considers her sexual prowess to be her way of establishing her role in a world hounded by men. “When I’m at work,” she says “I’m surrounded by men in coats and ties — bosses and underlings, jocks and nerds. All of them are the kinds of men who made me feel small. But now I can reduce the top dog to a lapdog by staring at him, opening my top, and smiling”.
This sense of power probably needs some delving into. As women all of us suffer from our own insecurities. It’s a cliché by now but we all know that the world belongs to the testosterone thugs. They keep us down everywhere, be it in our boardroom or our bedroom. And slowly we grow used to being kept down, such that we soon we are conditioned to not reversing the situation at all.
A positive sex-image, whether you use it or not, can and will alter all this most miraculously. Your sexual achievements in the bedroom can give you the kind of omnipotent confidence which oozes out from your personal to public sphere. For any woman with low self-esteem, the act of embracing your sexuality serves as a miracle tool for believing that she can have that effect on other people, in a non-sexual environment too.
The thing is, much as we try to shake it off, we are all sexual beings, sex is important to us and it has the power to make us feel good. 65% of women in the US do not, at their heart of hearts, take this idea seriously. Good sex and an attempt to have good sex for them is still a nudge-nudge-whisper-whisper issue. This attitude gets transferred from them to their kids and grandkids and so on, such that each generation of these young women grow up with the idea that every time they are making love they ought to feel guilty about it. This mystifying of the subject is harmful for a lot of reasons. For starters it gives us a lifelong baggage of guilt, every time we think about sex, every time we fantasize or our hands itch to masturbate we feel like a criminal. The constant feeling that sex is wrong or dirty leads to a negative self-image as a person. That misinformation means that when we are in the act it can be hard to enjoy it, leading to severe sexual frustration, not a feeling you’d like to carry around with you.
This discussion might go on and on, because of our trouble to face the fact that we like getting laid. But let’s just say, it all has a very easy solution. Get in to your sexiest lacy underwear, devote tonight to unleashing the temptress in you and for once really enjoy it without hang-ups. You will like the results tomorrow morning.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Thursday, January 18, 2007
Swingers And Body Image
Swingers And Body Image
By: Julia Tanner
Although UK swinging couples are out there, so are many others. But how can you meet everyone without spending millions of dollars trekking around the world?
Enter the invention of the Internet.
Online Dating And You
If the prospect of meeting someone online is foreign to you, then you must not have looked too hard before.
There are hundreds and thousands of dating services online that bring together all kinds of couples: Christian, Jewish, homosexual, bisexual, fetish, and yes, even UK swinging couples.
Just type in what you’re looking for and you’re sure to find a site that suits you.
What To Look For In A Site
When it comes to finding a good site, you need to look at the overall appearance of the front page. Is it crowded, is it hard to navigate?
If you’re going to be spending a lot of time on the site talking to other couples, then you need to be able to find your way around. And you need to be able to look at it—bright colors can hurt the head after a while.
Are there people or a good question page to help you if you have things that you don’t know? Many times you will be paying to be a member on the site, so in order to get your money’s worth, you want to make sure that you can use it the way that you would like to.
And this means having the help when you need it.
Profiles
When it comes to creating your profile, you want to start off with a good picture. Get out your digital camera and have some fun. You and your partner can dim the lights, set up a tripod and just let the camera catch what it will.
And the more provocative the pictures, the more couples that will be interested—trust me.
Be honest in your profile about what you’re looking for in a swinger relationship. This is not the time to tell someone what you think they might like to hear.
You want some fantasies fulfilled, right? Well, you’re going to need to be clear about those.
And if a couple you’re talking to isn’t interested, just move on. Oh, the beauty of the anonymous Internet. Don’t use your name at first to protect your identity.
Once you’ve got a good profile up, you can start contacting profiles that you find interesting, or just sit back and wait for others to contact you.
Try a little of both.
How To Get To Know Each Other
Asking a lot of questions is a great way to start the ball rolling on the swinger dating site. You can talk via e-mail, or by video camera in a lot of cases.
Video is much more fun and you can see body language too.
Share your fantasies and your expectations for the relationship. You want to be absolutely clear about your intentions so no one has the wrong idea, and there aren’t any surprises along the way.
That’s all for now.
So in the meantime – Happy Swinging!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
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By: Julia Tanner
Although UK swinging couples are out there, so are many others. But how can you meet everyone without spending millions of dollars trekking around the world?
Enter the invention of the Internet.
Online Dating And You
If the prospect of meeting someone online is foreign to you, then you must not have looked too hard before.
There are hundreds and thousands of dating services online that bring together all kinds of couples: Christian, Jewish, homosexual, bisexual, fetish, and yes, even UK swinging couples.
Just type in what you’re looking for and you’re sure to find a site that suits you.
What To Look For In A Site
When it comes to finding a good site, you need to look at the overall appearance of the front page. Is it crowded, is it hard to navigate?
If you’re going to be spending a lot of time on the site talking to other couples, then you need to be able to find your way around. And you need to be able to look at it—bright colors can hurt the head after a while.
Are there people or a good question page to help you if you have things that you don’t know? Many times you will be paying to be a member on the site, so in order to get your money’s worth, you want to make sure that you can use it the way that you would like to.
And this means having the help when you need it.
Profiles
When it comes to creating your profile, you want to start off with a good picture. Get out your digital camera and have some fun. You and your partner can dim the lights, set up a tripod and just let the camera catch what it will.
And the more provocative the pictures, the more couples that will be interested—trust me.
Be honest in your profile about what you’re looking for in a swinger relationship. This is not the time to tell someone what you think they might like to hear.
You want some fantasies fulfilled, right? Well, you’re going to need to be clear about those.
And if a couple you’re talking to isn’t interested, just move on. Oh, the beauty of the anonymous Internet. Don’t use your name at first to protect your identity.
Once you’ve got a good profile up, you can start contacting profiles that you find interesting, or just sit back and wait for others to contact you.
Try a little of both.
How To Get To Know Each Other
Asking a lot of questions is a great way to start the ball rolling on the swinger dating site. You can talk via e-mail, or by video camera in a lot of cases.
Video is much more fun and you can see body language too.
Share your fantasies and your expectations for the relationship. You want to be absolutely clear about your intentions so no one has the wrong idea, and there aren’t any surprises along the way.
That’s all for now.
So in the meantime – Happy Swinging!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
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Ć
Ƞ”Ƞ”逈ᨪ
Ć
Ć♐柫헨ᦘ뽀ᨘ閸᧻Ć쒨柪횠ᦘ샸ᨘ᧵
했ᦘ閨᧻섰ᨘĆ䦸᧕䦸᧕᪘ᨙƈ”꺸ᧉĆ솨ᧉᧉ
횘ᨬ
”ćɈ”Ɉ”횘ᨬ
Ǹ” ĆĆ쒨柪
䦸᧕䦸᧕᪘ᨙƈ”꺸ᧉĆ솨ᧉᧉ
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
Things to Think about for Beginning to Swing
Things to Think about for Beginning to Swing
by: Julia Tanner
Let’s put aside those fantasies for a moment, and talk about the logistics of beginning the adventure of swinging. And I know you have many—fantasies that is.
First of all, why are you getting into swinging? Are you looking for a little sex on the side of your relationship? If you are, you may be disappointed in the long run. Swinging is so much more than a cheap thrill.
This isn’t a way to have sex with more people, but a way to safely live out some fantasies with someone that you love. So, stop and think about this good and hard before you try it out.
Experience does count
You want to talk with other swingers to see how the lifestyle actually is. Chances are that you’ll hear about all of the positive aspects, but also the real life consequences.
You can either check out the local swingers club or sign up online with an online dating resource to ask questions or read their advice. There are hundreds of books that you could purchase and read as well. This isn’t something to go into lightly.
It’s fun, no doubt, but having real expectations will make it even better for you, your partner, and everyone else involved. And you can have so much fun looking into it. Turn down the lights and use your imagination…
Are you strong enough?
How’s your current relationship? If you’re on your own, how’s your mental state? What is your reason for trying swinging? Are you having problems and think that trying something new will help? Wrong answer.
If you already have problems—either on your own or in a relationship-- trying out swinging, then you may actually multiply the problems that you have. If jealousy is a tiny problem in your relationship, then swinging will only magnify it. If you can’t communicate with your partner, then you may not be able to say what you want or how you’re feeling about something that you’ve done or want to do. And the distance between you will only grow.
You need to have a strong commitment to yourself and your needs, as well as be able to talk things out as they come up.
Safety is key
Just because you’re ready to swing and think that everything and everyone is safe, you are wrong. You have to be ready to discuss sexually transmitted diseases and how you’re going to protect yourself and others. Have yourself tested and talk about what kinds of protection you will use. I know that this isn’t a very sexy topic, but neither is AIDS and everything else out there.
If you are uncomfortable talking about protection, then you aren’t ready to swing. When you involve another person, you have to be considerate of their health, as well as your own.
When you’re thinking about swinging, approach it like you would any other big decision. You wouldn’t buy a car without looking at the details and the price, so why barter your body and your fantasies any differently?
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
Let’s put aside those fantasies for a moment, and talk about the logistics of beginning the adventure of swinging. And I know you have many—fantasies that is.
First of all, why are you getting into swinging? Are you looking for a little sex on the side of your relationship? If you are, you may be disappointed in the long run. Swinging is so much more than a cheap thrill.
This isn’t a way to have sex with more people, but a way to safely live out some fantasies with someone that you love. So, stop and think about this good and hard before you try it out.
Experience does count
You want to talk with other swingers to see how the lifestyle actually is. Chances are that you’ll hear about all of the positive aspects, but also the real life consequences.
You can either check out the local swingers club or sign up online with an online dating resource to ask questions or read their advice. There are hundreds of books that you could purchase and read as well. This isn’t something to go into lightly.
It’s fun, no doubt, but having real expectations will make it even better for you, your partner, and everyone else involved. And you can have so much fun looking into it. Turn down the lights and use your imagination…
Are you strong enough?
How’s your current relationship? If you’re on your own, how’s your mental state? What is your reason for trying swinging? Are you having problems and think that trying something new will help? Wrong answer.
If you already have problems—either on your own or in a relationship-- trying out swinging, then you may actually multiply the problems that you have. If jealousy is a tiny problem in your relationship, then swinging will only magnify it. If you can’t communicate with your partner, then you may not be able to say what you want or how you’re feeling about something that you’ve done or want to do. And the distance between you will only grow.
You need to have a strong commitment to yourself and your needs, as well as be able to talk things out as they come up.
Safety is key
Just because you’re ready to swing and think that everything and everyone is safe, you are wrong. You have to be ready to discuss sexually transmitted diseases and how you’re going to protect yourself and others. Have yourself tested and talk about what kinds of protection you will use. I know that this isn’t a very sexy topic, but neither is AIDS and everything else out there.
If you are uncomfortable talking about protection, then you aren’t ready to swing. When you involve another person, you have to be considerate of their health, as well as your own.
When you’re thinking about swinging, approach it like you would any other big decision. You wouldn’t buy a car without looking at the details and the price, so why barter your body and your fantasies any differently?
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Monday, January 15, 2007
Monday, January 08, 2007
What are Swinging Clubs?
What are Swinging Clubs?
by: Julia Tanner
When being on the computer just doesn’t do enough for you, then you may want to venture out of the house and find some swinging in person. Unfortunately, not every city has a swingers club. But there are ways to find out who’s in the scene, and where you can go. You’d be surprised how much you can find when you ask.
Finding your swinging environment
The Internet has become the easiest way to find swinging resources in your local community. You can go into any search engine and find whatever you pleasure is. Actually, you may want to get specific as to your fetishes and fantasies. Why not find EXACTLY what you’re looking for?
Once you’ve gotten a list of clubs and other swinging locales, then you want to grab your partner and make some phone calls. You need to know what to expect and get all of your personal questions answers. And interestingly enough, a lot of clubs will want to talk to the both of you to see what your intentions are and what their rules state. Many clubs only accept married couples, for example.
A lot of beginning couples will also want to ask if the environment is no-pressure or not. You don’t want to be too overwhelmed at first. And if the phone call is difficult or you realize that you’re having trouble communicating, then you may realize that you’re not ready.
But let’s say that you are.
What to expect
All swinging clubs are different and have different rules. You want to find out ahead of time what the dress code is and if there’s anything that isn’t allowed. Men will usually want to avoid jeans and sneakers, while women want to dress to thrill. Be sure to bring your identification with you as well.
Some clubs have theme nights and women can have a good time matching their outfits to these fun and creative nights.
Once you’re in, each club is different. If you’re in a pressure-free club, then you can pretty much do whatever feels right to you. Maybe you just want to watch the ‘festivities’ for the evening. Maybe you want to participate. Just don’t feel like you have to.
Something to remember
If you feel pressured, then you’re in a bad situation. You want to have fun your first few times in a swingers club, and then take baby steps to the next, even more hot and exciting level. Being talked into something that you don’t want to do is not sexy and makes for uncomfortable next mornings. If you don’t want to do something, then say so. No one should question that or make you feel bad for saying no.
Most swinging clubs are very good at helping you with any questions that you might have and have employees available if you’re just not sure about something. If you’re ready to try swinging, then this can be a great way to meet other couples with the same interests and within a safe and supportive environment.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
When being on the computer just doesn’t do enough for you, then you may want to venture out of the house and find some swinging in person. Unfortunately, not every city has a swingers club. But there are ways to find out who’s in the scene, and where you can go. You’d be surprised how much you can find when you ask.
Finding your swinging environment
The Internet has become the easiest way to find swinging resources in your local community. You can go into any search engine and find whatever you pleasure is. Actually, you may want to get specific as to your fetishes and fantasies. Why not find EXACTLY what you’re looking for?
Once you’ve gotten a list of clubs and other swinging locales, then you want to grab your partner and make some phone calls. You need to know what to expect and get all of your personal questions answers. And interestingly enough, a lot of clubs will want to talk to the both of you to see what your intentions are and what their rules state. Many clubs only accept married couples, for example.
A lot of beginning couples will also want to ask if the environment is no-pressure or not. You don’t want to be too overwhelmed at first. And if the phone call is difficult or you realize that you’re having trouble communicating, then you may realize that you’re not ready.
But let’s say that you are.
What to expect
All swinging clubs are different and have different rules. You want to find out ahead of time what the dress code is and if there’s anything that isn’t allowed. Men will usually want to avoid jeans and sneakers, while women want to dress to thrill. Be sure to bring your identification with you as well.
Some clubs have theme nights and women can have a good time matching their outfits to these fun and creative nights.
Once you’re in, each club is different. If you’re in a pressure-free club, then you can pretty much do whatever feels right to you. Maybe you just want to watch the ‘festivities’ for the evening. Maybe you want to participate. Just don’t feel like you have to.
Something to remember
If you feel pressured, then you’re in a bad situation. You want to have fun your first few times in a swingers club, and then take baby steps to the next, even more hot and exciting level. Being talked into something that you don’t want to do is not sexy and makes for uncomfortable next mornings. If you don’t want to do something, then say so. No one should question that or make you feel bad for saying no.
Most swinging clubs are very good at helping you with any questions that you might have and have employees available if you’re just not sure about something. If you’re ready to try swinging, then this can be a great way to meet other couples with the same interests and within a safe and supportive environment.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Getting Ready: To Swing For Women
Getting Ready: For Women
by: Julia Tanner
Most women reading this are thinking that they already know how to get ready for a date, and this is a similar situation. While that’s true, you may want to read this over anyways to make sure that some little details are attended to.
When You’re In The Shower
You will want to take a shower because a bath might make you sleepy for the rest of the evening—and you don’t want that.
Before you get into the shower, make sure that you have a razor, shaving scream, face soap, and anything else that you normally need. With everything on your mind right now, you don’t want to have to keep getting out for things that you have forgotten.
Wash your body very carefully first. You can scrub with one of those poofy sponges and some bath gel for a light, clean scent. You will want to use lukewarm water so that your skin doesn’t dry out too much.
Wash your hair carefully and don’t use too much conditioner. If your hair is generally clean to begin with, you may even want to skip this step. Hair that is slightly dirty is much easier to style.
After you’ve been in the shower for a while, you’re ready to shave. Shave your legs completely and don’t forget the underarms. Of course, you can omit these steps altogether for personal preference.
Another Shaving Question
Most women want to know if they should shave their private area completely.
This is completely up to you and your comfort level. One thing to note is that if you’ve never done it before this night, it will not end well. This skin is very sensitive and you could end up with a nasty rash.
If you are planning on giving it a try, you will want to start the process out a few weeks a head of time. Start by trimming the hair down and then go ahead and use a razor, depilatory, or wax (ouch). Or you can go to a salon to have this done.
A lot of men like the ‘bare’ approach, while other men prefer a half and half layout. It’s interesting to note that the less there is, the more excited you can get. Just a thought.
Dressing It Up
Get out your best lingerie ladies. This is the time for the ‘fun’ stuff that’s been sitting in your drawer. Or maybe you want to buy something special for the occasion. A nice bra and panty set is best.
Wear a nice outfit that is revealing, but in a classy way. You may feel comfortable showing a little cleavage, but you may want to keep it subtle when you’re wearing a short skirt.
Makeup Or Not?
Since it’s going to be an exciting night, you do want to put a little makeup on to make yourself look fantastic. Like the clothes, you will want to play up your best features.
A nice dark lipstick (if it looks good on you) is best with softer makeup on the rest of the face.
You may also want to consider waterproof and smudge resistance makeup to keep the look on until you get home.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.co
by: Julia Tanner
Most women reading this are thinking that they already know how to get ready for a date, and this is a similar situation. While that’s true, you may want to read this over anyways to make sure that some little details are attended to.
When You’re In The Shower
You will want to take a shower because a bath might make you sleepy for the rest of the evening—and you don’t want that.
Before you get into the shower, make sure that you have a razor, shaving scream, face soap, and anything else that you normally need. With everything on your mind right now, you don’t want to have to keep getting out for things that you have forgotten.
Wash your body very carefully first. You can scrub with one of those poofy sponges and some bath gel for a light, clean scent. You will want to use lukewarm water so that your skin doesn’t dry out too much.
Wash your hair carefully and don’t use too much conditioner. If your hair is generally clean to begin with, you may even want to skip this step. Hair that is slightly dirty is much easier to style.
After you’ve been in the shower for a while, you’re ready to shave. Shave your legs completely and don’t forget the underarms. Of course, you can omit these steps altogether for personal preference.
Another Shaving Question
Most women want to know if they should shave their private area completely.
This is completely up to you and your comfort level. One thing to note is that if you’ve never done it before this night, it will not end well. This skin is very sensitive and you could end up with a nasty rash.
If you are planning on giving it a try, you will want to start the process out a few weeks a head of time. Start by trimming the hair down and then go ahead and use a razor, depilatory, or wax (ouch). Or you can go to a salon to have this done.
A lot of men like the ‘bare’ approach, while other men prefer a half and half layout. It’s interesting to note that the less there is, the more excited you can get. Just a thought.
Dressing It Up
Get out your best lingerie ladies. This is the time for the ‘fun’ stuff that’s been sitting in your drawer. Or maybe you want to buy something special for the occasion. A nice bra and panty set is best.
Wear a nice outfit that is revealing, but in a classy way. You may feel comfortable showing a little cleavage, but you may want to keep it subtle when you’re wearing a short skirt.
Makeup Or Not?
Since it’s going to be an exciting night, you do want to put a little makeup on to make yourself look fantastic. Like the clothes, you will want to play up your best features.
A nice dark lipstick (if it looks good on you) is best with softer makeup on the rest of the face.
You may also want to consider waterproof and smudge resistance makeup to keep the look on until you get home.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.co
Friday, January 05, 2007
Getting Into The Swing With The Blue Martini
Getting Into The Swing With The Blue Martini
by: Marjie Martini
The Blue Martini
What does it take to cross the line from a traditional monogamous marriage to a swinger relationship? Swinging is a huge thing. It seems that everyone is doing it! How did I miss this? I was introduced to this wild world of swinging on the same night that I was introduced to the wild Blue martini.
This martini is a looker that is for sure. The color will get your attention but the taste will keep you ordering more. A blend of Alize Blue, Citrus Vodka and sour mix with the sexy garnish of a maraschino cherry. Even though this martini is blue it is definably hot! The taste sensation is of passion fruit but the citrus cuts the sweetness just enough so that it is not to rich. The addition of a slight flavor of cognac makes this martini so very smooth.
Smooth is how you have to be it you are going to be a swinger. My buddy had invited me to this groovy martini party at a fantastic urban apartment. When we arrived the party was in full swing, there where hip and cool people everywhere. This apartment had an amazing view of the city and the décor was killer. The martinis where flowing, and this is where I was introduced to the Blue martini. My buddy and I where sampling this martini and where having a great conversation with this very cool couple that we had just met .They seemed to know most of the people at the party and where introducing us to everyone. I was a few martinis in when this very hip couple dropped the bomb. The guy was very smooth; he very casually asked my buddy if he would be interested in having sex with his wife. I was not sure I had heard him correctly, until he continued by saying the he thought I was hot and would love to have sex with me.
My buddy started to laugh, he very quickly explained to this guy that we where not a couple just friends. Oh! That is too bad because my wife and I love to swing, he exclaimed. It was all just matter of fact. I did not know what to do or say. I just kept sipping my martini and smiling. The hip and cool couple could tell that we were a little uncomfortable and quickly explained that they did not want us to feel uneasy and that we should take their interest in us as a complement. But, they thought we should know that most of the people that where at this party where swingers and we might get propositioned again. Great we where fresh meat, was my thought. This was going to be an interesting evening.
Later that evening my buddy and I were observing the crowd and we started to notice that couples where slowly starting to pair off. The cocktails where flowing and people where loosening up. There was a lot of nudity and swapping going on outside in the hot tub. I was in awe! I had never been to a swinger party; it was kind of cool in a twisted weird way. It was not my thing but it was interesting to observe how the couples checked each other out and picked each other up. We started discussing with our friends, how do you become a swinger? For them it just happened one night with this couple that they had been friends with for years. They had consumed a few martinis that night and ended up in the hot tub all together. After the initial shock, it had been a fun. Now they preferred to swing with couples they did not know, it was more exciting. I was amazed, what about jealously? How do you watch your partner have sex with some one else? Is this what marriage was turning into? When couples get bored instead of having an affair, they can swing instead. So is swinging technically cheating? Or is just experimentation?
Swinging has become the new sexual revolution. There are swinger parties, clubs and vacations. You can go to an entire resort and meet hundreds of other couples and swing with a different couple everyday. How crazy is that? Is this a license for marital disaster or is swinging saving marriages from divorce. The couple that we had met, thought that swinging had made their marriage stronger because they both new that they loved each other and where not insecure at all about the other person having sex with someone else. They loved that fact that they could try different partners while their partner was present. The sex with each other was always better than with a new couple but it was a great way to learn and try different techniques. But it was exciting in a nasty kind of way and that is what they liked. However, they did admit that there where a lot of couples that got into swinging and after awhile they would end up splitting up, usually because one of them fell for someone that they had been with while swinging.
As we left the party my buddy and I where still discussing the concept of swinging. It was definably not my thing I am way to jealous of a person to share. He was not into it either, it was like when were in our 20’s everyone was into threesomes and now that we where in our 30’s everyone is into swinging. But we both agreed that it seemed like a very unhealthy thing to do to your relationship. What is the point you might as well be single.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Marjie Martini
The Blue Martini
What does it take to cross the line from a traditional monogamous marriage to a swinger relationship? Swinging is a huge thing. It seems that everyone is doing it! How did I miss this? I was introduced to this wild world of swinging on the same night that I was introduced to the wild Blue martini.
This martini is a looker that is for sure. The color will get your attention but the taste will keep you ordering more. A blend of Alize Blue, Citrus Vodka and sour mix with the sexy garnish of a maraschino cherry. Even though this martini is blue it is definably hot! The taste sensation is of passion fruit but the citrus cuts the sweetness just enough so that it is not to rich. The addition of a slight flavor of cognac makes this martini so very smooth.
Smooth is how you have to be it you are going to be a swinger. My buddy had invited me to this groovy martini party at a fantastic urban apartment. When we arrived the party was in full swing, there where hip and cool people everywhere. This apartment had an amazing view of the city and the décor was killer. The martinis where flowing, and this is where I was introduced to the Blue martini. My buddy and I where sampling this martini and where having a great conversation with this very cool couple that we had just met .They seemed to know most of the people at the party and where introducing us to everyone. I was a few martinis in when this very hip couple dropped the bomb. The guy was very smooth; he very casually asked my buddy if he would be interested in having sex with his wife. I was not sure I had heard him correctly, until he continued by saying the he thought I was hot and would love to have sex with me.
My buddy started to laugh, he very quickly explained to this guy that we where not a couple just friends. Oh! That is too bad because my wife and I love to swing, he exclaimed. It was all just matter of fact. I did not know what to do or say. I just kept sipping my martini and smiling. The hip and cool couple could tell that we were a little uncomfortable and quickly explained that they did not want us to feel uneasy and that we should take their interest in us as a complement. But, they thought we should know that most of the people that where at this party where swingers and we might get propositioned again. Great we where fresh meat, was my thought. This was going to be an interesting evening.
Later that evening my buddy and I were observing the crowd and we started to notice that couples where slowly starting to pair off. The cocktails where flowing and people where loosening up. There was a lot of nudity and swapping going on outside in the hot tub. I was in awe! I had never been to a swinger party; it was kind of cool in a twisted weird way. It was not my thing but it was interesting to observe how the couples checked each other out and picked each other up. We started discussing with our friends, how do you become a swinger? For them it just happened one night with this couple that they had been friends with for years. They had consumed a few martinis that night and ended up in the hot tub all together. After the initial shock, it had been a fun. Now they preferred to swing with couples they did not know, it was more exciting. I was amazed, what about jealously? How do you watch your partner have sex with some one else? Is this what marriage was turning into? When couples get bored instead of having an affair, they can swing instead. So is swinging technically cheating? Or is just experimentation?
Swinging has become the new sexual revolution. There are swinger parties, clubs and vacations. You can go to an entire resort and meet hundreds of other couples and swing with a different couple everyday. How crazy is that? Is this a license for marital disaster or is swinging saving marriages from divorce. The couple that we had met, thought that swinging had made their marriage stronger because they both new that they loved each other and where not insecure at all about the other person having sex with someone else. They loved that fact that they could try different partners while their partner was present. The sex with each other was always better than with a new couple but it was a great way to learn and try different techniques. But it was exciting in a nasty kind of way and that is what they liked. However, they did admit that there where a lot of couples that got into swinging and after awhile they would end up splitting up, usually because one of them fell for someone that they had been with while swinging.
As we left the party my buddy and I where still discussing the concept of swinging. It was definably not my thing I am way to jealous of a person to share. He was not into it either, it was like when were in our 20’s everyone was into threesomes and now that we where in our 30’s everyone is into swinging. But we both agreed that it seemed like a very unhealthy thing to do to your relationship. What is the point you might as well be single.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Thursday, January 04, 2007
Juicy Tips for Better Sex
Juicy Tips for Better Sex
by: Leah Holden
It is no doubt that sex, plays a major part in maintaining a healthy and long lasting relationship. Many researches and surveys conducted over the years have concluded that one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling relationship is great sexual experience.
Yet, many people are having problem enjoying sex with their partners. There are many reasons for this problem. The more common ones are psychological, cultural, early childhood experience and so forth.
The good news is, for so long as the individual or couple realise that sex is the number one killer or saver to their relationship and they are willing to change, there are thousands of tips available in books, magazines, internet and sex video for better sex.
Experimenting on these better sex tips allow you to have a pleasurable experience during the sexual act. They also give you the confidence to orchestra and enjoy the sexual experience with your partner.
The internet is also turning out to be a major source where couples look for tips for better sex. I have outlined below some of the juicy tips for better sex.
The first tip is to take the initiative. Taking the initiative will break the ice between the couple and also excite the opposite partner. Always be on the look out for adding novelties to your sex life.
Sex does not need to be performed in the bedroom only. It can be done in the basement or under the stairs or just about anywhere you wish. Some examples are, in the car, on the beach. The ideal location is only limited by your own imagination.
Create a sexy mood and the right kind of environment for having sex. For example, you can pull down the colorful curtains and light candles in the bedroom. You can also go for scented candles. Playing soft music in the background would also add spice to the sexual environment that you want to create.
Having sex in the bath can prove to be a totally different experience. It sure builds up the overall excitement. In case of using the vibrator, ask your partner to user it in you instead of using the vibrator solo. Try choosing the vibrator and sex toys with your partners, this will help building up his or her anticipation.
Try out newer positions to have sex. This will again lead to more excitement and add a lot of spice in the whole sexual act. Ask your partner to do different things on you and tell him / her which things turn you on. Repeat the act if you both like it very much.
Sex is a pleasurable activity that does not have time limits. Sex ends when both the partners are completely satisfied after the act. Sex is not a duty that should be completed in a fixed period of time.
You should try different types of stimulations on your partner every time you both have sex. Try to masturbate your partner instead of letting him or her do the act on his / her own.
At the end of the day, let your imagination run wild, do whatever is necessary to arouse yours and your partner's sex drive and enjoy the experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Leah Holden
It is no doubt that sex, plays a major part in maintaining a healthy and long lasting relationship. Many researches and surveys conducted over the years have concluded that one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling relationship is great sexual experience.
Yet, many people are having problem enjoying sex with their partners. There are many reasons for this problem. The more common ones are psychological, cultural, early childhood experience and so forth.
The good news is, for so long as the individual or couple realise that sex is the number one killer or saver to their relationship and they are willing to change, there are thousands of tips available in books, magazines, internet and sex video for better sex.
Experimenting on these better sex tips allow you to have a pleasurable experience during the sexual act. They also give you the confidence to orchestra and enjoy the sexual experience with your partner.
The internet is also turning out to be a major source where couples look for tips for better sex. I have outlined below some of the juicy tips for better sex.
The first tip is to take the initiative. Taking the initiative will break the ice between the couple and also excite the opposite partner. Always be on the look out for adding novelties to your sex life.
Sex does not need to be performed in the bedroom only. It can be done in the basement or under the stairs or just about anywhere you wish. Some examples are, in the car, on the beach. The ideal location is only limited by your own imagination.
Create a sexy mood and the right kind of environment for having sex. For example, you can pull down the colorful curtains and light candles in the bedroom. You can also go for scented candles. Playing soft music in the background would also add spice to the sexual environment that you want to create.
Having sex in the bath can prove to be a totally different experience. It sure builds up the overall excitement. In case of using the vibrator, ask your partner to user it in you instead of using the vibrator solo. Try choosing the vibrator and sex toys with your partners, this will help building up his or her anticipation.
Try out newer positions to have sex. This will again lead to more excitement and add a lot of spice in the whole sexual act. Ask your partner to do different things on you and tell him / her which things turn you on. Repeat the act if you both like it very much.
Sex is a pleasurable activity that does not have time limits. Sex ends when both the partners are completely satisfied after the act. Sex is not a duty that should be completed in a fixed period of time.
You should try different types of stimulations on your partner every time you both have sex. Try to masturbate your partner instead of letting him or her do the act on his / her own.
At the end of the day, let your imagination run wild, do whatever is necessary to arouse yours and your partner's sex drive and enjoy the experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Wednesday, January 03, 2007
Rules of Play: What to Know Before You Begin
Rules of Play: What to Know Before You Begin
by: Julia Tanner
Although swinging is a great way to branch out from your ordinary experience, there are some things that you want to keep in mind to keep everyone happy and safe.
NO means NO
If you are in a swinging experience and another person decides that they don’t want to participate or changes their mind about something that they are doing, you must listen to them. This is not a game of pushing limits, so if someone is uncomfortable, then you must be ready to stop. They might not be ready for something just yet. Maybe they will be later.
Respect
Being in a sexual experience or situation with someone else can be an exhilarating experience, but only if you feel like you are being treated with respect. You don’t want anyone being rude or judgmental to you, do you? On the same note, if the couples in the situation have set certain rules of play, then you need to honor them.
Rejection
If you are rejected, then try not to take it personally. Being in this open and honest environment is extremely satisfying, but also very honest. If someone is not interested, then move on. It’s nothing personal.
Jealousy
If you or your partner experiences any feelings of jealousy, then you want to talk about them right away. Find out what made you jealous and try to compromise on a way to solve the issue. Don’t keep quiet about it, it can make it even worse.
Common sense
If you feel uncomfortable with a person, then remove yourself from the situation. Even if your partner is happy, trust yourself and your feelings to guide you to safe and happy swinging experiences. Watch another person’s body language. If they look uncomfortable, stop what you are doing or saying. If they seem to be responding to you, then you’re in a good groove.
Privacy matters
The life of swinging involves a certain amount of discretion for everyone involved. Since not everyone is as open as you, you will need to feel as though whatever goes on in the swinging situation will stay between the persons involved. Activities are not shared with ANYONE else, only with each other.
Honoring your partner
Make sure that your partner realizes that they are the most important part of the swinging experience. Don’t just arrive at the club or other location and dash off with someone else. Take the time to touch and be affectionate with your partner before going onto anything else. Show them that they are the number one in your life. Find a way to show each other that you’re thinking of them. Some couples like to reserve certain acts for each other alone. And leaving together at the end of the fun also shows your commitment to each other.
Taking the time to set up rules before starting to swing will help you avoid any problems in the future. Research everything and make sure to communicate with your partner. And have fun!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
Although swinging is a great way to branch out from your ordinary experience, there are some things that you want to keep in mind to keep everyone happy and safe.
NO means NO
If you are in a swinging experience and another person decides that they don’t want to participate or changes their mind about something that they are doing, you must listen to them. This is not a game of pushing limits, so if someone is uncomfortable, then you must be ready to stop. They might not be ready for something just yet. Maybe they will be later.
Respect
Being in a sexual experience or situation with someone else can be an exhilarating experience, but only if you feel like you are being treated with respect. You don’t want anyone being rude or judgmental to you, do you? On the same note, if the couples in the situation have set certain rules of play, then you need to honor them.
Rejection
If you are rejected, then try not to take it personally. Being in this open and honest environment is extremely satisfying, but also very honest. If someone is not interested, then move on. It’s nothing personal.
Jealousy
If you or your partner experiences any feelings of jealousy, then you want to talk about them right away. Find out what made you jealous and try to compromise on a way to solve the issue. Don’t keep quiet about it, it can make it even worse.
Common sense
If you feel uncomfortable with a person, then remove yourself from the situation. Even if your partner is happy, trust yourself and your feelings to guide you to safe and happy swinging experiences. Watch another person’s body language. If they look uncomfortable, stop what you are doing or saying. If they seem to be responding to you, then you’re in a good groove.
Privacy matters
The life of swinging involves a certain amount of discretion for everyone involved. Since not everyone is as open as you, you will need to feel as though whatever goes on in the swinging situation will stay between the persons involved. Activities are not shared with ANYONE else, only with each other.
Honoring your partner
Make sure that your partner realizes that they are the most important part of the swinging experience. Don’t just arrive at the club or other location and dash off with someone else. Take the time to touch and be affectionate with your partner before going onto anything else. Show them that they are the number one in your life. Find a way to show each other that you’re thinking of them. Some couples like to reserve certain acts for each other alone. And leaving together at the end of the fun also shows your commitment to each other.
Taking the time to set up rules before starting to swing will help you avoid any problems in the future. Research everything and make sure to communicate with your partner. And have fun!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Tuesday, January 02, 2007
Adult Personals – Fulfilling Your Fantasies Through Adult Dating Websites
Adult Personals – Fulfilling Your Fantasies Through Adult Dating Websites
by: James Hall
People are talking about adult personals. There's no doubt about it. As regular dating sites are seen as too tame to meet their adventurous needs people are posting adult personals through adult dating websites. Every day thousands of people seeking alternative lifestyles write uncensored adult personals ads. Adult dating websites offers an enticing adult dating community where you are free to share and explore your wildest fantasies.
Imagine browsing through adult photo galleries of handsome men and beautiful women of every size and shape – just waiting to respond to your adult personals. There are many adult dating websites that have 100% free trials with no credit card or payment required to register.
In fact, adult personals are extremely steamy and attention grabbing. Upon entering an adult dating website you will find all types of adult personals. The website designs' are user-friendly so that you can find your preferences whether its swingers personals, married personals, interracial personals, gay personals or BBW personals.
The opportunities offered by adult dating websites includes video chat rooms with sizzling video clips or watch 24hr live webcams of attractive people whose attire leaves little to the imagination. Plus, you can play interactive games or find out about the hottest adult parties and events in your area.
Some of the top adult dating websites are Yahoo adult personals and Adult Friend Finder personals. In the exciting world of adult personals, people are often looking for discreet local relationships.
But before you jump into the world of adult personals or brave the gates of any adult dating website, you should have a healthy self-image and a sense of self-liberation. What's more, the adult dating sites contain mature material, pictures and contents for individuals seeking alternative encounters.
Like happiness, prosperity, love and fulfillment, we all seek to achieve our outmost desires. Adult personals and adult dating website have found a niche by creating an environment where every desire can achieve satisfaction. With so much to gain, it's worth at least a free look, isn't it? You bet it is!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: James Hall
People are talking about adult personals. There's no doubt about it. As regular dating sites are seen as too tame to meet their adventurous needs people are posting adult personals through adult dating websites. Every day thousands of people seeking alternative lifestyles write uncensored adult personals ads. Adult dating websites offers an enticing adult dating community where you are free to share and explore your wildest fantasies.
Imagine browsing through adult photo galleries of handsome men and beautiful women of every size and shape – just waiting to respond to your adult personals. There are many adult dating websites that have 100% free trials with no credit card or payment required to register.
In fact, adult personals are extremely steamy and attention grabbing. Upon entering an adult dating website you will find all types of adult personals. The website designs' are user-friendly so that you can find your preferences whether its swingers personals, married personals, interracial personals, gay personals or BBW personals.
The opportunities offered by adult dating websites includes video chat rooms with sizzling video clips or watch 24hr live webcams of attractive people whose attire leaves little to the imagination. Plus, you can play interactive games or find out about the hottest adult parties and events in your area.
Some of the top adult dating websites are Yahoo adult personals and Adult Friend Finder personals. In the exciting world of adult personals, people are often looking for discreet local relationships.
But before you jump into the world of adult personals or brave the gates of any adult dating website, you should have a healthy self-image and a sense of self-liberation. What's more, the adult dating sites contain mature material, pictures and contents for individuals seeking alternative encounters.
Like happiness, prosperity, love and fulfillment, we all seek to achieve our outmost desires. Adult personals and adult dating website have found a niche by creating an environment where every desire can achieve satisfaction. With so much to gain, it's worth at least a free look, isn't it? You bet it is!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
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