Lines You Shouldn’t Cross
by: Julia Tanner
A person who is just looking over swinging as a fun way to have more sex doesn’t understand the true meaning of this lifestyle.
Swinging is a way to explore your sexual fantasies and boundaries with the blessing and support of your partner. And by enjoying each other in this way, you enable better communication and deeper trust of your relationship.
But there are always ways to get your self into trouble.
There Are No Little White Lies
When it comes to a swinging relationship, there is no such thing as a little white lie. Each and every lie that you tell will become an issue. There needs to be a perfect atmosphere of trust and truthfulness in order to feel comfortable with each other.
And in any sort of future for the relationship among the group of couples.
This is really why the recommendation is that only strong couples get into swinging. The stronger the couple is, the more likely that good communication lines are already in place.
To think of it another way, you need to be sure that you can trust the other couple as well. At the very least your privacy may be compromised. At the most, you can be emotionally hurt.
Crossing Over Boundaries
Swinging can be a great tool to overcome any sexual anxieties that you might have, but there are limits to this journey.
For one, you can not assume that just because you want something to happen during a particular sexual excursion that the other person does as well.
Of course, talking about these boundaries ahead of time will help.
But you also want to stick to what you’re promised to do. Just because you think that you may be ‘helping’ someone overcome something does not mean that they are necessarily ready.
When someone tells you to stop or that they are uncomfortable, you need to stop IMMEDIATELY.
You will destroy a perfectly good relationship in a moment of weakness.
Keeping Quiet
On the other hand, the other person will not know about your boundaries unless you tell them ahead of time.
This is no time to be shy with another couple or with your own partner. Be clear and up front about the relationship that you are trying to pursue.
You may want to set up a specific time for everyone to meet up in a non-sexual environment. This is a great way to continuously have the lines of communication open for anything that may not be easy to talk about in a certain mood or setting.
Find a neutral place that is semi-private and give everyone a chance to talk. If there are problems, then address them at that point or discuss them and set up another time to figure out solutions.
When you don’t say anything, you are setting yourself up for problems.
Issues like jealously and anger can rear their ugly heads quite quickly when there is silence. But a little talking can do a world of good and keep everyone feeling good about themselves and their sexual power.
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Saturday, December 30, 2006
Friday, December 29, 2006
The Male G-Spot A Golden Nugget
The Male G-Spot A Golden Nugget
by: Terrance Lile (Uncle Terry)
In an episode of the animated sitcom Family Guy, Peter has a checkup by Doctor Hartman and receives a prostate exam. The exam was not what he expected and he thought that he was being raped. The episode was hilarious to some, disgusting to others and yet to others it pointed out the importance of prostate health. For many men their only experience with their own prostate has been this exam. In truth, the discovery of this hidden golden nugget often referred to as the “Male G-Spot,” is highly rewarding and stimulating once a man can get over his hang-up of being touched in that area.
For centuries the elusive female G-spot has made its way into our sex lives. For most couples, the man has always put attention on the woman’s erogenous zone, hoping to strike gold at some point during the act. Of course this makes most partners weak in the knees, if the infamous spot is found. As a result, the woman is pleased until orgasm and wants to return the favor. Ironically, the majority of men flinch, perhaps thinking about a prostate exam or tar instead of mining for gold at the mention of their own G-spot being stimulated. Unless the man is willing to charter unknown territory, the butt area is usually off limits.
For most men, the prostate gland, also known as the male’s G-spot, is often a touchy subject. For many men, even touching near the anus may make them question their sexual orientation. Anal sex is neither a gay nor straight activity, it is a stimulating sexual activity that can be enjoyed by all. At Ask Uncle Terry men will email us about their hang-ups with anal sex. Many of these men find the idea of it scary or even repulsive. However, we also hear from men that had their prostate stimulated for the first time and many report that they experienced an intensified orgasm like never before. Once it is tried, chances are the man will look forward with great anticipation to the next visit. Best of all a stimulated prostate is a healthier prostate.
For women who do not know where the g-spot is located, the prostate gland is a small gland located between the testicles and the anus. It is actually within the perineum, which means that when you rub this gland, it will make men moan with excitement. When inserting a finger or a sex toy into the anus, this gland can be stimulated until orgasm is reached. Although orgasm can be reached in dozens of different ways, this kind of stimulation is much more intense and overwhelming.
If you build up the courage to try this new sexcapade, or your partner is willing to dive right in, be sure to use an ample amount of water-based lubricant. For long nails, cleanliness, or if you are not in a monogamous relationship, or there is any question as to STDs or HIV a glove or condom should first be placed over the fingers. Once you are ready, your partner should cover their finger in the lubricant and slowly insert it into your anus. The prostate is about two inches upward and forward. If the man is a little squeamish the finger does not have to be fully inserted. The area around the opening of the anus is full of nerve endings and provides stimulating sensation on its own. Although the sensation may feel strange, it will become more intense as your partner starts to feel around.
In order to increase your desire and anticipation, your partner should very slowly insert their finger or toy allowing the sphincter muscle to relax. This will not only avoid discomfort, it will also allow you to enjoy the moment. Once that golden nugget “G-spot” is located, you will be shocked to realize what you have been missing out on all of these years! It is often an incredible feeling, far more intense than any other sexual position.
If you are still wary of even asking your partner to act so kinky, you can have them just rub the outside of your anus. Even by touching it lightly, your nerve endings are still stimulated. For men, their genitals and the overall region are extremely sensitive, thus resulting in mind boggling convulsions that could last for minutes.
Regardless of how embarrassed or nervous you are, it is actually exciting to go outside of the box and try something new. Far too often men are too worried about being laughed at to try something so kinky and taboo in today’s society. However, if you have an open-minded partner and stop caring about other people’s perceptions, you can easily enjoy the secret side of sex. Check out http://AskUncleTerry.com for more information on prostate health, sexuality, foreplay and both the male and female G-spot.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Terrance Lile (Uncle Terry)
In an episode of the animated sitcom Family Guy, Peter has a checkup by Doctor Hartman and receives a prostate exam. The exam was not what he expected and he thought that he was being raped. The episode was hilarious to some, disgusting to others and yet to others it pointed out the importance of prostate health. For many men their only experience with their own prostate has been this exam. In truth, the discovery of this hidden golden nugget often referred to as the “Male G-Spot,” is highly rewarding and stimulating once a man can get over his hang-up of being touched in that area.
For centuries the elusive female G-spot has made its way into our sex lives. For most couples, the man has always put attention on the woman’s erogenous zone, hoping to strike gold at some point during the act. Of course this makes most partners weak in the knees, if the infamous spot is found. As a result, the woman is pleased until orgasm and wants to return the favor. Ironically, the majority of men flinch, perhaps thinking about a prostate exam or tar instead of mining for gold at the mention of their own G-spot being stimulated. Unless the man is willing to charter unknown territory, the butt area is usually off limits.
For most men, the prostate gland, also known as the male’s G-spot, is often a touchy subject. For many men, even touching near the anus may make them question their sexual orientation. Anal sex is neither a gay nor straight activity, it is a stimulating sexual activity that can be enjoyed by all. At Ask Uncle Terry men will email us about their hang-ups with anal sex. Many of these men find the idea of it scary or even repulsive. However, we also hear from men that had their prostate stimulated for the first time and many report that they experienced an intensified orgasm like never before. Once it is tried, chances are the man will look forward with great anticipation to the next visit. Best of all a stimulated prostate is a healthier prostate.
For women who do not know where the g-spot is located, the prostate gland is a small gland located between the testicles and the anus. It is actually within the perineum, which means that when you rub this gland, it will make men moan with excitement. When inserting a finger or a sex toy into the anus, this gland can be stimulated until orgasm is reached. Although orgasm can be reached in dozens of different ways, this kind of stimulation is much more intense and overwhelming.
If you build up the courage to try this new sexcapade, or your partner is willing to dive right in, be sure to use an ample amount of water-based lubricant. For long nails, cleanliness, or if you are not in a monogamous relationship, or there is any question as to STDs or HIV a glove or condom should first be placed over the fingers. Once you are ready, your partner should cover their finger in the lubricant and slowly insert it into your anus. The prostate is about two inches upward and forward. If the man is a little squeamish the finger does not have to be fully inserted. The area around the opening of the anus is full of nerve endings and provides stimulating sensation on its own. Although the sensation may feel strange, it will become more intense as your partner starts to feel around.
In order to increase your desire and anticipation, your partner should very slowly insert their finger or toy allowing the sphincter muscle to relax. This will not only avoid discomfort, it will also allow you to enjoy the moment. Once that golden nugget “G-spot” is located, you will be shocked to realize what you have been missing out on all of these years! It is often an incredible feeling, far more intense than any other sexual position.
If you are still wary of even asking your partner to act so kinky, you can have them just rub the outside of your anus. Even by touching it lightly, your nerve endings are still stimulated. For men, their genitals and the overall region are extremely sensitive, thus resulting in mind boggling convulsions that could last for minutes.
Regardless of how embarrassed or nervous you are, it is actually exciting to go outside of the box and try something new. Far too often men are too worried about being laughed at to try something so kinky and taboo in today’s society. However, if you have an open-minded partner and stop caring about other people’s perceptions, you can easily enjoy the secret side of sex. Check out http://AskUncleTerry.com for more information on prostate health, sexuality, foreplay and both the male and female G-spot.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Thursday, December 28, 2006
Adult Personals – Fulfilling Your Fantasies
Adult Personals – Fulfilling Your Fantasies Through Adult Dating Websites
by: James Hall
People are talking about adult personals. There's no doubt about it. As regular dating sites are seen as too tame to meet their adventurous needs people are posting adult personals through adult dating websites. Every day thousands of people seeking alternative lifestyles write uncensored adult personals ads. Adult dating websites offers an enticing adult dating community where you are free to share and explore your wildest fantasies.
Imagine browsing through adult photo galleries of handsome men and beautiful women of every size and shape – just waiting to respond to your adult personals. There are many adult dating websites that have 100% free trials with no credit card or payment required to register.
In fact, adult personals are extremely steamy and attention grabbing. Upon entering an adult dating website you will find all types of adult personals. The website designs' are user-friendly so that you can find your preferences whether its swingers personals, married personals, interracial personals, gay personals or BBW personals.
The opportunities offered by adult dating websites includes video chat rooms with sizzling video clips or watch 24hr live webcams of attractive people whose attire leaves little to the imagination. Plus, you can play interactive games or find out about the hottest adult parties and events in your area.
Some of the top adult dating websites are Yahoo adult personals and Adult Friend Finder personals. In the exciting world of adult personals, people are often looking for discreet local relationships.
But before you jump into the world of adult personals or brave the gates of any adult dating website, you should have a healthy self-image and a sense of self-liberation. What's more, the adult dating sites contain mature material, pictures and contents for individuals seeking alternative encounters.
Like happiness, prosperity, love and fulfillment, we all seek to achieve our outmost desires. Adult personals and adult dating website have found a niche by creating an environment where every desire can achieve satisfaction. With so much to gain, it's worth at least a free look, isn't it? You bet it is!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: James Hall
People are talking about adult personals. There's no doubt about it. As regular dating sites are seen as too tame to meet their adventurous needs people are posting adult personals through adult dating websites. Every day thousands of people seeking alternative lifestyles write uncensored adult personals ads. Adult dating websites offers an enticing adult dating community where you are free to share and explore your wildest fantasies.
Imagine browsing through adult photo galleries of handsome men and beautiful women of every size and shape – just waiting to respond to your adult personals. There are many adult dating websites that have 100% free trials with no credit card or payment required to register.
In fact, adult personals are extremely steamy and attention grabbing. Upon entering an adult dating website you will find all types of adult personals. The website designs' are user-friendly so that you can find your preferences whether its swingers personals, married personals, interracial personals, gay personals or BBW personals.
The opportunities offered by adult dating websites includes video chat rooms with sizzling video clips or watch 24hr live webcams of attractive people whose attire leaves little to the imagination. Plus, you can play interactive games or find out about the hottest adult parties and events in your area.
Some of the top adult dating websites are Yahoo adult personals and Adult Friend Finder personals. In the exciting world of adult personals, people are often looking for discreet local relationships.
But before you jump into the world of adult personals or brave the gates of any adult dating website, you should have a healthy self-image and a sense of self-liberation. What's more, the adult dating sites contain mature material, pictures and contents for individuals seeking alternative encounters.
Like happiness, prosperity, love and fulfillment, we all seek to achieve our outmost desires. Adult personals and adult dating website have found a niche by creating an environment where every desire can achieve satisfaction. With so much to gain, it's worth at least a free look, isn't it? You bet it is!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
Is Swinging Just for Couples?
Is Swinging Just for Couples?
by: Julia Tanner
When most people think of swinging for adults, they think of two couples getting together for a series of sexual adventures. And in many cases, this is true, but if you’re single, don’t feel left out. You can jump in as well. And there are plenty of single guys and gals who have gotten to fulfill their fantasies with a couple that was looking for a single to add to the mix.
There are no rules as to numbers in swinging. Some like threesomes, and others like more. How much can you handle?
Why you might have trouble
A lot of men in particular are looking to fulfill their fantasy of a threesome with two attractive women. And they can do so, but it’s something that doesn’t happen all of the time. The biggest problem with this scenario is that many of the men take it for granted that the women are just nymphomaniacs that want to be pleasured and not treated well. That’s a great way to never have the opportunity again.
This isn’t just about your fantasy; this is about respecting the couple’s wishes as well. Being polite and up front about what you want from this swinging experience will help to gauge if you have met the right folks to have a good time with.
The bisexuality question
A lot of singles are concerned that they have to be a bisexual in order to get into swinging. It’s an interesting question. And it’s one that really doesn’t have a clear answer because you don’t have to be anything but open-minded. Many swingers are just curious and want to try out something new or watch their partner try out a fantasy. That said, it’s also fairly reasonable to state how you feel up front so that there’s no confusion as to who is with who.
So, you don’t have to be bisexual, but being open beforehand and during the swinging experience might show you things that you may never have considered. Many women find that they are more open to being with another woman, than men are with other men.
Where singles can go
Look in personal ads or online for couples that are looking for a single. It’s really that easy. Go to your local swinger club or to the nearest adult video store for swinger publications. The online swinging dating revolution has created a safe way to meet up with others. You don’t have to reveal anything personal until you find the perfect couple, so you can carefully screen all of the potential play mates. Keep your eyes open and you’ll be able to find someone to help you with your swinger fantasy.
In the meantime, think about why you aren’t actively in a relationship. If you’re just looking for sex, swinging can do that, but it won’t be anything meaningful for you. And it’s rather selfish to only think of your self when the other people involved are hoping for a memorable experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
When most people think of swinging for adults, they think of two couples getting together for a series of sexual adventures. And in many cases, this is true, but if you’re single, don’t feel left out. You can jump in as well. And there are plenty of single guys and gals who have gotten to fulfill their fantasies with a couple that was looking for a single to add to the mix.
There are no rules as to numbers in swinging. Some like threesomes, and others like more. How much can you handle?
Why you might have trouble
A lot of men in particular are looking to fulfill their fantasy of a threesome with two attractive women. And they can do so, but it’s something that doesn’t happen all of the time. The biggest problem with this scenario is that many of the men take it for granted that the women are just nymphomaniacs that want to be pleasured and not treated well. That’s a great way to never have the opportunity again.
This isn’t just about your fantasy; this is about respecting the couple’s wishes as well. Being polite and up front about what you want from this swinging experience will help to gauge if you have met the right folks to have a good time with.
The bisexuality question
A lot of singles are concerned that they have to be a bisexual in order to get into swinging. It’s an interesting question. And it’s one that really doesn’t have a clear answer because you don’t have to be anything but open-minded. Many swingers are just curious and want to try out something new or watch their partner try out a fantasy. That said, it’s also fairly reasonable to state how you feel up front so that there’s no confusion as to who is with who.
So, you don’t have to be bisexual, but being open beforehand and during the swinging experience might show you things that you may never have considered. Many women find that they are more open to being with another woman, than men are with other men.
Where singles can go
Look in personal ads or online for couples that are looking for a single. It’s really that easy. Go to your local swinger club or to the nearest adult video store for swinger publications. The online swinging dating revolution has created a safe way to meet up with others. You don’t have to reveal anything personal until you find the perfect couple, so you can carefully screen all of the potential play mates. Keep your eyes open and you’ll be able to find someone to help you with your swinger fantasy.
In the meantime, think about why you aren’t actively in a relationship. If you’re just looking for sex, swinging can do that, but it won’t be anything meaningful for you. And it’s rather selfish to only think of your self when the other people involved are hoping for a memorable experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
Dealing with Jealousy When Swinging
Dealing with Jealousy When Swinging
by: Julia Tanner
When you first start out in swinging, then you may find that you become jealous of your partner during or after the experience. Is this normal to feel like this? Or to not feel jealous at all?
If you’ve taken your time to discuss your swinging desires, then you may never have to deal with this. But it’s best you know a little either way.
Talking it out
The easiest rule to jealousy in swinging is to talk about it. As soon as you begin to feel the jealousy, you want to sit down with your partner and talk about what concerns you. Many times, one person in the relationship feels jealous because the other ‘did more’ than they did. And it’s not a competition, but you might feel that your partner and whomever they were swinging with suddenly have a deeper connection.
A lot of times, jealousy also happens because the relationship was shaky to begin with. If you and your partner are having a lot of fights, or just aren’t communicating well, then you have to be careful. If you have a moment of feeling jealous, sit down with your partner and discuss EXACTLY what made you uncomfortable. Maybe it will just take changing your personal rules for each other to help with the feelings of jealousy.
Some couple save kissing for just each other and won’t allow it between their partner and someone else. This is just one of many ideas to show commitment to each other. But when you stop to think about it, you and your partner are always leaving to go home with each other, even after a wild and exciting sexual experience with someone else. Some couples find that they become even more confident in their relationship.
Of course, it should go without saying that agreeing completely into trying swinging is a prerequisite to swinging. If one partner wasn’t too keen in the first place, then you may find that accusations and jealousy pop up a lot more.
Talk the possibility of this out before you even start swinging.
Why you might not feel jealous
Swinging is just so amazing that you may not even feel jealous. And that’s okay too. Some experienced swingers feel that their relationship is enhanced by the swinging extras. Knowing that they can share something sexual with another person or another couple can lead to greater intimacy and communication in other areas as well.
So a lot of couples just don’t feel jealous. It’s actually quite erotic to watch your partner be pleased by someone else or pleasure someone other than yourself. Trust me.
You may also have such a strong relationship already that swinging is just another adventure that you’re going on. And there’s not a smidge of jealousy because you both wanted to try swinging out anyways.
Swinging is an eye-opening (amongst other things) experience that can show you the strengths as well as the flaws in your current relationship. In most cases, however, swinging is a positive experience that will enrich a relationship as well as your sexual experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
When you first start out in swinging, then you may find that you become jealous of your partner during or after the experience. Is this normal to feel like this? Or to not feel jealous at all?
If you’ve taken your time to discuss your swinging desires, then you may never have to deal with this. But it’s best you know a little either way.
Talking it out
The easiest rule to jealousy in swinging is to talk about it. As soon as you begin to feel the jealousy, you want to sit down with your partner and talk about what concerns you. Many times, one person in the relationship feels jealous because the other ‘did more’ than they did. And it’s not a competition, but you might feel that your partner and whomever they were swinging with suddenly have a deeper connection.
A lot of times, jealousy also happens because the relationship was shaky to begin with. If you and your partner are having a lot of fights, or just aren’t communicating well, then you have to be careful. If you have a moment of feeling jealous, sit down with your partner and discuss EXACTLY what made you uncomfortable. Maybe it will just take changing your personal rules for each other to help with the feelings of jealousy.
Some couple save kissing for just each other and won’t allow it between their partner and someone else. This is just one of many ideas to show commitment to each other. But when you stop to think about it, you and your partner are always leaving to go home with each other, even after a wild and exciting sexual experience with someone else. Some couples find that they become even more confident in their relationship.
Of course, it should go without saying that agreeing completely into trying swinging is a prerequisite to swinging. If one partner wasn’t too keen in the first place, then you may find that accusations and jealousy pop up a lot more.
Talk the possibility of this out before you even start swinging.
Why you might not feel jealous
Swinging is just so amazing that you may not even feel jealous. And that’s okay too. Some experienced swingers feel that their relationship is enhanced by the swinging extras. Knowing that they can share something sexual with another person or another couple can lead to greater intimacy and communication in other areas as well.
So a lot of couples just don’t feel jealous. It’s actually quite erotic to watch your partner be pleased by someone else or pleasure someone other than yourself. Trust me.
You may also have such a strong relationship already that swinging is just another adventure that you’re going on. And there’s not a smidge of jealousy because you both wanted to try swinging out anyways.
Swinging is an eye-opening (amongst other things) experience that can show you the strengths as well as the flaws in your current relationship. In most cases, however, swinging is a positive experience that will enrich a relationship as well as your sexual experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Saturday, December 23, 2006
Can a Marriage Become Stronger by Swinging?
Can a Marriage Become Stronger by Swinging?
by: Julia Tanner
While divorce rates rise and marriage fall apart on a daily basis, an outside observer of swinging might think that it helps to cause marriage crises. This is certainly not the case. Swinging, through numerous individual interviews and case studies, has been shown to help strong marriages become even stronger.
Strength in numbers?
When you talk to an experienced swinger, you will find that they didn’t want to try swinging for the sex, but for the experience. Their marriages may have been plenty strong going into the whole adventure, but one or both of the partners just wanted a little something different and new. They didn’t love each other any less, but rather, they wanted to add another dimension to their relationship. And by making the decision together, they created a way to communicate with each other more openly and honestly, leading to overall better communication skills (outside sexual matters).
Why swinging isn’t cheating
One of the main concerns that couples struggle with is their mindset of thinking that swinging is cheating on their partner in some way. And this can be a deterrent for a while to act upon this fantasy. What makes swinging different from cheating is that the two of you have decided to share this experience together. There’s nothing secretive about being with this other person. You know exactly what your partner is doing and you’ve talked about why. You’re hoping to share this new adventure with your partner—together. And this is why being open will make swinging even better for the both of you.
Saving a weak marriage
A counselor is the best way to save a weak marriage, not swinging. If you are having insecurities about your relationship, or just aren’t communicating as well, swinging is not a good fix. Swinging is best experienced by a couple that us able to talk to each other and share with each other. And if problems should come up in the swinging process, then the couple must be able to work through them. And weak marriages are usually a sign of not being able to talk through certain issues.
Don’t complicate your relationship more. Work things out with each other before you add swinging to the already volatile mix. Swinging can provide just the ‘kick’ that your strong marriage needs, but it will not solve problems that are already present. If you’re able to work through issues as a couple and just want to experience more in the area of sex and fantasy, then swinging could be the answer to your dreams.
And there are plenty of places to research swinging. Bookstores so carry books on swinging and your local sex shops can direct you to local connections. Online swinging dating sites and other information sites can also answer any questions that you might have.
Start the open and frank discussions now to enjoy swinging in every way that you can. Doing the research together may also lead to some fun on your own.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
While divorce rates rise and marriage fall apart on a daily basis, an outside observer of swinging might think that it helps to cause marriage crises. This is certainly not the case. Swinging, through numerous individual interviews and case studies, has been shown to help strong marriages become even stronger.
Strength in numbers?
When you talk to an experienced swinger, you will find that they didn’t want to try swinging for the sex, but for the experience. Their marriages may have been plenty strong going into the whole adventure, but one or both of the partners just wanted a little something different and new. They didn’t love each other any less, but rather, they wanted to add another dimension to their relationship. And by making the decision together, they created a way to communicate with each other more openly and honestly, leading to overall better communication skills (outside sexual matters).
Why swinging isn’t cheating
One of the main concerns that couples struggle with is their mindset of thinking that swinging is cheating on their partner in some way. And this can be a deterrent for a while to act upon this fantasy. What makes swinging different from cheating is that the two of you have decided to share this experience together. There’s nothing secretive about being with this other person. You know exactly what your partner is doing and you’ve talked about why. You’re hoping to share this new adventure with your partner—together. And this is why being open will make swinging even better for the both of you.
Saving a weak marriage
A counselor is the best way to save a weak marriage, not swinging. If you are having insecurities about your relationship, or just aren’t communicating as well, swinging is not a good fix. Swinging is best experienced by a couple that us able to talk to each other and share with each other. And if problems should come up in the swinging process, then the couple must be able to work through them. And weak marriages are usually a sign of not being able to talk through certain issues.
Don’t complicate your relationship more. Work things out with each other before you add swinging to the already volatile mix. Swinging can provide just the ‘kick’ that your strong marriage needs, but it will not solve problems that are already present. If you’re able to work through issues as a couple and just want to experience more in the area of sex and fantasy, then swinging could be the answer to your dreams.
And there are plenty of places to research swinging. Bookstores so carry books on swinging and your local sex shops can direct you to local connections. Online swinging dating sites and other information sites can also answer any questions that you might have.
Start the open and frank discussions now to enjoy swinging in every way that you can. Doing the research together may also lead to some fun on your own.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Friday, December 22, 2006
Soft Swinging Basics
Soft Swinging Basics
by: Julia Tanner
If you think that you’re aroused by the mere idea of swinging, just wait until you jump in. Reading doesn’t do swinging justice at all—only feeling and touching make for truly believing.
As you probably already know, soft swinging is the first attempt at swinging for many couples and interested folks. Heck, you may have already tried soft swinging without even realizing it.
You had a few too many drinks, got a little friendly with someone’s husband. And you knew darn well that it wasn’t about love or being unfaithful to your partner, it was about animal lust.
Maybe he smelled just right or she was wearing something that displayed her best assets…
If It Should Happen Spontaneously
The lights are low. Maybe you’re at a party with your partner and you’ve become separated for a moment. You’re still fully aware of where the other is, but you just let a moment take you. You’ve probably already talked about the possibility at this point.
So go on. Let’s see where the sexual tension might lead.
A little touch here, a stroke there. It can even be as simple as a long, slow kiss. You close your eyes and disappear in the moment.
And what if you catch your husband or partner out of the corner of your eye?
It’s incredibly erotic to see your partner with someone else, even if it’s ‘innocent’ to begin with. Just to see hands that have touched you running down someone else’s skin can be a turn on by itself.
Watching can be the perfect way to begin in soft swinging. It’s a great way to seduce your self into getting into the action.
Perhaps you just needed a little ‘motivation’ to get started.
And What If You Plan It Out?
Of course, you may have already decided that ‘something’ might be happening on a particular evening. You’ve sat and talked for a while, when the conversation turns to sex.
But planning doesn’t make it any less hot or exciting.
Maybe it starts with just a massage of the shoulders or a move into another’s personal space.
Now is your chance to go for it. Don’t be shy; you know that the other one wants it.
You can go back to your high school days and just make out, or you can take it further with blatant groping and stroking. Explore this new person, what do they feel like? What makes them different from your partner?
But keep it cool right now because you’re just starting, just teasing really at this point. You want to keep everyone excited and anxious for the next time.
Your hearts are racing and your minds are anxious for the next time.
But go slow. Wanting more from the swinging experience is a good thing and you want to make sure that you’re completely comfortable before moving up the action.
And the best part of slow swinging is that you get to go home with a partner that is just ready to finish off anything that has already been started.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
If you think that you’re aroused by the mere idea of swinging, just wait until you jump in. Reading doesn’t do swinging justice at all—only feeling and touching make for truly believing.
As you probably already know, soft swinging is the first attempt at swinging for many couples and interested folks. Heck, you may have already tried soft swinging without even realizing it.
You had a few too many drinks, got a little friendly with someone’s husband. And you knew darn well that it wasn’t about love or being unfaithful to your partner, it was about animal lust.
Maybe he smelled just right or she was wearing something that displayed her best assets…
If It Should Happen Spontaneously
The lights are low. Maybe you’re at a party with your partner and you’ve become separated for a moment. You’re still fully aware of where the other is, but you just let a moment take you. You’ve probably already talked about the possibility at this point.
So go on. Let’s see where the sexual tension might lead.
A little touch here, a stroke there. It can even be as simple as a long, slow kiss. You close your eyes and disappear in the moment.
And what if you catch your husband or partner out of the corner of your eye?
It’s incredibly erotic to see your partner with someone else, even if it’s ‘innocent’ to begin with. Just to see hands that have touched you running down someone else’s skin can be a turn on by itself.
Watching can be the perfect way to begin in soft swinging. It’s a great way to seduce your self into getting into the action.
Perhaps you just needed a little ‘motivation’ to get started.
And What If You Plan It Out?
Of course, you may have already decided that ‘something’ might be happening on a particular evening. You’ve sat and talked for a while, when the conversation turns to sex.
But planning doesn’t make it any less hot or exciting.
Maybe it starts with just a massage of the shoulders or a move into another’s personal space.
Now is your chance to go for it. Don’t be shy; you know that the other one wants it.
You can go back to your high school days and just make out, or you can take it further with blatant groping and stroking. Explore this new person, what do they feel like? What makes them different from your partner?
But keep it cool right now because you’re just starting, just teasing really at this point. You want to keep everyone excited and anxious for the next time.
Your hearts are racing and your minds are anxious for the next time.
But go slow. Wanting more from the swinging experience is a good thing and you want to make sure that you’re completely comfortable before moving up the action.
And the best part of slow swinging is that you get to go home with a partner that is just ready to finish off anything that has already been started.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Thursday, December 21, 2006
Just Wanted To Watch
Just Want To Watch?
by: Julia Tanner
If you’ve ever caught someone in the act, then you’ve certainly felt a little warmer in that moment. You thought about being there, and feeling what they were feeling.
Just talking about it makes me all excited.
So when you’re swinging, what about looking at the scenery? Well, that certainly has its place as well.
Opening Your Eyes
When you’re first in a swinging situation, you may feel almost too aroused to do anything but watch. For the first few times I was with my partner, we just looked at the other couple in awe. For one, we were in awe of their openness. And for two, we were excited to see someone else being pleasured.
Just when you think you’re not turned on by something, then you try it and realize, wow, that’s amazing.
I think that many people feel ashamed to say that they like to watch others have sex or touch each other. And why should we? It’s a completely natural act. And how empowering is it to be absolutely comfortable to watch someone else?
Very.
Will The Other Couple Mind?
If it’s just you two and another couple, then you may want to broach the subject ahead of time. And if they say that it’s okay, then you can feel completely comfortable to watch them in action.
You may also feel aroused and follow suit, or pleasure yourself as you watch. Again, clear this with them ahead of time.
Most couples won’t mind if you ask.
And if you’re in a swingers club, it’s almost guaranteed that you’re going to be seen if you start anything, so it’s a free for all for voyeurs.
Remembering to blink may be hard though.
What If We’re Asked To Perform?
Think of being the subject of a fantasy as being in your favourite erotic movie and you are the stars.
Forget about who is watching and let the moment take you and your partner to ecstasy. Pleasure him or her as you normally would. Touch their skin, feel their thighs, slowly tease the sighs out.
If you really want to make an impression, open your eyes and look to the other couple. Let them know how much this turns you on, and how wonderful something feels.
Why Do You Look?
Looking at difference shapes of bodies is intriguing. And in a comfortable setting, you will see that it really isn’t the size that matters, but the confidence of the person.
Women aren’t judged by their weight and men aren’t seen for the length of their penis. Men aren’t counting another man’s abs, and women aren’t considering the bounce of the breasts.
You look because you’re curious, but you continue looking because you can see the beauty in everyone.
In most cases, looking will only satisfy so much and you will want to be the ones looked at. And that is completely natural and enthralling. Knowing that someone is watching you and getting pleasure from it can turn an ordinary moment into an erotic scene.
www.swingersitesreviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
If you’ve ever caught someone in the act, then you’ve certainly felt a little warmer in that moment. You thought about being there, and feeling what they were feeling.
Just talking about it makes me all excited.
So when you’re swinging, what about looking at the scenery? Well, that certainly has its place as well.
Opening Your Eyes
When you’re first in a swinging situation, you may feel almost too aroused to do anything but watch. For the first few times I was with my partner, we just looked at the other couple in awe. For one, we were in awe of their openness. And for two, we were excited to see someone else being pleasured.
Just when you think you’re not turned on by something, then you try it and realize, wow, that’s amazing.
I think that many people feel ashamed to say that they like to watch others have sex or touch each other. And why should we? It’s a completely natural act. And how empowering is it to be absolutely comfortable to watch someone else?
Very.
Will The Other Couple Mind?
If it’s just you two and another couple, then you may want to broach the subject ahead of time. And if they say that it’s okay, then you can feel completely comfortable to watch them in action.
You may also feel aroused and follow suit, or pleasure yourself as you watch. Again, clear this with them ahead of time.
Most couples won’t mind if you ask.
And if you’re in a swingers club, it’s almost guaranteed that you’re going to be seen if you start anything, so it’s a free for all for voyeurs.
Remembering to blink may be hard though.
What If We’re Asked To Perform?
Think of being the subject of a fantasy as being in your favourite erotic movie and you are the stars.
Forget about who is watching and let the moment take you and your partner to ecstasy. Pleasure him or her as you normally would. Touch their skin, feel their thighs, slowly tease the sighs out.
If you really want to make an impression, open your eyes and look to the other couple. Let them know how much this turns you on, and how wonderful something feels.
Why Do You Look?
Looking at difference shapes of bodies is intriguing. And in a comfortable setting, you will see that it really isn’t the size that matters, but the confidence of the person.
Women aren’t judged by their weight and men aren’t seen for the length of their penis. Men aren’t counting another man’s abs, and women aren’t considering the bounce of the breasts.
You look because you’re curious, but you continue looking because you can see the beauty in everyone.
In most cases, looking will only satisfy so much and you will want to be the ones looked at. And that is completely natural and enthralling. Knowing that someone is watching you and getting pleasure from it can turn an ordinary moment into an erotic scene.
www.swingersitesreviews.com
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
Is Swinging Just For Couples?
Is Swinging Just for Couples?
by: Julia Tanner
When most people think of swinging for adults, they think of two couples getting together for a series of sexual adventures. And in many cases, this is true, but if you’re single, don’t feel left out. You can jump in as well. And there are plenty of single guys and gals who have gotten to fulfill their fantasies with a couple that was looking for a single to add to the mix.
There are no rules as to numbers in swinging. Some like threesomes, and others like more. How much can you handle?
Why you might have trouble
A lot of men in particular are looking to fulfill their fantasy of a threesome with two attractive women. And they can do so, but it’s something that doesn’t happen all of the time. The biggest problem with this scenario is that many of the men take it for granted that the women are just nymphomaniacs that want to be pleasured and not treated well. That’s a great way to never have the opportunity again.
This isn’t just about your fantasy; this is about respecting the couple’s wishes as well. Being polite and up front about what you want from this swinging experience will help to gauge if you have met the right folks to have a good time with.
The bisexuality question
A lot of singles are concerned that they have to be a bisexual in order to get into swinging. It’s an interesting question. And it’s one that really doesn’t have a clear answer because you don’t have to be anything but open-minded. Many swingers are just curious and want to try out something new or watch their partner try out a fantasy. That said, it’s also fairly reasonable to state how you feel up front so that there’s no confusion as to who is with who.
So, you don’t have to be bisexual, but being open beforehand and during the swinging experience might show you things that you may never have considered. Many women find that they are more open to being with another woman, than men are with other men.
Where singles can go
Look in personal ads or online for couples that are looking for a single. It’s really that easy. Go to your local swinger club or to the nearest adult video store for swinger publications. The online swinging dating revolution has created a safe way to meet up with others. You don’t have to reveal anything personal until you find the perfect couple, so you can carefully screen all of the potential play mates. Keep your eyes open and you’ll be able to find someone to help you with your swinger fantasy.
In the meantime, think about why you aren’t actively in a relationship. If you’re just looking for sex, swinging can do that, but it won’t be anything meaningful for you. And it’s rather selfish to only think of your self when the other people involved are hoping for a memorable experience.
by: Julia Tanner
When most people think of swinging for adults, they think of two couples getting together for a series of sexual adventures. And in many cases, this is true, but if you’re single, don’t feel left out. You can jump in as well. And there are plenty of single guys and gals who have gotten to fulfill their fantasies with a couple that was looking for a single to add to the mix.
There are no rules as to numbers in swinging. Some like threesomes, and others like more. How much can you handle?
Why you might have trouble
A lot of men in particular are looking to fulfill their fantasy of a threesome with two attractive women. And they can do so, but it’s something that doesn’t happen all of the time. The biggest problem with this scenario is that many of the men take it for granted that the women are just nymphomaniacs that want to be pleasured and not treated well. That’s a great way to never have the opportunity again.
This isn’t just about your fantasy; this is about respecting the couple’s wishes as well. Being polite and up front about what you want from this swinging experience will help to gauge if you have met the right folks to have a good time with.
The bisexuality question
A lot of singles are concerned that they have to be a bisexual in order to get into swinging. It’s an interesting question. And it’s one that really doesn’t have a clear answer because you don’t have to be anything but open-minded. Many swingers are just curious and want to try out something new or watch their partner try out a fantasy. That said, it’s also fairly reasonable to state how you feel up front so that there’s no confusion as to who is with who.
So, you don’t have to be bisexual, but being open beforehand and during the swinging experience might show you things that you may never have considered. Many women find that they are more open to being with another woman, than men are with other men.
Where singles can go
Look in personal ads or online for couples that are looking for a single. It’s really that easy. Go to your local swinger club or to the nearest adult video store for swinger publications. The online swinging dating revolution has created a safe way to meet up with others. You don’t have to reveal anything personal until you find the perfect couple, so you can carefully screen all of the potential play mates. Keep your eyes open and you’ll be able to find someone to help you with your swinger fantasy.
In the meantime, think about why you aren’t actively in a relationship. If you’re just looking for sex, swinging can do that, but it won’t be anything meaningful for you. And it’s rather selfish to only think of your self when the other people involved are hoping for a memorable experience.
Saturday, December 09, 2006
Juicy Tips for Better Sex
Juicy Tips for Better Sex
by: Leah Holden
It is no doubt that sex, plays a major part in maintaining a healthy and long lasting relationship. Many researches and surveys conducted over the years have concluded that one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling relationship is great sexual experience.
Yet, many people are having problem enjoying sex with their partners. There are many reasons for this problem. The more common ones are psychological, cultural, early childhood experience and so forth.
The good news is, for so long as the individual or couple realise that sex is the number one killer or saver to their relationship and they are willing to change, there are thousands of tips available in books, magazines, internet and sex video for better sex.
Experimenting on these better sex tips allow you to have a pleasurable experience during the sexual act. They also give you the confidence to orchestra and enjoy the sexual experience with your partner.
The internet is also turning out to be a major source where couples look for tips for better sex. I have outlined below some of the juicy tips for better sex.
The first tip is to take the initiative. Taking the initiative will break the ice between the couple and also excite the opposite partner. Always be on the look out for adding novelties to your sex life.
Sex does not need to be performed in the bedroom only. It can be done in the basement or under the stairs or just about anywhere you wish. Some examples are, in the car, on the beach. The ideal location is only limited by your own imagination.
Create a sexy mood and the right kind of environment for having sex. For example, you can pull down the colorful curtains and light candles in the bedroom. You can also go for scented candles. Playing soft music in the background would also add spice to the sexual environment that you want to create.
Having sex in the bath can prove to be a totally different experience. It sure builds up the overall excitement. In case of using the vibrator, ask your partner to user it in you instead of using the vibrator solo. Try choosing the vibrator and sex toys with your partners, this will help building up his or her anticipation.
Try out newer positions to have sex. This will again lead to more excitement and add a lot of spice in the whole sexual act. Ask your partner to do different things on you and tell him / her which things turn you on. Repeat the act if you both like it very much.
Sex is a pleasurable activity that does not have time limits. Sex ends when both the partners are completely satisfied after the act. Sex is not a duty that should be completed in a fixed period of time.
You should try different types of stimulations on your partner every time you both have sex. Try to masturbate your partner instead of letting him or her do the act on his / her own.
At the end of the day, let your imagination run wild, do whatever is necessary to arouse yours and your partner's sex drive and enjoy the experience.
www.MySecretConfessionSpace.com
by: Leah Holden
It is no doubt that sex, plays a major part in maintaining a healthy and long lasting relationship. Many researches and surveys conducted over the years have concluded that one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling relationship is great sexual experience.
Yet, many people are having problem enjoying sex with their partners. There are many reasons for this problem. The more common ones are psychological, cultural, early childhood experience and so forth.
The good news is, for so long as the individual or couple realise that sex is the number one killer or saver to their relationship and they are willing to change, there are thousands of tips available in books, magazines, internet and sex video for better sex.
Experimenting on these better sex tips allow you to have a pleasurable experience during the sexual act. They also give you the confidence to orchestra and enjoy the sexual experience with your partner.
The internet is also turning out to be a major source where couples look for tips for better sex. I have outlined below some of the juicy tips for better sex.
The first tip is to take the initiative. Taking the initiative will break the ice between the couple and also excite the opposite partner. Always be on the look out for adding novelties to your sex life.
Sex does not need to be performed in the bedroom only. It can be done in the basement or under the stairs or just about anywhere you wish. Some examples are, in the car, on the beach. The ideal location is only limited by your own imagination.
Create a sexy mood and the right kind of environment for having sex. For example, you can pull down the colorful curtains and light candles in the bedroom. You can also go for scented candles. Playing soft music in the background would also add spice to the sexual environment that you want to create.
Having sex in the bath can prove to be a totally different experience. It sure builds up the overall excitement. In case of using the vibrator, ask your partner to user it in you instead of using the vibrator solo. Try choosing the vibrator and sex toys with your partners, this will help building up his or her anticipation.
Try out newer positions to have sex. This will again lead to more excitement and add a lot of spice in the whole sexual act. Ask your partner to do different things on you and tell him / her which things turn you on. Repeat the act if you both like it very much.
Sex is a pleasurable activity that does not have time limits. Sex ends when both the partners are completely satisfied after the act. Sex is not a duty that should be completed in a fixed period of time.
You should try different types of stimulations on your partner every time you both have sex. Try to masturbate your partner instead of letting him or her do the act on his / her own.
At the end of the day, let your imagination run wild, do whatever is necessary to arouse yours and your partner's sex drive and enjoy the experience.
www.MySecretConfessionSpace.com
Monday, December 04, 2006
Is Safe Sex Really Safe?
Is Safe Sex Really Safe?
by: Jim Shaw
Gone are the days when people could have multiple partners without the use of a condom, and other safe sex practices.
Safe sex is all about keeping yourself, and your partner, protected from the complications of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted disease.
Although the concept of safe sex seems easy enough to understand, more and more people -- young people in particular -- seem to be missing the point, or missing the concept of how to accomplish safe sex. And just how safe and reliable is that condom when it comes right down to it? A condom can’t promise 100% protection from AIDS or from pregnancy.
For males in particular, another problem with practicing safe sex is remembering to take the time to ...
(a) have a condom ready
(b) know how to use it properly, and
(c) take the time to put it on.
It’s important to educate young people today in the proper use of condoms so that they understand when and how to use them. There’s no point to having a condom ready if neither partner is going to take time to enforce its use. In a very practical sense, however, although a condom is typically worn by the male partner during heterosexual intercourse (and typically by both partners in a homosexual one), the responsibility for proper condom-IQ is borne by both partners.
Fortunately, there are more and more products appearing on the market to help people to plan for safe sex and to practice this method of responsible intercourse. Since both the birth control pill and the condom aren’t 100% effective, combining the use of both of them together will increase your chances of staying safe.
It’s also vital to be aware of a partner’s sexual history, and to seek “medical clearance” before engaging in a new relationship. This is especially important for those in polygamous relationships (more than one sexual partner at a time), because a “chain” of unsafe sex can start with any partner and spread rapidly through a previously healthy group.
The only way that there are going to be less unwanted pregnancies, and less transmission of STD’s is if all sexually active people – both young and old -- are educated in the concepts of safe sex and what it means to them. In particular, in parts of the country where access to information is more challenging (such as some underprivileged areas), it’s vital that communities step forward and provide this education.
Young men, in particular, need to understand the implications and risks of unprotected sex and what it can mean to their lives when they have an unwanted pregnancy or find out that they have a STD. Safe sex starts with education and knowledge, neither of which any young teen can do without.
www.MySecretConfessionSpace.com
by: Jim Shaw
Gone are the days when people could have multiple partners without the use of a condom, and other safe sex practices.
Safe sex is all about keeping yourself, and your partner, protected from the complications of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted disease.
Although the concept of safe sex seems easy enough to understand, more and more people -- young people in particular -- seem to be missing the point, or missing the concept of how to accomplish safe sex. And just how safe and reliable is that condom when it comes right down to it? A condom can’t promise 100% protection from AIDS or from pregnancy.
For males in particular, another problem with practicing safe sex is remembering to take the time to ...
(a) have a condom ready
(b) know how to use it properly, and
(c) take the time to put it on.
It’s important to educate young people today in the proper use of condoms so that they understand when and how to use them. There’s no point to having a condom ready if neither partner is going to take time to enforce its use. In a very practical sense, however, although a condom is typically worn by the male partner during heterosexual intercourse (and typically by both partners in a homosexual one), the responsibility for proper condom-IQ is borne by both partners.
Fortunately, there are more and more products appearing on the market to help people to plan for safe sex and to practice this method of responsible intercourse. Since both the birth control pill and the condom aren’t 100% effective, combining the use of both of them together will increase your chances of staying safe.
It’s also vital to be aware of a partner’s sexual history, and to seek “medical clearance” before engaging in a new relationship. This is especially important for those in polygamous relationships (more than one sexual partner at a time), because a “chain” of unsafe sex can start with any partner and spread rapidly through a previously healthy group.
The only way that there are going to be less unwanted pregnancies, and less transmission of STD’s is if all sexually active people – both young and old -- are educated in the concepts of safe sex and what it means to them. In particular, in parts of the country where access to information is more challenging (such as some underprivileged areas), it’s vital that communities step forward and provide this education.
Young men, in particular, need to understand the implications and risks of unprotected sex and what it can mean to their lives when they have an unwanted pregnancy or find out that they have a STD. Safe sex starts with education and knowledge, neither of which any young teen can do without.
www.MySecretConfessionSpace.com
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