Lines You Shouldn’t Cross
by: Julia Tanner
A person who is just looking over swinging as a fun way to have more sex doesn’t understand the true meaning of this lifestyle.
Swinging is a way to explore your sexual fantasies and boundaries with the blessing and support of your partner. And by enjoying each other in this way, you enable better communication and deeper trust of your relationship.
But there are always ways to get your self into trouble.
There Are No Little White Lies
When it comes to a swinging relationship, there is no such thing as a little white lie. Each and every lie that you tell will become an issue. There needs to be a perfect atmosphere of trust and truthfulness in order to feel comfortable with each other.
And in any sort of future for the relationship among the group of couples.
This is really why the recommendation is that only strong couples get into swinging. The stronger the couple is, the more likely that good communication lines are already in place.
To think of it another way, you need to be sure that you can trust the other couple as well. At the very least your privacy may be compromised. At the most, you can be emotionally hurt.
Crossing Over Boundaries
Swinging can be a great tool to overcome any sexual anxieties that you might have, but there are limits to this journey.
For one, you can not assume that just because you want something to happen during a particular sexual excursion that the other person does as well.
Of course, talking about these boundaries ahead of time will help.
But you also want to stick to what you’re promised to do. Just because you think that you may be ‘helping’ someone overcome something does not mean that they are necessarily ready.
When someone tells you to stop or that they are uncomfortable, you need to stop IMMEDIATELY.
You will destroy a perfectly good relationship in a moment of weakness.
Keeping Quiet
On the other hand, the other person will not know about your boundaries unless you tell them ahead of time.
This is no time to be shy with another couple or with your own partner. Be clear and up front about the relationship that you are trying to pursue.
You may want to set up a specific time for everyone to meet up in a non-sexual environment. This is a great way to continuously have the lines of communication open for anything that may not be easy to talk about in a certain mood or setting.
Find a neutral place that is semi-private and give everyone a chance to talk. If there are problems, then address them at that point or discuss them and set up another time to figure out solutions.
When you don’t say anything, you are setting yourself up for problems.
Issues like jealously and anger can rear their ugly heads quite quickly when there is silence. But a little talking can do a world of good and keep everyone feeling good about themselves and their sexual power.
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Saturday, December 30, 2006
Friday, December 29, 2006
The Male G-Spot A Golden Nugget
The Male G-Spot A Golden Nugget
by: Terrance Lile (Uncle Terry)
In an episode of the animated sitcom Family Guy, Peter has a checkup by Doctor Hartman and receives a prostate exam. The exam was not what he expected and he thought that he was being raped. The episode was hilarious to some, disgusting to others and yet to others it pointed out the importance of prostate health. For many men their only experience with their own prostate has been this exam. In truth, the discovery of this hidden golden nugget often referred to as the “Male G-Spot,” is highly rewarding and stimulating once a man can get over his hang-up of being touched in that area.
For centuries the elusive female G-spot has made its way into our sex lives. For most couples, the man has always put attention on the woman’s erogenous zone, hoping to strike gold at some point during the act. Of course this makes most partners weak in the knees, if the infamous spot is found. As a result, the woman is pleased until orgasm and wants to return the favor. Ironically, the majority of men flinch, perhaps thinking about a prostate exam or tar instead of mining for gold at the mention of their own G-spot being stimulated. Unless the man is willing to charter unknown territory, the butt area is usually off limits.
For most men, the prostate gland, also known as the male’s G-spot, is often a touchy subject. For many men, even touching near the anus may make them question their sexual orientation. Anal sex is neither a gay nor straight activity, it is a stimulating sexual activity that can be enjoyed by all. At Ask Uncle Terry men will email us about their hang-ups with anal sex. Many of these men find the idea of it scary or even repulsive. However, we also hear from men that had their prostate stimulated for the first time and many report that they experienced an intensified orgasm like never before. Once it is tried, chances are the man will look forward with great anticipation to the next visit. Best of all a stimulated prostate is a healthier prostate.
For women who do not know where the g-spot is located, the prostate gland is a small gland located between the testicles and the anus. It is actually within the perineum, which means that when you rub this gland, it will make men moan with excitement. When inserting a finger or a sex toy into the anus, this gland can be stimulated until orgasm is reached. Although orgasm can be reached in dozens of different ways, this kind of stimulation is much more intense and overwhelming.
If you build up the courage to try this new sexcapade, or your partner is willing to dive right in, be sure to use an ample amount of water-based lubricant. For long nails, cleanliness, or if you are not in a monogamous relationship, or there is any question as to STDs or HIV a glove or condom should first be placed over the fingers. Once you are ready, your partner should cover their finger in the lubricant and slowly insert it into your anus. The prostate is about two inches upward and forward. If the man is a little squeamish the finger does not have to be fully inserted. The area around the opening of the anus is full of nerve endings and provides stimulating sensation on its own. Although the sensation may feel strange, it will become more intense as your partner starts to feel around.
In order to increase your desire and anticipation, your partner should very slowly insert their finger or toy allowing the sphincter muscle to relax. This will not only avoid discomfort, it will also allow you to enjoy the moment. Once that golden nugget “G-spot” is located, you will be shocked to realize what you have been missing out on all of these years! It is often an incredible feeling, far more intense than any other sexual position.
If you are still wary of even asking your partner to act so kinky, you can have them just rub the outside of your anus. Even by touching it lightly, your nerve endings are still stimulated. For men, their genitals and the overall region are extremely sensitive, thus resulting in mind boggling convulsions that could last for minutes.
Regardless of how embarrassed or nervous you are, it is actually exciting to go outside of the box and try something new. Far too often men are too worried about being laughed at to try something so kinky and taboo in today’s society. However, if you have an open-minded partner and stop caring about other people’s perceptions, you can easily enjoy the secret side of sex. Check out http://AskUncleTerry.com for more information on prostate health, sexuality, foreplay and both the male and female G-spot.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Terrance Lile (Uncle Terry)
In an episode of the animated sitcom Family Guy, Peter has a checkup by Doctor Hartman and receives a prostate exam. The exam was not what he expected and he thought that he was being raped. The episode was hilarious to some, disgusting to others and yet to others it pointed out the importance of prostate health. For many men their only experience with their own prostate has been this exam. In truth, the discovery of this hidden golden nugget often referred to as the “Male G-Spot,” is highly rewarding and stimulating once a man can get over his hang-up of being touched in that area.
For centuries the elusive female G-spot has made its way into our sex lives. For most couples, the man has always put attention on the woman’s erogenous zone, hoping to strike gold at some point during the act. Of course this makes most partners weak in the knees, if the infamous spot is found. As a result, the woman is pleased until orgasm and wants to return the favor. Ironically, the majority of men flinch, perhaps thinking about a prostate exam or tar instead of mining for gold at the mention of their own G-spot being stimulated. Unless the man is willing to charter unknown territory, the butt area is usually off limits.
For most men, the prostate gland, also known as the male’s G-spot, is often a touchy subject. For many men, even touching near the anus may make them question their sexual orientation. Anal sex is neither a gay nor straight activity, it is a stimulating sexual activity that can be enjoyed by all. At Ask Uncle Terry men will email us about their hang-ups with anal sex. Many of these men find the idea of it scary or even repulsive. However, we also hear from men that had their prostate stimulated for the first time and many report that they experienced an intensified orgasm like never before. Once it is tried, chances are the man will look forward with great anticipation to the next visit. Best of all a stimulated prostate is a healthier prostate.
For women who do not know where the g-spot is located, the prostate gland is a small gland located between the testicles and the anus. It is actually within the perineum, which means that when you rub this gland, it will make men moan with excitement. When inserting a finger or a sex toy into the anus, this gland can be stimulated until orgasm is reached. Although orgasm can be reached in dozens of different ways, this kind of stimulation is much more intense and overwhelming.
If you build up the courage to try this new sexcapade, or your partner is willing to dive right in, be sure to use an ample amount of water-based lubricant. For long nails, cleanliness, or if you are not in a monogamous relationship, or there is any question as to STDs or HIV a glove or condom should first be placed over the fingers. Once you are ready, your partner should cover their finger in the lubricant and slowly insert it into your anus. The prostate is about two inches upward and forward. If the man is a little squeamish the finger does not have to be fully inserted. The area around the opening of the anus is full of nerve endings and provides stimulating sensation on its own. Although the sensation may feel strange, it will become more intense as your partner starts to feel around.
In order to increase your desire and anticipation, your partner should very slowly insert their finger or toy allowing the sphincter muscle to relax. This will not only avoid discomfort, it will also allow you to enjoy the moment. Once that golden nugget “G-spot” is located, you will be shocked to realize what you have been missing out on all of these years! It is often an incredible feeling, far more intense than any other sexual position.
If you are still wary of even asking your partner to act so kinky, you can have them just rub the outside of your anus. Even by touching it lightly, your nerve endings are still stimulated. For men, their genitals and the overall region are extremely sensitive, thus resulting in mind boggling convulsions that could last for minutes.
Regardless of how embarrassed or nervous you are, it is actually exciting to go outside of the box and try something new. Far too often men are too worried about being laughed at to try something so kinky and taboo in today’s society. However, if you have an open-minded partner and stop caring about other people’s perceptions, you can easily enjoy the secret side of sex. Check out http://AskUncleTerry.com for more information on prostate health, sexuality, foreplay and both the male and female G-spot.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Thursday, December 28, 2006
Adult Personals – Fulfilling Your Fantasies
Adult Personals – Fulfilling Your Fantasies Through Adult Dating Websites
by: James Hall
People are talking about adult personals. There's no doubt about it. As regular dating sites are seen as too tame to meet their adventurous needs people are posting adult personals through adult dating websites. Every day thousands of people seeking alternative lifestyles write uncensored adult personals ads. Adult dating websites offers an enticing adult dating community where you are free to share and explore your wildest fantasies.
Imagine browsing through adult photo galleries of handsome men and beautiful women of every size and shape – just waiting to respond to your adult personals. There are many adult dating websites that have 100% free trials with no credit card or payment required to register.
In fact, adult personals are extremely steamy and attention grabbing. Upon entering an adult dating website you will find all types of adult personals. The website designs' are user-friendly so that you can find your preferences whether its swingers personals, married personals, interracial personals, gay personals or BBW personals.
The opportunities offered by adult dating websites includes video chat rooms with sizzling video clips or watch 24hr live webcams of attractive people whose attire leaves little to the imagination. Plus, you can play interactive games or find out about the hottest adult parties and events in your area.
Some of the top adult dating websites are Yahoo adult personals and Adult Friend Finder personals. In the exciting world of adult personals, people are often looking for discreet local relationships.
But before you jump into the world of adult personals or brave the gates of any adult dating website, you should have a healthy self-image and a sense of self-liberation. What's more, the adult dating sites contain mature material, pictures and contents for individuals seeking alternative encounters.
Like happiness, prosperity, love and fulfillment, we all seek to achieve our outmost desires. Adult personals and adult dating website have found a niche by creating an environment where every desire can achieve satisfaction. With so much to gain, it's worth at least a free look, isn't it? You bet it is!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: James Hall
People are talking about adult personals. There's no doubt about it. As regular dating sites are seen as too tame to meet their adventurous needs people are posting adult personals through adult dating websites. Every day thousands of people seeking alternative lifestyles write uncensored adult personals ads. Adult dating websites offers an enticing adult dating community where you are free to share and explore your wildest fantasies.
Imagine browsing through adult photo galleries of handsome men and beautiful women of every size and shape – just waiting to respond to your adult personals. There are many adult dating websites that have 100% free trials with no credit card or payment required to register.
In fact, adult personals are extremely steamy and attention grabbing. Upon entering an adult dating website you will find all types of adult personals. The website designs' are user-friendly so that you can find your preferences whether its swingers personals, married personals, interracial personals, gay personals or BBW personals.
The opportunities offered by adult dating websites includes video chat rooms with sizzling video clips or watch 24hr live webcams of attractive people whose attire leaves little to the imagination. Plus, you can play interactive games or find out about the hottest adult parties and events in your area.
Some of the top adult dating websites are Yahoo adult personals and Adult Friend Finder personals. In the exciting world of adult personals, people are often looking for discreet local relationships.
But before you jump into the world of adult personals or brave the gates of any adult dating website, you should have a healthy self-image and a sense of self-liberation. What's more, the adult dating sites contain mature material, pictures and contents for individuals seeking alternative encounters.
Like happiness, prosperity, love and fulfillment, we all seek to achieve our outmost desires. Adult personals and adult dating website have found a niche by creating an environment where every desire can achieve satisfaction. With so much to gain, it's worth at least a free look, isn't it? You bet it is!
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
Is Swinging Just for Couples?
Is Swinging Just for Couples?
by: Julia Tanner
When most people think of swinging for adults, they think of two couples getting together for a series of sexual adventures. And in many cases, this is true, but if you’re single, don’t feel left out. You can jump in as well. And there are plenty of single guys and gals who have gotten to fulfill their fantasies with a couple that was looking for a single to add to the mix.
There are no rules as to numbers in swinging. Some like threesomes, and others like more. How much can you handle?
Why you might have trouble
A lot of men in particular are looking to fulfill their fantasy of a threesome with two attractive women. And they can do so, but it’s something that doesn’t happen all of the time. The biggest problem with this scenario is that many of the men take it for granted that the women are just nymphomaniacs that want to be pleasured and not treated well. That’s a great way to never have the opportunity again.
This isn’t just about your fantasy; this is about respecting the couple’s wishes as well. Being polite and up front about what you want from this swinging experience will help to gauge if you have met the right folks to have a good time with.
The bisexuality question
A lot of singles are concerned that they have to be a bisexual in order to get into swinging. It’s an interesting question. And it’s one that really doesn’t have a clear answer because you don’t have to be anything but open-minded. Many swingers are just curious and want to try out something new or watch their partner try out a fantasy. That said, it’s also fairly reasonable to state how you feel up front so that there’s no confusion as to who is with who.
So, you don’t have to be bisexual, but being open beforehand and during the swinging experience might show you things that you may never have considered. Many women find that they are more open to being with another woman, than men are with other men.
Where singles can go
Look in personal ads or online for couples that are looking for a single. It’s really that easy. Go to your local swinger club or to the nearest adult video store for swinger publications. The online swinging dating revolution has created a safe way to meet up with others. You don’t have to reveal anything personal until you find the perfect couple, so you can carefully screen all of the potential play mates. Keep your eyes open and you’ll be able to find someone to help you with your swinger fantasy.
In the meantime, think about why you aren’t actively in a relationship. If you’re just looking for sex, swinging can do that, but it won’t be anything meaningful for you. And it’s rather selfish to only think of your self when the other people involved are hoping for a memorable experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
When most people think of swinging for adults, they think of two couples getting together for a series of sexual adventures. And in many cases, this is true, but if you’re single, don’t feel left out. You can jump in as well. And there are plenty of single guys and gals who have gotten to fulfill their fantasies with a couple that was looking for a single to add to the mix.
There are no rules as to numbers in swinging. Some like threesomes, and others like more. How much can you handle?
Why you might have trouble
A lot of men in particular are looking to fulfill their fantasy of a threesome with two attractive women. And they can do so, but it’s something that doesn’t happen all of the time. The biggest problem with this scenario is that many of the men take it for granted that the women are just nymphomaniacs that want to be pleasured and not treated well. That’s a great way to never have the opportunity again.
This isn’t just about your fantasy; this is about respecting the couple’s wishes as well. Being polite and up front about what you want from this swinging experience will help to gauge if you have met the right folks to have a good time with.
The bisexuality question
A lot of singles are concerned that they have to be a bisexual in order to get into swinging. It’s an interesting question. And it’s one that really doesn’t have a clear answer because you don’t have to be anything but open-minded. Many swingers are just curious and want to try out something new or watch their partner try out a fantasy. That said, it’s also fairly reasonable to state how you feel up front so that there’s no confusion as to who is with who.
So, you don’t have to be bisexual, but being open beforehand and during the swinging experience might show you things that you may never have considered. Many women find that they are more open to being with another woman, than men are with other men.
Where singles can go
Look in personal ads or online for couples that are looking for a single. It’s really that easy. Go to your local swinger club or to the nearest adult video store for swinger publications. The online swinging dating revolution has created a safe way to meet up with others. You don’t have to reveal anything personal until you find the perfect couple, so you can carefully screen all of the potential play mates. Keep your eyes open and you’ll be able to find someone to help you with your swinger fantasy.
In the meantime, think about why you aren’t actively in a relationship. If you’re just looking for sex, swinging can do that, but it won’t be anything meaningful for you. And it’s rather selfish to only think of your self when the other people involved are hoping for a memorable experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
Dealing with Jealousy When Swinging
Dealing with Jealousy When Swinging
by: Julia Tanner
When you first start out in swinging, then you may find that you become jealous of your partner during or after the experience. Is this normal to feel like this? Or to not feel jealous at all?
If you’ve taken your time to discuss your swinging desires, then you may never have to deal with this. But it’s best you know a little either way.
Talking it out
The easiest rule to jealousy in swinging is to talk about it. As soon as you begin to feel the jealousy, you want to sit down with your partner and talk about what concerns you. Many times, one person in the relationship feels jealous because the other ‘did more’ than they did. And it’s not a competition, but you might feel that your partner and whomever they were swinging with suddenly have a deeper connection.
A lot of times, jealousy also happens because the relationship was shaky to begin with. If you and your partner are having a lot of fights, or just aren’t communicating well, then you have to be careful. If you have a moment of feeling jealous, sit down with your partner and discuss EXACTLY what made you uncomfortable. Maybe it will just take changing your personal rules for each other to help with the feelings of jealousy.
Some couple save kissing for just each other and won’t allow it between their partner and someone else. This is just one of many ideas to show commitment to each other. But when you stop to think about it, you and your partner are always leaving to go home with each other, even after a wild and exciting sexual experience with someone else. Some couples find that they become even more confident in their relationship.
Of course, it should go without saying that agreeing completely into trying swinging is a prerequisite to swinging. If one partner wasn’t too keen in the first place, then you may find that accusations and jealousy pop up a lot more.
Talk the possibility of this out before you even start swinging.
Why you might not feel jealous
Swinging is just so amazing that you may not even feel jealous. And that’s okay too. Some experienced swingers feel that their relationship is enhanced by the swinging extras. Knowing that they can share something sexual with another person or another couple can lead to greater intimacy and communication in other areas as well.
So a lot of couples just don’t feel jealous. It’s actually quite erotic to watch your partner be pleased by someone else or pleasure someone other than yourself. Trust me.
You may also have such a strong relationship already that swinging is just another adventure that you’re going on. And there’s not a smidge of jealousy because you both wanted to try swinging out anyways.
Swinging is an eye-opening (amongst other things) experience that can show you the strengths as well as the flaws in your current relationship. In most cases, however, swinging is a positive experience that will enrich a relationship as well as your sexual experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
When you first start out in swinging, then you may find that you become jealous of your partner during or after the experience. Is this normal to feel like this? Or to not feel jealous at all?
If you’ve taken your time to discuss your swinging desires, then you may never have to deal with this. But it’s best you know a little either way.
Talking it out
The easiest rule to jealousy in swinging is to talk about it. As soon as you begin to feel the jealousy, you want to sit down with your partner and talk about what concerns you. Many times, one person in the relationship feels jealous because the other ‘did more’ than they did. And it’s not a competition, but you might feel that your partner and whomever they were swinging with suddenly have a deeper connection.
A lot of times, jealousy also happens because the relationship was shaky to begin with. If you and your partner are having a lot of fights, or just aren’t communicating well, then you have to be careful. If you have a moment of feeling jealous, sit down with your partner and discuss EXACTLY what made you uncomfortable. Maybe it will just take changing your personal rules for each other to help with the feelings of jealousy.
Some couple save kissing for just each other and won’t allow it between their partner and someone else. This is just one of many ideas to show commitment to each other. But when you stop to think about it, you and your partner are always leaving to go home with each other, even after a wild and exciting sexual experience with someone else. Some couples find that they become even more confident in their relationship.
Of course, it should go without saying that agreeing completely into trying swinging is a prerequisite to swinging. If one partner wasn’t too keen in the first place, then you may find that accusations and jealousy pop up a lot more.
Talk the possibility of this out before you even start swinging.
Why you might not feel jealous
Swinging is just so amazing that you may not even feel jealous. And that’s okay too. Some experienced swingers feel that their relationship is enhanced by the swinging extras. Knowing that they can share something sexual with another person or another couple can lead to greater intimacy and communication in other areas as well.
So a lot of couples just don’t feel jealous. It’s actually quite erotic to watch your partner be pleased by someone else or pleasure someone other than yourself. Trust me.
You may also have such a strong relationship already that swinging is just another adventure that you’re going on. And there’s not a smidge of jealousy because you both wanted to try swinging out anyways.
Swinging is an eye-opening (amongst other things) experience that can show you the strengths as well as the flaws in your current relationship. In most cases, however, swinging is a positive experience that will enrich a relationship as well as your sexual experience.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Saturday, December 23, 2006
Can a Marriage Become Stronger by Swinging?
Can a Marriage Become Stronger by Swinging?
by: Julia Tanner
While divorce rates rise and marriage fall apart on a daily basis, an outside observer of swinging might think that it helps to cause marriage crises. This is certainly not the case. Swinging, through numerous individual interviews and case studies, has been shown to help strong marriages become even stronger.
Strength in numbers?
When you talk to an experienced swinger, you will find that they didn’t want to try swinging for the sex, but for the experience. Their marriages may have been plenty strong going into the whole adventure, but one or both of the partners just wanted a little something different and new. They didn’t love each other any less, but rather, they wanted to add another dimension to their relationship. And by making the decision together, they created a way to communicate with each other more openly and honestly, leading to overall better communication skills (outside sexual matters).
Why swinging isn’t cheating
One of the main concerns that couples struggle with is their mindset of thinking that swinging is cheating on their partner in some way. And this can be a deterrent for a while to act upon this fantasy. What makes swinging different from cheating is that the two of you have decided to share this experience together. There’s nothing secretive about being with this other person. You know exactly what your partner is doing and you’ve talked about why. You’re hoping to share this new adventure with your partner—together. And this is why being open will make swinging even better for the both of you.
Saving a weak marriage
A counselor is the best way to save a weak marriage, not swinging. If you are having insecurities about your relationship, or just aren’t communicating as well, swinging is not a good fix. Swinging is best experienced by a couple that us able to talk to each other and share with each other. And if problems should come up in the swinging process, then the couple must be able to work through them. And weak marriages are usually a sign of not being able to talk through certain issues.
Don’t complicate your relationship more. Work things out with each other before you add swinging to the already volatile mix. Swinging can provide just the ‘kick’ that your strong marriage needs, but it will not solve problems that are already present. If you’re able to work through issues as a couple and just want to experience more in the area of sex and fantasy, then swinging could be the answer to your dreams.
And there are plenty of places to research swinging. Bookstores so carry books on swinging and your local sex shops can direct you to local connections. Online swinging dating sites and other information sites can also answer any questions that you might have.
Start the open and frank discussions now to enjoy swinging in every way that you can. Doing the research together may also lead to some fun on your own.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
While divorce rates rise and marriage fall apart on a daily basis, an outside observer of swinging might think that it helps to cause marriage crises. This is certainly not the case. Swinging, through numerous individual interviews and case studies, has been shown to help strong marriages become even stronger.
Strength in numbers?
When you talk to an experienced swinger, you will find that they didn’t want to try swinging for the sex, but for the experience. Their marriages may have been plenty strong going into the whole adventure, but one or both of the partners just wanted a little something different and new. They didn’t love each other any less, but rather, they wanted to add another dimension to their relationship. And by making the decision together, they created a way to communicate with each other more openly and honestly, leading to overall better communication skills (outside sexual matters).
Why swinging isn’t cheating
One of the main concerns that couples struggle with is their mindset of thinking that swinging is cheating on their partner in some way. And this can be a deterrent for a while to act upon this fantasy. What makes swinging different from cheating is that the two of you have decided to share this experience together. There’s nothing secretive about being with this other person. You know exactly what your partner is doing and you’ve talked about why. You’re hoping to share this new adventure with your partner—together. And this is why being open will make swinging even better for the both of you.
Saving a weak marriage
A counselor is the best way to save a weak marriage, not swinging. If you are having insecurities about your relationship, or just aren’t communicating as well, swinging is not a good fix. Swinging is best experienced by a couple that us able to talk to each other and share with each other. And if problems should come up in the swinging process, then the couple must be able to work through them. And weak marriages are usually a sign of not being able to talk through certain issues.
Don’t complicate your relationship more. Work things out with each other before you add swinging to the already volatile mix. Swinging can provide just the ‘kick’ that your strong marriage needs, but it will not solve problems that are already present. If you’re able to work through issues as a couple and just want to experience more in the area of sex and fantasy, then swinging could be the answer to your dreams.
And there are plenty of places to research swinging. Bookstores so carry books on swinging and your local sex shops can direct you to local connections. Online swinging dating sites and other information sites can also answer any questions that you might have.
Start the open and frank discussions now to enjoy swinging in every way that you can. Doing the research together may also lead to some fun on your own.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Friday, December 22, 2006
Soft Swinging Basics
Soft Swinging Basics
by: Julia Tanner
If you think that you’re aroused by the mere idea of swinging, just wait until you jump in. Reading doesn’t do swinging justice at all—only feeling and touching make for truly believing.
As you probably already know, soft swinging is the first attempt at swinging for many couples and interested folks. Heck, you may have already tried soft swinging without even realizing it.
You had a few too many drinks, got a little friendly with someone’s husband. And you knew darn well that it wasn’t about love or being unfaithful to your partner, it was about animal lust.
Maybe he smelled just right or she was wearing something that displayed her best assets…
If It Should Happen Spontaneously
The lights are low. Maybe you’re at a party with your partner and you’ve become separated for a moment. You’re still fully aware of where the other is, but you just let a moment take you. You’ve probably already talked about the possibility at this point.
So go on. Let’s see where the sexual tension might lead.
A little touch here, a stroke there. It can even be as simple as a long, slow kiss. You close your eyes and disappear in the moment.
And what if you catch your husband or partner out of the corner of your eye?
It’s incredibly erotic to see your partner with someone else, even if it’s ‘innocent’ to begin with. Just to see hands that have touched you running down someone else’s skin can be a turn on by itself.
Watching can be the perfect way to begin in soft swinging. It’s a great way to seduce your self into getting into the action.
Perhaps you just needed a little ‘motivation’ to get started.
And What If You Plan It Out?
Of course, you may have already decided that ‘something’ might be happening on a particular evening. You’ve sat and talked for a while, when the conversation turns to sex.
But planning doesn’t make it any less hot or exciting.
Maybe it starts with just a massage of the shoulders or a move into another’s personal space.
Now is your chance to go for it. Don’t be shy; you know that the other one wants it.
You can go back to your high school days and just make out, or you can take it further with blatant groping and stroking. Explore this new person, what do they feel like? What makes them different from your partner?
But keep it cool right now because you’re just starting, just teasing really at this point. You want to keep everyone excited and anxious for the next time.
Your hearts are racing and your minds are anxious for the next time.
But go slow. Wanting more from the swinging experience is a good thing and you want to make sure that you’re completely comfortable before moving up the action.
And the best part of slow swinging is that you get to go home with a partner that is just ready to finish off anything that has already been started.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
If you think that you’re aroused by the mere idea of swinging, just wait until you jump in. Reading doesn’t do swinging justice at all—only feeling and touching make for truly believing.
As you probably already know, soft swinging is the first attempt at swinging for many couples and interested folks. Heck, you may have already tried soft swinging without even realizing it.
You had a few too many drinks, got a little friendly with someone’s husband. And you knew darn well that it wasn’t about love or being unfaithful to your partner, it was about animal lust.
Maybe he smelled just right or she was wearing something that displayed her best assets…
If It Should Happen Spontaneously
The lights are low. Maybe you’re at a party with your partner and you’ve become separated for a moment. You’re still fully aware of where the other is, but you just let a moment take you. You’ve probably already talked about the possibility at this point.
So go on. Let’s see where the sexual tension might lead.
A little touch here, a stroke there. It can even be as simple as a long, slow kiss. You close your eyes and disappear in the moment.
And what if you catch your husband or partner out of the corner of your eye?
It’s incredibly erotic to see your partner with someone else, even if it’s ‘innocent’ to begin with. Just to see hands that have touched you running down someone else’s skin can be a turn on by itself.
Watching can be the perfect way to begin in soft swinging. It’s a great way to seduce your self into getting into the action.
Perhaps you just needed a little ‘motivation’ to get started.
And What If You Plan It Out?
Of course, you may have already decided that ‘something’ might be happening on a particular evening. You’ve sat and talked for a while, when the conversation turns to sex.
But planning doesn’t make it any less hot or exciting.
Maybe it starts with just a massage of the shoulders or a move into another’s personal space.
Now is your chance to go for it. Don’t be shy; you know that the other one wants it.
You can go back to your high school days and just make out, or you can take it further with blatant groping and stroking. Explore this new person, what do they feel like? What makes them different from your partner?
But keep it cool right now because you’re just starting, just teasing really at this point. You want to keep everyone excited and anxious for the next time.
Your hearts are racing and your minds are anxious for the next time.
But go slow. Wanting more from the swinging experience is a good thing and you want to make sure that you’re completely comfortable before moving up the action.
And the best part of slow swinging is that you get to go home with a partner that is just ready to finish off anything that has already been started.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Thursday, December 21, 2006
Just Wanted To Watch
Just Want To Watch?
by: Julia Tanner
If you’ve ever caught someone in the act, then you’ve certainly felt a little warmer in that moment. You thought about being there, and feeling what they were feeling.
Just talking about it makes me all excited.
So when you’re swinging, what about looking at the scenery? Well, that certainly has its place as well.
Opening Your Eyes
When you’re first in a swinging situation, you may feel almost too aroused to do anything but watch. For the first few times I was with my partner, we just looked at the other couple in awe. For one, we were in awe of their openness. And for two, we were excited to see someone else being pleasured.
Just when you think you’re not turned on by something, then you try it and realize, wow, that’s amazing.
I think that many people feel ashamed to say that they like to watch others have sex or touch each other. And why should we? It’s a completely natural act. And how empowering is it to be absolutely comfortable to watch someone else?
Very.
Will The Other Couple Mind?
If it’s just you two and another couple, then you may want to broach the subject ahead of time. And if they say that it’s okay, then you can feel completely comfortable to watch them in action.
You may also feel aroused and follow suit, or pleasure yourself as you watch. Again, clear this with them ahead of time.
Most couples won’t mind if you ask.
And if you’re in a swingers club, it’s almost guaranteed that you’re going to be seen if you start anything, so it’s a free for all for voyeurs.
Remembering to blink may be hard though.
What If We’re Asked To Perform?
Think of being the subject of a fantasy as being in your favourite erotic movie and you are the stars.
Forget about who is watching and let the moment take you and your partner to ecstasy. Pleasure him or her as you normally would. Touch their skin, feel their thighs, slowly tease the sighs out.
If you really want to make an impression, open your eyes and look to the other couple. Let them know how much this turns you on, and how wonderful something feels.
Why Do You Look?
Looking at difference shapes of bodies is intriguing. And in a comfortable setting, you will see that it really isn’t the size that matters, but the confidence of the person.
Women aren’t judged by their weight and men aren’t seen for the length of their penis. Men aren’t counting another man’s abs, and women aren’t considering the bounce of the breasts.
You look because you’re curious, but you continue looking because you can see the beauty in everyone.
In most cases, looking will only satisfy so much and you will want to be the ones looked at. And that is completely natural and enthralling. Knowing that someone is watching you and getting pleasure from it can turn an ordinary moment into an erotic scene.
www.swingersitesreviews.com
by: Julia Tanner
If you’ve ever caught someone in the act, then you’ve certainly felt a little warmer in that moment. You thought about being there, and feeling what they were feeling.
Just talking about it makes me all excited.
So when you’re swinging, what about looking at the scenery? Well, that certainly has its place as well.
Opening Your Eyes
When you’re first in a swinging situation, you may feel almost too aroused to do anything but watch. For the first few times I was with my partner, we just looked at the other couple in awe. For one, we were in awe of their openness. And for two, we were excited to see someone else being pleasured.
Just when you think you’re not turned on by something, then you try it and realize, wow, that’s amazing.
I think that many people feel ashamed to say that they like to watch others have sex or touch each other. And why should we? It’s a completely natural act. And how empowering is it to be absolutely comfortable to watch someone else?
Very.
Will The Other Couple Mind?
If it’s just you two and another couple, then you may want to broach the subject ahead of time. And if they say that it’s okay, then you can feel completely comfortable to watch them in action.
You may also feel aroused and follow suit, or pleasure yourself as you watch. Again, clear this with them ahead of time.
Most couples won’t mind if you ask.
And if you’re in a swingers club, it’s almost guaranteed that you’re going to be seen if you start anything, so it’s a free for all for voyeurs.
Remembering to blink may be hard though.
What If We’re Asked To Perform?
Think of being the subject of a fantasy as being in your favourite erotic movie and you are the stars.
Forget about who is watching and let the moment take you and your partner to ecstasy. Pleasure him or her as you normally would. Touch their skin, feel their thighs, slowly tease the sighs out.
If you really want to make an impression, open your eyes and look to the other couple. Let them know how much this turns you on, and how wonderful something feels.
Why Do You Look?
Looking at difference shapes of bodies is intriguing. And in a comfortable setting, you will see that it really isn’t the size that matters, but the confidence of the person.
Women aren’t judged by their weight and men aren’t seen for the length of their penis. Men aren’t counting another man’s abs, and women aren’t considering the bounce of the breasts.
You look because you’re curious, but you continue looking because you can see the beauty in everyone.
In most cases, looking will only satisfy so much and you will want to be the ones looked at. And that is completely natural and enthralling. Knowing that someone is watching you and getting pleasure from it can turn an ordinary moment into an erotic scene.
www.swingersitesreviews.com
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
Is Swinging Just For Couples?
Is Swinging Just for Couples?
by: Julia Tanner
When most people think of swinging for adults, they think of two couples getting together for a series of sexual adventures. And in many cases, this is true, but if you’re single, don’t feel left out. You can jump in as well. And there are plenty of single guys and gals who have gotten to fulfill their fantasies with a couple that was looking for a single to add to the mix.
There are no rules as to numbers in swinging. Some like threesomes, and others like more. How much can you handle?
Why you might have trouble
A lot of men in particular are looking to fulfill their fantasy of a threesome with two attractive women. And they can do so, but it’s something that doesn’t happen all of the time. The biggest problem with this scenario is that many of the men take it for granted that the women are just nymphomaniacs that want to be pleasured and not treated well. That’s a great way to never have the opportunity again.
This isn’t just about your fantasy; this is about respecting the couple’s wishes as well. Being polite and up front about what you want from this swinging experience will help to gauge if you have met the right folks to have a good time with.
The bisexuality question
A lot of singles are concerned that they have to be a bisexual in order to get into swinging. It’s an interesting question. And it’s one that really doesn’t have a clear answer because you don’t have to be anything but open-minded. Many swingers are just curious and want to try out something new or watch their partner try out a fantasy. That said, it’s also fairly reasonable to state how you feel up front so that there’s no confusion as to who is with who.
So, you don’t have to be bisexual, but being open beforehand and during the swinging experience might show you things that you may never have considered. Many women find that they are more open to being with another woman, than men are with other men.
Where singles can go
Look in personal ads or online for couples that are looking for a single. It’s really that easy. Go to your local swinger club or to the nearest adult video store for swinger publications. The online swinging dating revolution has created a safe way to meet up with others. You don’t have to reveal anything personal until you find the perfect couple, so you can carefully screen all of the potential play mates. Keep your eyes open and you’ll be able to find someone to help you with your swinger fantasy.
In the meantime, think about why you aren’t actively in a relationship. If you’re just looking for sex, swinging can do that, but it won’t be anything meaningful for you. And it’s rather selfish to only think of your self when the other people involved are hoping for a memorable experience.
by: Julia Tanner
When most people think of swinging for adults, they think of two couples getting together for a series of sexual adventures. And in many cases, this is true, but if you’re single, don’t feel left out. You can jump in as well. And there are plenty of single guys and gals who have gotten to fulfill their fantasies with a couple that was looking for a single to add to the mix.
There are no rules as to numbers in swinging. Some like threesomes, and others like more. How much can you handle?
Why you might have trouble
A lot of men in particular are looking to fulfill their fantasy of a threesome with two attractive women. And they can do so, but it’s something that doesn’t happen all of the time. The biggest problem with this scenario is that many of the men take it for granted that the women are just nymphomaniacs that want to be pleasured and not treated well. That’s a great way to never have the opportunity again.
This isn’t just about your fantasy; this is about respecting the couple’s wishes as well. Being polite and up front about what you want from this swinging experience will help to gauge if you have met the right folks to have a good time with.
The bisexuality question
A lot of singles are concerned that they have to be a bisexual in order to get into swinging. It’s an interesting question. And it’s one that really doesn’t have a clear answer because you don’t have to be anything but open-minded. Many swingers are just curious and want to try out something new or watch their partner try out a fantasy. That said, it’s also fairly reasonable to state how you feel up front so that there’s no confusion as to who is with who.
So, you don’t have to be bisexual, but being open beforehand and during the swinging experience might show you things that you may never have considered. Many women find that they are more open to being with another woman, than men are with other men.
Where singles can go
Look in personal ads or online for couples that are looking for a single. It’s really that easy. Go to your local swinger club or to the nearest adult video store for swinger publications. The online swinging dating revolution has created a safe way to meet up with others. You don’t have to reveal anything personal until you find the perfect couple, so you can carefully screen all of the potential play mates. Keep your eyes open and you’ll be able to find someone to help you with your swinger fantasy.
In the meantime, think about why you aren’t actively in a relationship. If you’re just looking for sex, swinging can do that, but it won’t be anything meaningful for you. And it’s rather selfish to only think of your self when the other people involved are hoping for a memorable experience.
Saturday, December 09, 2006
Juicy Tips for Better Sex
Juicy Tips for Better Sex
by: Leah Holden
It is no doubt that sex, plays a major part in maintaining a healthy and long lasting relationship. Many researches and surveys conducted over the years have concluded that one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling relationship is great sexual experience.
Yet, many people are having problem enjoying sex with their partners. There are many reasons for this problem. The more common ones are psychological, cultural, early childhood experience and so forth.
The good news is, for so long as the individual or couple realise that sex is the number one killer or saver to their relationship and they are willing to change, there are thousands of tips available in books, magazines, internet and sex video for better sex.
Experimenting on these better sex tips allow you to have a pleasurable experience during the sexual act. They also give you the confidence to orchestra and enjoy the sexual experience with your partner.
The internet is also turning out to be a major source where couples look for tips for better sex. I have outlined below some of the juicy tips for better sex.
The first tip is to take the initiative. Taking the initiative will break the ice between the couple and also excite the opposite partner. Always be on the look out for adding novelties to your sex life.
Sex does not need to be performed in the bedroom only. It can be done in the basement or under the stairs or just about anywhere you wish. Some examples are, in the car, on the beach. The ideal location is only limited by your own imagination.
Create a sexy mood and the right kind of environment for having sex. For example, you can pull down the colorful curtains and light candles in the bedroom. You can also go for scented candles. Playing soft music in the background would also add spice to the sexual environment that you want to create.
Having sex in the bath can prove to be a totally different experience. It sure builds up the overall excitement. In case of using the vibrator, ask your partner to user it in you instead of using the vibrator solo. Try choosing the vibrator and sex toys with your partners, this will help building up his or her anticipation.
Try out newer positions to have sex. This will again lead to more excitement and add a lot of spice in the whole sexual act. Ask your partner to do different things on you and tell him / her which things turn you on. Repeat the act if you both like it very much.
Sex is a pleasurable activity that does not have time limits. Sex ends when both the partners are completely satisfied after the act. Sex is not a duty that should be completed in a fixed period of time.
You should try different types of stimulations on your partner every time you both have sex. Try to masturbate your partner instead of letting him or her do the act on his / her own.
At the end of the day, let your imagination run wild, do whatever is necessary to arouse yours and your partner's sex drive and enjoy the experience.
www.MySecretConfessionSpace.com
by: Leah Holden
It is no doubt that sex, plays a major part in maintaining a healthy and long lasting relationship. Many researches and surveys conducted over the years have concluded that one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling relationship is great sexual experience.
Yet, many people are having problem enjoying sex with their partners. There are many reasons for this problem. The more common ones are psychological, cultural, early childhood experience and so forth.
The good news is, for so long as the individual or couple realise that sex is the number one killer or saver to their relationship and they are willing to change, there are thousands of tips available in books, magazines, internet and sex video for better sex.
Experimenting on these better sex tips allow you to have a pleasurable experience during the sexual act. They also give you the confidence to orchestra and enjoy the sexual experience with your partner.
The internet is also turning out to be a major source where couples look for tips for better sex. I have outlined below some of the juicy tips for better sex.
The first tip is to take the initiative. Taking the initiative will break the ice between the couple and also excite the opposite partner. Always be on the look out for adding novelties to your sex life.
Sex does not need to be performed in the bedroom only. It can be done in the basement or under the stairs or just about anywhere you wish. Some examples are, in the car, on the beach. The ideal location is only limited by your own imagination.
Create a sexy mood and the right kind of environment for having sex. For example, you can pull down the colorful curtains and light candles in the bedroom. You can also go for scented candles. Playing soft music in the background would also add spice to the sexual environment that you want to create.
Having sex in the bath can prove to be a totally different experience. It sure builds up the overall excitement. In case of using the vibrator, ask your partner to user it in you instead of using the vibrator solo. Try choosing the vibrator and sex toys with your partners, this will help building up his or her anticipation.
Try out newer positions to have sex. This will again lead to more excitement and add a lot of spice in the whole sexual act. Ask your partner to do different things on you and tell him / her which things turn you on. Repeat the act if you both like it very much.
Sex is a pleasurable activity that does not have time limits. Sex ends when both the partners are completely satisfied after the act. Sex is not a duty that should be completed in a fixed period of time.
You should try different types of stimulations on your partner every time you both have sex. Try to masturbate your partner instead of letting him or her do the act on his / her own.
At the end of the day, let your imagination run wild, do whatever is necessary to arouse yours and your partner's sex drive and enjoy the experience.
www.MySecretConfessionSpace.com
Monday, December 04, 2006
Is Safe Sex Really Safe?
Is Safe Sex Really Safe?
by: Jim Shaw
Gone are the days when people could have multiple partners without the use of a condom, and other safe sex practices.
Safe sex is all about keeping yourself, and your partner, protected from the complications of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted disease.
Although the concept of safe sex seems easy enough to understand, more and more people -- young people in particular -- seem to be missing the point, or missing the concept of how to accomplish safe sex. And just how safe and reliable is that condom when it comes right down to it? A condom can’t promise 100% protection from AIDS or from pregnancy.
For males in particular, another problem with practicing safe sex is remembering to take the time to ...
(a) have a condom ready
(b) know how to use it properly, and
(c) take the time to put it on.
It’s important to educate young people today in the proper use of condoms so that they understand when and how to use them. There’s no point to having a condom ready if neither partner is going to take time to enforce its use. In a very practical sense, however, although a condom is typically worn by the male partner during heterosexual intercourse (and typically by both partners in a homosexual one), the responsibility for proper condom-IQ is borne by both partners.
Fortunately, there are more and more products appearing on the market to help people to plan for safe sex and to practice this method of responsible intercourse. Since both the birth control pill and the condom aren’t 100% effective, combining the use of both of them together will increase your chances of staying safe.
It’s also vital to be aware of a partner’s sexual history, and to seek “medical clearance” before engaging in a new relationship. This is especially important for those in polygamous relationships (more than one sexual partner at a time), because a “chain” of unsafe sex can start with any partner and spread rapidly through a previously healthy group.
The only way that there are going to be less unwanted pregnancies, and less transmission of STD’s is if all sexually active people – both young and old -- are educated in the concepts of safe sex and what it means to them. In particular, in parts of the country where access to information is more challenging (such as some underprivileged areas), it’s vital that communities step forward and provide this education.
Young men, in particular, need to understand the implications and risks of unprotected sex and what it can mean to their lives when they have an unwanted pregnancy or find out that they have a STD. Safe sex starts with education and knowledge, neither of which any young teen can do without.
www.MySecretConfessionSpace.com
by: Jim Shaw
Gone are the days when people could have multiple partners without the use of a condom, and other safe sex practices.
Safe sex is all about keeping yourself, and your partner, protected from the complications of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted disease.
Although the concept of safe sex seems easy enough to understand, more and more people -- young people in particular -- seem to be missing the point, or missing the concept of how to accomplish safe sex. And just how safe and reliable is that condom when it comes right down to it? A condom can’t promise 100% protection from AIDS or from pregnancy.
For males in particular, another problem with practicing safe sex is remembering to take the time to ...
(a) have a condom ready
(b) know how to use it properly, and
(c) take the time to put it on.
It’s important to educate young people today in the proper use of condoms so that they understand when and how to use them. There’s no point to having a condom ready if neither partner is going to take time to enforce its use. In a very practical sense, however, although a condom is typically worn by the male partner during heterosexual intercourse (and typically by both partners in a homosexual one), the responsibility for proper condom-IQ is borne by both partners.
Fortunately, there are more and more products appearing on the market to help people to plan for safe sex and to practice this method of responsible intercourse. Since both the birth control pill and the condom aren’t 100% effective, combining the use of both of them together will increase your chances of staying safe.
It’s also vital to be aware of a partner’s sexual history, and to seek “medical clearance” before engaging in a new relationship. This is especially important for those in polygamous relationships (more than one sexual partner at a time), because a “chain” of unsafe sex can start with any partner and spread rapidly through a previously healthy group.
The only way that there are going to be less unwanted pregnancies, and less transmission of STD’s is if all sexually active people – both young and old -- are educated in the concepts of safe sex and what it means to them. In particular, in parts of the country where access to information is more challenging (such as some underprivileged areas), it’s vital that communities step forward and provide this education.
Young men, in particular, need to understand the implications and risks of unprotected sex and what it can mean to their lives when they have an unwanted pregnancy or find out that they have a STD. Safe sex starts with education and knowledge, neither of which any young teen can do without.
www.MySecretConfessionSpace.com
Wednesday, November 29, 2006
Fifty Mistakes Men Make When Having Sex
Fifty Mistakes Men Make When Having Sex
by: Rod Phillips
Just in case you thought the route to sexual bliss was straightforward, here's a list of things to avoid. They're all pretty much guaranteed passion killers for a woman - and if your check list contains more than ten of these, you've got some serious work to do on your sexual etiquette!
1 Going straight for the naughty bits
You've got to be sensitive to the fact that a woman is more likely to be irritated than aroused when a man dives for her breasts and vulva after a few minutes' perfunctory kissing. While you might get to feel the goods, you're not going to be invited back.
2 Not knowing how to kiss sensitively
Passionate or sensitive, firm or gentle, good kissing is an art form which lubricates the wheels of sex and gets everyone in the mood for more intimacy. Learn how to kiss, and do it well. That doesn't mean sticking your tongue in her mouth and wiggling it around like you're trying to floss her teeth.
3 Being too rough when you touch her erogenous zones
Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to our penises. So if you touch her clitoris with as much force as you apply to your penis when you masturbate, she's most likely to howl with pain - and then kick you out of bed. Remember: the clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis, in a much smaller area. Treat it with respect. It's the only organ in the human body that has no function other than to provide pleasure.
4 Not stroking and caressing her
A woman's second biggest sex organ is her skin. (The first is her mind.) You can make your touch on any part of her body into a sexy caress, but you have to focus on what you're doing and put some sexual energy into your fingers while you caress her. That means not thinking about the baseball game while you're giving her a sensuous massage.
5 Locking onto her nipples like a suckling child
Yes, we know it's fun for you. To her it just feels like she's got a teething infant hanging off her breast. Lick and kiss around her whole breast before you go for the nipple, then flick your tongue gently across the nipple and around the areolae. If she likes what you're doing, you'll know by her moans of pleasure.
6 Biting on her earlobe because you think it's sexy
She may not agree with you. In which case it will just be irritating for her, not a prelude to her turning into the sex goddess you thought you were summoning up.
7 Leaving a hickey on her neck like a teenage badge of honor
If you're over sixteen, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you're obviously under sixteen.
8 Not shaving before sex
When you're in the throes of passion, having your beard stubble brushing back and forth across her face isn't so sexy, but at least it'll produce a red rash she can remember you by.
9 Not washing your pits and bits before you have sex
If there's one thing that turns women off, it's a lover whose personal hygiene isn't up to scratch. Even though men have a higher smell threshold than women, keeping yourself clean - especially in the more intimate corners of your anatomy (like under your foreskin) - is not just a matter of courtesy, it's a ticket back to the bedroom.
10 Forgetting she has a sensuous body waiting to be stroked
Pretty much the same point we already made up above, but worth remembering: touch doesn't just have to be in the bedroom, a prelude to sex. In fact, if you touch her a lot in a loving way during the day, she'll be ready to melt into your arms by bedtime.
11 Trying to get your fingers in her underwear before she's ready
This is the mark of a gauche teenage lover who wants to get to fourth base just so he feels more accomplished as a lover. Take your time, let things evolve naturally, and apply a little sensuous touch on the fabric covering her vulva before you dive under the elastic. The hint of what's to come is often more erotic than diving straight in there.
12 Dropping the condom on the floor
Must we say why this isn't the most popular move post sex? Dispose of the condom tidily in a tissue - put it in the bin rather than down the toilet, or it's likely to float there for some time to come as a reminder of your sexual encounter.
13 Going straight for the clitoris during oral sex or masturbation
Like we said above, most women just find this irritating - and, if you press too hard, bloody uncomfortable too. Your first caresses should be on her labia, the lips of her vulva, then as she gets more aroused, you can work nearer the clitoris itself. But even when she's aroused a soft touch along the sides of her clitoris may be more acceptable for her than any pressure on the head of her clitoris.
14 Breaking off just as she's getting to the point where she wants you to keep going at all costs
Women often get so lost in their sexual arousal that they forget to give feedback. In reality, the fact that she's lying there quietly may actually mean she loves what you're doing; if so, you should feel her pressing her vulva against your mouth or fingers, or shifting like she wants more touch, rather than giving you a sense that she'd rather be out shopping.
15 Undressing her clumsily
Listen up guys: you don't have to be able to take her bra off with one hand, behind her back, while kissing her. In fact, in my experience, it's better if you don't try. She probably puts it on by fastening it first and pulling it over her head anyway. Let her take off the garments you don't understand, and whenever you do lend a helping hand, undress her gently and sensuously rather than pulling at her clothes like you're ripping the paper off a birthday present.
16 Undressing yourself inelegantly - which includes taking your socks off after your underwear
Nothing is more comical (or pathetic) to a woman than a man in his socks and pants. Except possibly a naked man wearing socks. If you don't understand why, just accept that it is so.
17 Expecting her to shave for you
You might like the baby smooth look around her vulva, but she's more likely to see this as a prickly route to itchy stubble. Ask her nicely if you'd like her to go smooth. If she says "no", accept that graciously.
18 Sticking a finger up her vagina before she's ready, willing and able
In general, women do like to be penetrated just as much as men like to penetrate, which, considering how much men like to stick things up there, is just as well. However, she'll only want you to do this when the time is right - i.e. when she's aroused enough to enjoy it. If you're giving her clitoris attention, there'll be a point where she might like to have a finger or two inside her. If so, be gentle, and start with one finger on her G-spot. Make sure she enjoys this before you put another one up there. Two fingers on her G-spot is probably as much as she will want. And be just as firm with your touch as she finds pleasurable. If you don't know what the G-spot is, then do some Google-ing before you get into bed.
19 Entering her without asking her first
What is it with men and these dark, wet places? Just keep in mind that she decides how far sex goes, and if she doesn't want to enjoy intercourse then don't press the point. This applies especially to any strategy that involves nudging your penis into position and then pressing forward without her consent, verbal or otherwise! Having said that, you don't always need to ask "May I enter you?" though it can be a romantic and sexy thing to do if you're looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, that's most likely to happen in the man on top position, which, by the way, remains everyone's most popular position for sex.
20 Pecking away around her vagina with your penis if you can't find the way in
This is, by all accounts, many women's least desired sexual moment. If for any reason you can't get in, don't pretend you're in control and keep trying. Simply ask her to guide you in with her hand. That way you'll save a lot of embarrassment, not to mention time.
20 Pumping away without regard for her pleasure
When you've achieved your most desired objective, and your penis is inside her, you'll want to show a certain consideration for her pleasure. She may want hard and fast thrusting, but it's best to start slow and shallow. While you're making love, she'll most appreciate your efforts if you're masculine and strong - which is to say, if you act like you know what you're doing, you're considerate and gentle at first, and work up to firm and strong thrusts if she likes them.
21 Expecting her to make love bottom up
Yes, we all enjoy rear entry. But she may be more self-conscious of her butt, she may feel like a sex object, and she may not like the rather impersonal nature of this position. If you really want to do it, and you explain to her why you like it so much (i.e. "It's incredibly exciting to see your gorgeous bottom as we make love", rather than "I get so turned on fucking from behind") she'll probably co-operate from time to time, even if it's only on your birthday and hers.
22 Thrusting too hard
If you happen to be well-endowed, or she has a short vagina, and you thrust too hard, you may end up banging her cervix. This can make her shriek, though sadly not with sexual pleasure.
22 Coming before she's got excited or begun to enjoy sex
There aren't many men who can last long enough to really satisfy a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and G-spot stimulation. If you can't be bothered learning how to be a long lasting lover, then at least have the decency to keep going for a few minutes so she gets some pleasure. This isn't hard, and there are plenty of ways you can learn to extend intercourse and not come so quickly. Do some research on Google for "end premature ejaculation". See also number 26.
23 Not coming at all - or losing your erection when you put the condom on
If you're one of that rarer breed of men who has trouble coming during intercourse, may we respectfully suggest you see a sexual therapist? You can then deal with this problem, learn to come more quickly, and avoid giving her a numb vagina and an intimate knowledge of the exact shade of color you painted your bedroom ceiling. If you're one of the many men who lose their erection when the condom comes out of its foil wrapper and onto the head of your penis, it's back to Google for a search on, surprisingly enough, "losing erection when putting on a condom".
24 Asking her how it was for her
This is not the mark of a confident lover, so if you really want some feedback, phrase it thus: "Did you prefer it when I did X or Y?"
25 Not going down on her when she wants oral pleasure
Since oral sex on a woman is so pleasurable for most men, this seems unlikely. But if it's a question of the smell or taste being a bit much for you, try taking a shower or bath together before sex. If you just want her to fellate you and you simply can't be bothered to reciprocate with cunnilingus, then reading these tips isn't going to help you much anyway.
26 Failing to give her pleasure if you come quickly
Remember the motto: "Women come first!" As a man, you're probably going to lose interest in sex once you've ejaculated - at least for a while. In which case, make sure she comes through oral sex or masturbation before you enter her. That way, she gets her pleasure and so do you. (With the added bonus that it doesn't matter so much if you shoot quite quickly.) Just to enter her, thrust a few times, come, roll over and forget about her is the mark of a boorish lover, and you wouldn't want to be one of those, now would you?
27 Trying to force her head towards your cock
Let's face it: she's either willing to give your oral sex or she's not. Trying to persuade her to get her lips around your glans by edging her head towards your groin is a bit crass, to say the least. If she doesn't seem to be heading that way as things hot up, just ask her: "There's something you could do that'd give me so much pleasure....."
28 Trying to force her head further down on her cock when she's giving you oral
Yes, once again we know it feels good, but you have to be considerate about it. She's not likely to be a deep throat expert, and there's no reason why she should be, since most of the pleasure of oral sex comes from the action of her tongue on your glans. Keep your hands away from her head unless it's to gently stroke her hair, and you won't feel the temptation to encourage her to go deeper.
29 Holding her head when she goes down on you
Pretty similar to number 28, but this time, holding her head and moving it up and down on your penis is the no-no. If you think that's acceptable sexual etiquette you've been watching too many of the wrong kind of films.
30 Coming in her mouth without asking her if it's OK
The taste of semen is very much an acquired taste; unfortunately it's one that few woman ever acquire. If she doesn't like it, ask her to keep going until the last minute, then tell her when you're going to come so she can move back and finish the job with a well-lubed hand. You'll get just as much pleasure, and she won't have to gag or spit your semen out. By the way, accidentally forgetting to tell her you're going to come is not permitted.
31 Thinking that a porno movie has anything to do with real life
Porn is not good for men's egos. Real life isn't like that, OK?
32 Switching on a hard core porn film without asking whether that's OK with her
Even if you find it arousing, she's not likely to, for the simple reason that much of the porn available today is fairly abusive to women. Ask her first, and if you want to share the erotic thrill of watching people have sex, get hold of some romantic sex movies that will appeal to her emotions as well as her sex drive.
33 Apologizing for the size of your penis
Just in case you ever feel inclined to apologize for not matching up to the guys in the wrong kind of movies, just remember: 98% of women would rather have a sensitive lover than one with a big penis. If you're with one of the other two percent, you need to find a new lover.
34 Answering honestly when she asks you what your last lover was like
Guys, when a woman asks you if her butt is too big, do you tell her the truth? Enough said. Your current lover is always the most gorgeous, sexy and desirable woman around. Even if she doesn't really believe it, that's what she wants to hear.
35 Asking her if she'd mind if her girlfriend joined you
Threesomes can be exciting, but they usually just cause jealousy and upset when one partner unexpectedly finds they don't want their partner making out with another person. Needless to say, this usually happens to the woman. So be sure, be very sure, you know what you're doing before you try this one.
36 Making her do all the work
Changing positions is all very well, but asking her to ride you each time you have sex seems a bit one sided. Vary the positions, have fun, and take equal shares of the work. Don't just settle for one favorite position and flog it to death.
37 Trying to slip it in the back door by "accident"
Anal sex is something that a lot fewer couples have tried than you'd believe from what you read on the internet or see in porn. It's something you might like to try, but you both have to want to do it. She's not likely to respond with warmth if you keep pretending you're poking her anus by accident. And she won't believe you if you tell her you just didn't want to ask for directions, even if that's how you are when you're driving around lost, looking for somewhere.
38 Photographing or videoing your lovemaking
Unfortunately, as many jilted lovers can testify, taking pictures while you enjoy sex is putting power in the hands of the person who has the pictures. A good compromise is to link your video camera direct to your TV without recording the images. That way you can have the erotic thrill of seeing yourself during sex without having to worry about seeing yourself having sex on the internet in a few years' time.
39 Getting into the same old same old routine every time you have sex
Above almost everything else (except possibly being deeply in love), ringing the changes when you make love is the thing that will keep your sex life fresh and passionate. You'll be surprised just how exciting it can be when you try a new position. This is simply because every position puts a different pressure on the penis and vagina, or gives you a new perspective of your partner's body, or perhaps allows you to see entering your partner's body, and so on. Exactly which sex position feels most pleasurable will depend on the shape and size and shape of your penis and her vagina.
40 Not romancing her
Women love romance. Men put up with it, or do it to get sex. True or false? Probably true, but the romantic "chase" is deeply rewarding for most men (i.e. seducing and winning a woman makes us feel deeply fulfilled), and romance is an essential part of that process. If you're able to continue being romantic once you're an established couple, then you set yourself head and shoulders above the rest of your fellow men, and you stand that much greater chance of getting regular, passionate sex.
41 Slapping her buttocks without checking if she's into a little dominance play
No mater how exciting you may find the idea, don't land a heavy slap on her butt without trying a few lighter ones first and seeing how she reacts. If you do, you may get a slap in the face. Or a kick in the balls.
42 Trying to do sex by the book (or the film)
Don't copy the moves you see in porn films. They lack a certain something. Consideration for the woman, that would be.
43 Playing with her anus before she's excited enough to appreciate it
When you're masturbating her clitoris, and you have a finger inside her vagina, you may find that she responds well to a little anal play. If you have the position right, you can use your little finger to tickle gently at her anus as your forefinger plays with her G-spot. This may well add to her excitement - especially if she's on the verge of orgasm. If you try this before she's really excited and has stopped caring what's happening to her, you might just turn her off completely, so it might not be a bad idea to check it out with her in advance.
44 Deafening her by shouting in her ear when you come
An easy mistake to make, especially if you like to have sex in the man on top position lying close to your partner, and you like to let the world know when you come. Unfortunately she won't let you do it a second time, so bury your face in the pillow or something if you're prone to uncontrollable vocal ejaculations as well as physical ones.
45 Talking dirty without checking if she likes it
Generally a little consensual dirty talk between adults adds to the excitement. The first time your partner tells you to f*** her hot wet c*** you'll see what I mean. If that hasn't happened yet, and you'd like it to, encourage her to talk dirty to you when you're making love, and see what pops out of her mouth. You might be surprised. Remember legend has it that the quiet ones are often the most surprising in bed!
46 Lying on top of her without supporting your weight on your arms
Always remember: a gentleman takes his weight on his arms. Or elbows, or knees, or something.
47 Ejaculating on her without asking permission
Coming between her breasts or on her vulva or bottom can be incredibly exciting, but it's nice to ask her first. She may see it less a mark of your ejaculatory prowess or manhood than a mess to clear up.
48 Not controlling your ejaculation
Like we said before, a good lover makes the effort to make sure his partner is satisfied before he is.
49 Not spending some time with her in your arms after sex
A man who gets up after he's done the business and sets about his daily routine is probably top of most women's sexual dislikes. For her, this is a special time when a woman feels very close to her partner. She takes much longer to come down from sex than a man does, she wants to know she's loved and special, and she wants to feel adored by the man to whom she has just given her most precious asset. The very least you can do is to spend a half hour or so cuddling her while you relax after making love, even if you're not going to spend the night with her.
50 Not cleaning up after sex
And since sex inevitably involves a certain amount of fluids, keep the tissues handy for afterwards. If you feel like being chivalrous, offer her a warm towel to clean herself, especially if you aren't using condoms.
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by: Rod Phillips
Just in case you thought the route to sexual bliss was straightforward, here's a list of things to avoid. They're all pretty much guaranteed passion killers for a woman - and if your check list contains more than ten of these, you've got some serious work to do on your sexual etiquette!
1 Going straight for the naughty bits
You've got to be sensitive to the fact that a woman is more likely to be irritated than aroused when a man dives for her breasts and vulva after a few minutes' perfunctory kissing. While you might get to feel the goods, you're not going to be invited back.
2 Not knowing how to kiss sensitively
Passionate or sensitive, firm or gentle, good kissing is an art form which lubricates the wheels of sex and gets everyone in the mood for more intimacy. Learn how to kiss, and do it well. That doesn't mean sticking your tongue in her mouth and wiggling it around like you're trying to floss her teeth.
3 Being too rough when you touch her erogenous zones
Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to our penises. So if you touch her clitoris with as much force as you apply to your penis when you masturbate, she's most likely to howl with pain - and then kick you out of bed. Remember: the clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis, in a much smaller area. Treat it with respect. It's the only organ in the human body that has no function other than to provide pleasure.
4 Not stroking and caressing her
A woman's second biggest sex organ is her skin. (The first is her mind.) You can make your touch on any part of her body into a sexy caress, but you have to focus on what you're doing and put some sexual energy into your fingers while you caress her. That means not thinking about the baseball game while you're giving her a sensuous massage.
5 Locking onto her nipples like a suckling child
Yes, we know it's fun for you. To her it just feels like she's got a teething infant hanging off her breast. Lick and kiss around her whole breast before you go for the nipple, then flick your tongue gently across the nipple and around the areolae. If she likes what you're doing, you'll know by her moans of pleasure.
6 Biting on her earlobe because you think it's sexy
She may not agree with you. In which case it will just be irritating for her, not a prelude to her turning into the sex goddess you thought you were summoning up.
7 Leaving a hickey on her neck like a teenage badge of honor
If you're over sixteen, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you're obviously under sixteen.
8 Not shaving before sex
When you're in the throes of passion, having your beard stubble brushing back and forth across her face isn't so sexy, but at least it'll produce a red rash she can remember you by.
9 Not washing your pits and bits before you have sex
If there's one thing that turns women off, it's a lover whose personal hygiene isn't up to scratch. Even though men have a higher smell threshold than women, keeping yourself clean - especially in the more intimate corners of your anatomy (like under your foreskin) - is not just a matter of courtesy, it's a ticket back to the bedroom.
10 Forgetting she has a sensuous body waiting to be stroked
Pretty much the same point we already made up above, but worth remembering: touch doesn't just have to be in the bedroom, a prelude to sex. In fact, if you touch her a lot in a loving way during the day, she'll be ready to melt into your arms by bedtime.
11 Trying to get your fingers in her underwear before she's ready
This is the mark of a gauche teenage lover who wants to get to fourth base just so he feels more accomplished as a lover. Take your time, let things evolve naturally, and apply a little sensuous touch on the fabric covering her vulva before you dive under the elastic. The hint of what's to come is often more erotic than diving straight in there.
12 Dropping the condom on the floor
Must we say why this isn't the most popular move post sex? Dispose of the condom tidily in a tissue - put it in the bin rather than down the toilet, or it's likely to float there for some time to come as a reminder of your sexual encounter.
13 Going straight for the clitoris during oral sex or masturbation
Like we said above, most women just find this irritating - and, if you press too hard, bloody uncomfortable too. Your first caresses should be on her labia, the lips of her vulva, then as she gets more aroused, you can work nearer the clitoris itself. But even when she's aroused a soft touch along the sides of her clitoris may be more acceptable for her than any pressure on the head of her clitoris.
14 Breaking off just as she's getting to the point where she wants you to keep going at all costs
Women often get so lost in their sexual arousal that they forget to give feedback. In reality, the fact that she's lying there quietly may actually mean she loves what you're doing; if so, you should feel her pressing her vulva against your mouth or fingers, or shifting like she wants more touch, rather than giving you a sense that she'd rather be out shopping.
15 Undressing her clumsily
Listen up guys: you don't have to be able to take her bra off with one hand, behind her back, while kissing her. In fact, in my experience, it's better if you don't try. She probably puts it on by fastening it first and pulling it over her head anyway. Let her take off the garments you don't understand, and whenever you do lend a helping hand, undress her gently and sensuously rather than pulling at her clothes like you're ripping the paper off a birthday present.
16 Undressing yourself inelegantly - which includes taking your socks off after your underwear
Nothing is more comical (or pathetic) to a woman than a man in his socks and pants. Except possibly a naked man wearing socks. If you don't understand why, just accept that it is so.
17 Expecting her to shave for you
You might like the baby smooth look around her vulva, but she's more likely to see this as a prickly route to itchy stubble. Ask her nicely if you'd like her to go smooth. If she says "no", accept that graciously.
18 Sticking a finger up her vagina before she's ready, willing and able
In general, women do like to be penetrated just as much as men like to penetrate, which, considering how much men like to stick things up there, is just as well. However, she'll only want you to do this when the time is right - i.e. when she's aroused enough to enjoy it. If you're giving her clitoris attention, there'll be a point where she might like to have a finger or two inside her. If so, be gentle, and start with one finger on her G-spot. Make sure she enjoys this before you put another one up there. Two fingers on her G-spot is probably as much as she will want. And be just as firm with your touch as she finds pleasurable. If you don't know what the G-spot is, then do some Google-ing before you get into bed.
19 Entering her without asking her first
What is it with men and these dark, wet places? Just keep in mind that she decides how far sex goes, and if she doesn't want to enjoy intercourse then don't press the point. This applies especially to any strategy that involves nudging your penis into position and then pressing forward without her consent, verbal or otherwise! Having said that, you don't always need to ask "May I enter you?" though it can be a romantic and sexy thing to do if you're looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, that's most likely to happen in the man on top position, which, by the way, remains everyone's most popular position for sex.
20 Pecking away around her vagina with your penis if you can't find the way in
This is, by all accounts, many women's least desired sexual moment. If for any reason you can't get in, don't pretend you're in control and keep trying. Simply ask her to guide you in with her hand. That way you'll save a lot of embarrassment, not to mention time.
20 Pumping away without regard for her pleasure
When you've achieved your most desired objective, and your penis is inside her, you'll want to show a certain consideration for her pleasure. She may want hard and fast thrusting, but it's best to start slow and shallow. While you're making love, she'll most appreciate your efforts if you're masculine and strong - which is to say, if you act like you know what you're doing, you're considerate and gentle at first, and work up to firm and strong thrusts if she likes them.
21 Expecting her to make love bottom up
Yes, we all enjoy rear entry. But she may be more self-conscious of her butt, she may feel like a sex object, and she may not like the rather impersonal nature of this position. If you really want to do it, and you explain to her why you like it so much (i.e. "It's incredibly exciting to see your gorgeous bottom as we make love", rather than "I get so turned on fucking from behind") she'll probably co-operate from time to time, even if it's only on your birthday and hers.
22 Thrusting too hard
If you happen to be well-endowed, or she has a short vagina, and you thrust too hard, you may end up banging her cervix. This can make her shriek, though sadly not with sexual pleasure.
22 Coming before she's got excited or begun to enjoy sex
There aren't many men who can last long enough to really satisfy a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and G-spot stimulation. If you can't be bothered learning how to be a long lasting lover, then at least have the decency to keep going for a few minutes so she gets some pleasure. This isn't hard, and there are plenty of ways you can learn to extend intercourse and not come so quickly. Do some research on Google for "end premature ejaculation". See also number 26.
23 Not coming at all - or losing your erection when you put the condom on
If you're one of that rarer breed of men who has trouble coming during intercourse, may we respectfully suggest you see a sexual therapist? You can then deal with this problem, learn to come more quickly, and avoid giving her a numb vagina and an intimate knowledge of the exact shade of color you painted your bedroom ceiling. If you're one of the many men who lose their erection when the condom comes out of its foil wrapper and onto the head of your penis, it's back to Google for a search on, surprisingly enough, "losing erection when putting on a condom".
24 Asking her how it was for her
This is not the mark of a confident lover, so if you really want some feedback, phrase it thus: "Did you prefer it when I did X or Y?"
25 Not going down on her when she wants oral pleasure
Since oral sex on a woman is so pleasurable for most men, this seems unlikely. But if it's a question of the smell or taste being a bit much for you, try taking a shower or bath together before sex. If you just want her to fellate you and you simply can't be bothered to reciprocate with cunnilingus, then reading these tips isn't going to help you much anyway.
26 Failing to give her pleasure if you come quickly
Remember the motto: "Women come first!" As a man, you're probably going to lose interest in sex once you've ejaculated - at least for a while. In which case, make sure she comes through oral sex or masturbation before you enter her. That way, she gets her pleasure and so do you. (With the added bonus that it doesn't matter so much if you shoot quite quickly.) Just to enter her, thrust a few times, come, roll over and forget about her is the mark of a boorish lover, and you wouldn't want to be one of those, now would you?
27 Trying to force her head towards your cock
Let's face it: she's either willing to give your oral sex or she's not. Trying to persuade her to get her lips around your glans by edging her head towards your groin is a bit crass, to say the least. If she doesn't seem to be heading that way as things hot up, just ask her: "There's something you could do that'd give me so much pleasure....."
28 Trying to force her head further down on her cock when she's giving you oral
Yes, once again we know it feels good, but you have to be considerate about it. She's not likely to be a deep throat expert, and there's no reason why she should be, since most of the pleasure of oral sex comes from the action of her tongue on your glans. Keep your hands away from her head unless it's to gently stroke her hair, and you won't feel the temptation to encourage her to go deeper.
29 Holding her head when she goes down on you
Pretty similar to number 28, but this time, holding her head and moving it up and down on your penis is the no-no. If you think that's acceptable sexual etiquette you've been watching too many of the wrong kind of films.
30 Coming in her mouth without asking her if it's OK
The taste of semen is very much an acquired taste; unfortunately it's one that few woman ever acquire. If she doesn't like it, ask her to keep going until the last minute, then tell her when you're going to come so she can move back and finish the job with a well-lubed hand. You'll get just as much pleasure, and she won't have to gag or spit your semen out. By the way, accidentally forgetting to tell her you're going to come is not permitted.
31 Thinking that a porno movie has anything to do with real life
Porn is not good for men's egos. Real life isn't like that, OK?
32 Switching on a hard core porn film without asking whether that's OK with her
Even if you find it arousing, she's not likely to, for the simple reason that much of the porn available today is fairly abusive to women. Ask her first, and if you want to share the erotic thrill of watching people have sex, get hold of some romantic sex movies that will appeal to her emotions as well as her sex drive.
33 Apologizing for the size of your penis
Just in case you ever feel inclined to apologize for not matching up to the guys in the wrong kind of movies, just remember: 98% of women would rather have a sensitive lover than one with a big penis. If you're with one of the other two percent, you need to find a new lover.
34 Answering honestly when she asks you what your last lover was like
Guys, when a woman asks you if her butt is too big, do you tell her the truth? Enough said. Your current lover is always the most gorgeous, sexy and desirable woman around. Even if she doesn't really believe it, that's what she wants to hear.
35 Asking her if she'd mind if her girlfriend joined you
Threesomes can be exciting, but they usually just cause jealousy and upset when one partner unexpectedly finds they don't want their partner making out with another person. Needless to say, this usually happens to the woman. So be sure, be very sure, you know what you're doing before you try this one.
36 Making her do all the work
Changing positions is all very well, but asking her to ride you each time you have sex seems a bit one sided. Vary the positions, have fun, and take equal shares of the work. Don't just settle for one favorite position and flog it to death.
37 Trying to slip it in the back door by "accident"
Anal sex is something that a lot fewer couples have tried than you'd believe from what you read on the internet or see in porn. It's something you might like to try, but you both have to want to do it. She's not likely to respond with warmth if you keep pretending you're poking her anus by accident. And she won't believe you if you tell her you just didn't want to ask for directions, even if that's how you are when you're driving around lost, looking for somewhere.
38 Photographing or videoing your lovemaking
Unfortunately, as many jilted lovers can testify, taking pictures while you enjoy sex is putting power in the hands of the person who has the pictures. A good compromise is to link your video camera direct to your TV without recording the images. That way you can have the erotic thrill of seeing yourself during sex without having to worry about seeing yourself having sex on the internet in a few years' time.
39 Getting into the same old same old routine every time you have sex
Above almost everything else (except possibly being deeply in love), ringing the changes when you make love is the thing that will keep your sex life fresh and passionate. You'll be surprised just how exciting it can be when you try a new position. This is simply because every position puts a different pressure on the penis and vagina, or gives you a new perspective of your partner's body, or perhaps allows you to see entering your partner's body, and so on. Exactly which sex position feels most pleasurable will depend on the shape and size and shape of your penis and her vagina.
40 Not romancing her
Women love romance. Men put up with it, or do it to get sex. True or false? Probably true, but the romantic "chase" is deeply rewarding for most men (i.e. seducing and winning a woman makes us feel deeply fulfilled), and romance is an essential part of that process. If you're able to continue being romantic once you're an established couple, then you set yourself head and shoulders above the rest of your fellow men, and you stand that much greater chance of getting regular, passionate sex.
41 Slapping her buttocks without checking if she's into a little dominance play
No mater how exciting you may find the idea, don't land a heavy slap on her butt without trying a few lighter ones first and seeing how she reacts. If you do, you may get a slap in the face. Or a kick in the balls.
42 Trying to do sex by the book (or the film)
Don't copy the moves you see in porn films. They lack a certain something. Consideration for the woman, that would be.
43 Playing with her anus before she's excited enough to appreciate it
When you're masturbating her clitoris, and you have a finger inside her vagina, you may find that she responds well to a little anal play. If you have the position right, you can use your little finger to tickle gently at her anus as your forefinger plays with her G-spot. This may well add to her excitement - especially if she's on the verge of orgasm. If you try this before she's really excited and has stopped caring what's happening to her, you might just turn her off completely, so it might not be a bad idea to check it out with her in advance.
44 Deafening her by shouting in her ear when you come
An easy mistake to make, especially if you like to have sex in the man on top position lying close to your partner, and you like to let the world know when you come. Unfortunately she won't let you do it a second time, so bury your face in the pillow or something if you're prone to uncontrollable vocal ejaculations as well as physical ones.
45 Talking dirty without checking if she likes it
Generally a little consensual dirty talk between adults adds to the excitement. The first time your partner tells you to f*** her hot wet c*** you'll see what I mean. If that hasn't happened yet, and you'd like it to, encourage her to talk dirty to you when you're making love, and see what pops out of her mouth. You might be surprised. Remember legend has it that the quiet ones are often the most surprising in bed!
46 Lying on top of her without supporting your weight on your arms
Always remember: a gentleman takes his weight on his arms. Or elbows, or knees, or something.
47 Ejaculating on her without asking permission
Coming between her breasts or on her vulva or bottom can be incredibly exciting, but it's nice to ask her first. She may see it less a mark of your ejaculatory prowess or manhood than a mess to clear up.
48 Not controlling your ejaculation
Like we said before, a good lover makes the effort to make sure his partner is satisfied before he is.
49 Not spending some time with her in your arms after sex
A man who gets up after he's done the business and sets about his daily routine is probably top of most women's sexual dislikes. For her, this is a special time when a woman feels very close to her partner. She takes much longer to come down from sex than a man does, she wants to know she's loved and special, and she wants to feel adored by the man to whom she has just given her most precious asset. The very least you can do is to spend a half hour or so cuddling her while you relax after making love, even if you're not going to spend the night with her.
50 Not cleaning up after sex
And since sex inevitably involves a certain amount of fluids, keep the tissues handy for afterwards. If you feel like being chivalrous, offer her a warm towel to clean herself, especially if you aren't using condoms.
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Saturday, November 25, 2006
Tips To Being A Great Lover
Tips To Be A Great Lover
by: Gabby Love
Gabby Love states that one of the main thing things to remember when appearing on your first date is to refrain from having sex on the first date. A great lover takes the sex to be a very serious and will include it with a relationship and rarely with someone they barely know.
A great lover knows that women take longer to get in the mood then men do. So planning must be utilized to set the mood. A great lover prepares way ahead prior to the art of love making. Invest into making the time spent together special and romantic.
Send flowers and chocolates ahead of time especially to her job,because the more people who see the flowers the merrier. This will show publicly that she has someone who definitely find her to be special. This will definitely put her in the mood by the time you see her later on during the day.
Another thing to remember when dealing with others is to focus on your mate as soon as they walk in the door and not just when they get in the bed. This keeps you from being boring and predictable. Also don't start the love making late in the night because the most automatic thing to happen is to fall asleep after climax. Hey(Men), take a nap before being with your mate if possible.
Ladies,quit playing the booty game. Don't play games. Let the men know early on that you are in the mood for sex. That way the time for foreplay will be longer and even more intense. The man doesn't have to waste time for spending time trying to talk the woman into sex.
The main area of being a great lover is that of showing variety.
1. Variety can come in the area of exploring different sexual positions.
2. Focus on making love during different times of the day instead of the same time of the week and night.
3. Take your time during love making and after play.
The above tips can only enhance your overall love making experience. Gabby Love says to take your time and always focus on improving oneself to be a better lover.
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by: Gabby Love
Gabby Love states that one of the main thing things to remember when appearing on your first date is to refrain from having sex on the first date. A great lover takes the sex to be a very serious and will include it with a relationship and rarely with someone they barely know.
A great lover knows that women take longer to get in the mood then men do. So planning must be utilized to set the mood. A great lover prepares way ahead prior to the art of love making. Invest into making the time spent together special and romantic.
Send flowers and chocolates ahead of time especially to her job,because the more people who see the flowers the merrier. This will show publicly that she has someone who definitely find her to be special. This will definitely put her in the mood by the time you see her later on during the day.
Another thing to remember when dealing with others is to focus on your mate as soon as they walk in the door and not just when they get in the bed. This keeps you from being boring and predictable. Also don't start the love making late in the night because the most automatic thing to happen is to fall asleep after climax. Hey(Men), take a nap before being with your mate if possible.
Ladies,quit playing the booty game. Don't play games. Let the men know early on that you are in the mood for sex. That way the time for foreplay will be longer and even more intense. The man doesn't have to waste time for spending time trying to talk the woman into sex.
The main area of being a great lover is that of showing variety.
1. Variety can come in the area of exploring different sexual positions.
2. Focus on making love during different times of the day instead of the same time of the week and night.
3. Take your time during love making and after play.
The above tips can only enhance your overall love making experience. Gabby Love says to take your time and always focus on improving oneself to be a better lover.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Friday, November 24, 2006
Hot Lingerie
Hot Lingerie
by: Haley Smith
While lingerie is certainly something private and intimate, it is also something that changes with the times, bringing in new fashion every year. Thongs and their likes are going to be around maybe forever, but that doesn’t prevent a few new trends from coming in.
Boy Shorts
Boy shorts are the latest in hot lingerie. Boy shorts are styled similar to boys’ underwear and have snug fits that enhance your shape and make you look sexier. Boy shorts come in all varieties, and can cover your back completely or leave major portions of it uncovered. Boy shorts come in cotton, polyester, silk, satin, and micro-fiber. As for styles, you can choose from laced, decorative or scalloped edging. You can also get double layer laced boy shorts that have a second layer inside.
Baby Dolls
Baby dolls are like negligees with a formed cup near the breasts and an attached loose fitting skirt that falls somewhere in the region between the belly button and the hips. The baby doll design is generally see-through. There are several enticing variations that provide excitement. They come in a variety of materials and have additional attractions like matching G-strings. You can also get them with peek-a-boo cups that partially expose the breasts or nipples, and tie closures in which the garment opens or closes with a bow tie. Look around and you’re sure to find some real sexy designs.
Chemises
A chemise is a short under dress or slip and is usually made of see-through material. Chemises also come with matching G-strings. Chemises come with stretch mesh or stretch lace with a lot of tantalizing designs and teasing variations. Polka dots are one of the many attractive design features. Add-ons could include fringes (yum decorative thin strips hanging from the hem line may be made of beads or other equally appealing options), open busts/tips, in which little or no coverage is provided fro the busts.
Crotchless Panties
There are panties and panties, and there are several that can make your mouth water. Crotchless panties are panties that have a convenient slit in the fabric covering the crotch area. These panties come to you in a variety of fabrics and with enticing variations. Fishnet is a coarse open mesh fabric that adds to your sex appeal. You can imagine what the fishnet crotchless panties can do to you. You can also get embroidered crotchless panties. Satin crotchless panties are the slippery ones, so better be careful!
G-Strings
The mention of G-strings is enough to arouse many a man. They are those triangular patches of fabric that are connected around the waist and leave the buttocks completely exposed. You can get a fairly wide variety here. You can opt for lace and pearls, velvet or even leather G-strings.
Thongs
Thongs are the evergreen item in lingerie and may perhaps never go out. While a lot of new styles are giving it a run for the money, thongs have so far asserted themselves and ensured their superiority.
Bustier
Bustiers are those cute things that extend below the breasts to provide additional support and control. They add to the sex appeal also. You get bustiers n all flavors and feels. There are the stretch and laced fishnet varieties. You also have a number of innovative designs and add-on features.
Corsets
These are the snug fitting garments that cinch the waist and lift the breasts. They can usually be adjusted for comfort using the lacing provided in the back. You can get them in a variety of materials like Jacquards, brocades, satin and leather. Varieties can include laced and tapestry.
Bras
Bras are, of course, the most widely used among lingerie, and have become an essential part of a woman’s underwear. There are so many different bras out there, and some of them do stand out. A right choice of your bras can certainly add to your comfort and sex appeal.
www.SwingSitesReviews.com
by: Haley Smith
While lingerie is certainly something private and intimate, it is also something that changes with the times, bringing in new fashion every year. Thongs and their likes are going to be around maybe forever, but that doesn’t prevent a few new trends from coming in.
Boy Shorts
Boy shorts are the latest in hot lingerie. Boy shorts are styled similar to boys’ underwear and have snug fits that enhance your shape and make you look sexier. Boy shorts come in all varieties, and can cover your back completely or leave major portions of it uncovered. Boy shorts come in cotton, polyester, silk, satin, and micro-fiber. As for styles, you can choose from laced, decorative or scalloped edging. You can also get double layer laced boy shorts that have a second layer inside.
Baby Dolls
Baby dolls are like negligees with a formed cup near the breasts and an attached loose fitting skirt that falls somewhere in the region between the belly button and the hips. The baby doll design is generally see-through. There are several enticing variations that provide excitement. They come in a variety of materials and have additional attractions like matching G-strings. You can also get them with peek-a-boo cups that partially expose the breasts or nipples, and tie closures in which the garment opens or closes with a bow tie. Look around and you’re sure to find some real sexy designs.
Chemises
A chemise is a short under dress or slip and is usually made of see-through material. Chemises also come with matching G-strings. Chemises come with stretch mesh or stretch lace with a lot of tantalizing designs and teasing variations. Polka dots are one of the many attractive design features. Add-ons could include fringes (yum decorative thin strips hanging from the hem line may be made of beads or other equally appealing options), open busts/tips, in which little or no coverage is provided fro the busts.
Crotchless Panties
There are panties and panties, and there are several that can make your mouth water. Crotchless panties are panties that have a convenient slit in the fabric covering the crotch area. These panties come to you in a variety of fabrics and with enticing variations. Fishnet is a coarse open mesh fabric that adds to your sex appeal. You can imagine what the fishnet crotchless panties can do to you. You can also get embroidered crotchless panties. Satin crotchless panties are the slippery ones, so better be careful!
G-Strings
The mention of G-strings is enough to arouse many a man. They are those triangular patches of fabric that are connected around the waist and leave the buttocks completely exposed. You can get a fairly wide variety here. You can opt for lace and pearls, velvet or even leather G-strings.
Thongs
Thongs are the evergreen item in lingerie and may perhaps never go out. While a lot of new styles are giving it a run for the money, thongs have so far asserted themselves and ensured their superiority.
Bustier
Bustiers are those cute things that extend below the breasts to provide additional support and control. They add to the sex appeal also. You get bustiers n all flavors and feels. There are the stretch and laced fishnet varieties. You also have a number of innovative designs and add-on features.
Corsets
These are the snug fitting garments that cinch the waist and lift the breasts. They can usually be adjusted for comfort using the lacing provided in the back. You can get them in a variety of materials like Jacquards, brocades, satin and leather. Varieties can include laced and tapestry.
Bras
Bras are, of course, the most widely used among lingerie, and have become an essential part of a woman’s underwear. There are so many different bras out there, and some of them do stand out. A right choice of your bras can certainly add to your comfort and sex appeal.
www.SwingSitesReviews.com
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
Powerful Visualization Secrets
Powerful Visualization Secrets
by: Michael Lee
One of the kindest persons I've ever met has shared with me some of her visualization secrets to get what you want in life. I want to share them with you too:
1. If you visualize, you have to be in the picture. Example, you visualize a car, its type, model, color, etc. BUT What you should be doing is to visualize yourself riding or driving the car of your dreams.
She said before, she used to visualize a silver suv; what happens is that she sees so many silver suvs passing by, without her in it!
2. It helps if you do visualization at a specific time and do it regularly. DON'T do it just once in a while, then easily give up.
3. Don't be shy in making a request from the universe. Don't think you can't ask for more if you have so many blessings already.
We are encouraged to dream big, and everything that we need is already within us.
4. You can also inject fun in doing visualizations. She says, "My seatmate sees herself jumping up and down while doing the task she is thinking of. Injecting an element of fun encourages you to do it repetitively."
5. Think pictures. She says, "I have been affirming that 'I am a friendly person' but I cannot picture it out in my mind. So I have to create an image that relates to that like I am smiling and shaking hands with a person I just met."
"Like if you say 'I am rich' you have to 'materialize' it. What does being rich mean to you? Is it seeing in the computer so many people ordering your products? Encashing checks? It should be an activity."
6. You have to really desire, believe, and accept. You desire the thing or activity with passion, you believe that it will be yours (that this or something better will be given), and accept it.
Don't be afraid. Acceptance is being prepared for all the attachments and responsibilities that goes with what you asked for.
7. Visualization must be done repeatedly. Initially, you may doubt that it is impossible for you to get what you ask for. But as you do it repeatedly, you tend to "hypnotize" yourself and believe what you are saying. Repetition causes you to focus on your goal.
8. You can do it with your eyes open! You don't have to do meditations (like you need to hear gongs, go through the colors of the rainbow, or say "ommm") first to be able to go into the alpha state. You just need to be relaxed and just have theimage in your mind.
www.swingersitesreviews.com
by: Michael Lee
One of the kindest persons I've ever met has shared with me some of her visualization secrets to get what you want in life. I want to share them with you too:
1. If you visualize, you have to be in the picture. Example, you visualize a car, its type, model, color, etc. BUT What you should be doing is to visualize yourself riding or driving the car of your dreams.
She said before, she used to visualize a silver suv; what happens is that she sees so many silver suvs passing by, without her in it!
2. It helps if you do visualization at a specific time and do it regularly. DON'T do it just once in a while, then easily give up.
3. Don't be shy in making a request from the universe. Don't think you can't ask for more if you have so many blessings already.
We are encouraged to dream big, and everything that we need is already within us.
4. You can also inject fun in doing visualizations. She says, "My seatmate sees herself jumping up and down while doing the task she is thinking of. Injecting an element of fun encourages you to do it repetitively."
5. Think pictures. She says, "I have been affirming that 'I am a friendly person' but I cannot picture it out in my mind. So I have to create an image that relates to that like I am smiling and shaking hands with a person I just met."
"Like if you say 'I am rich' you have to 'materialize' it. What does being rich mean to you? Is it seeing in the computer so many people ordering your products? Encashing checks? It should be an activity."
6. You have to really desire, believe, and accept. You desire the thing or activity with passion, you believe that it will be yours (that this or something better will be given), and accept it.
Don't be afraid. Acceptance is being prepared for all the attachments and responsibilities that goes with what you asked for.
7. Visualization must be done repeatedly. Initially, you may doubt that it is impossible for you to get what you ask for. But as you do it repeatedly, you tend to "hypnotize" yourself and believe what you are saying. Repetition causes you to focus on your goal.
8. You can do it with your eyes open! You don't have to do meditations (like you need to hear gongs, go through the colors of the rainbow, or say "ommm") first to be able to go into the alpha state. You just need to be relaxed and just have theimage in your mind.
www.swingersitesreviews.com
Better Sex Tips For Couples
Better Sex Tips for Couples
by: Leah Holden
One recent survey in America concluded that approximately 50% of new marriage will end in divorce. The same survey also indicated that the trend is on the rise.
This is a sad truth and they are many reasons which contribute to a marital split, for example, lack of trust, lack of communication, lack of a satisfying sex life etc.
In this article, I am going to reveal some better sex tips for couples. Sex is one of the key elements to help maintain a strong and sustainable love life. It helps to build a strong bond between the couples and makes both of them come closer together.
Every couple needs sex for pleasure. It is necessary that all couples maintain their tempo of having sex throughout their married life. Having regular sex has proved to keep the relationship between the couples healthy and also helps to keep the fights at bay. How frequent should a couple have sex? The answer is depends, some couples enjoy having sex once a week, others three times a week and there are other couples who have sex everyday. At the end of the day, it all comes down to what feels right and satisfying for the particular couple.
In order to have better sex, both partners should take active participation in the sexual act. You should know your partner's hot buttons and know when to press it! You should not just be a spectator to the sexual act. In the end, there are chances that you and your partner will not be satisfied and you will be frustrated. A trick to overcome this is to always remember the best sex that both of you had and your only duty is to deliver a sexual performance which surpass the last best experience. This is called continuous sexual improvement and a valuable trick to sustain a life long relationship.
Better sex for couples also includes being confident in the sexual act. You should also look, smell and feel good. No one would like to have sex with a person who has bad breath and whose body gives a foul order.
Sex can be performed anywhere. It is not necessary to have sex in the bedroom. Sex can be performed on the sofa, in the basement,under the stairs, in the car, in the garden shade, on the beach etc. The location and whereabout is only limited to your own imagination and creativity.
To enjoy better sex, both partners should have the same amount of passion between each other. Sex does not start under the sheets. It can start during the day like giving your partner a passionate kiss when he leaves for office or holding each other's hands in the park.
You should never plan the whole sexual act in advance but keep it spontaneous. The moves can change according to the situation. It is fine if you plan the first few moves in advance though to warm up the atmosphere.
Another very important tip for having better sex is foreplay. It is absolutely essential before you get into the actual act of making love. This is because foreplay breaks the ice and also creates a lot of excitement in you and your partner and makes you ready for the final act.
You can also create a romantic environment in your bedroom by lighting exotic candles, keeping the room dimly lit and decorating the room with flowers. This proves to be a perfect setting for your sexual act.
In the end, remember to tell your partner how exciting and pleasurable the whole sexual experience was and you would definitely love to do it more often.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Leah Holden
One recent survey in America concluded that approximately 50% of new marriage will end in divorce. The same survey also indicated that the trend is on the rise.
This is a sad truth and they are many reasons which contribute to a marital split, for example, lack of trust, lack of communication, lack of a satisfying sex life etc.
In this article, I am going to reveal some better sex tips for couples. Sex is one of the key elements to help maintain a strong and sustainable love life. It helps to build a strong bond between the couples and makes both of them come closer together.
Every couple needs sex for pleasure. It is necessary that all couples maintain their tempo of having sex throughout their married life. Having regular sex has proved to keep the relationship between the couples healthy and also helps to keep the fights at bay. How frequent should a couple have sex? The answer is depends, some couples enjoy having sex once a week, others three times a week and there are other couples who have sex everyday. At the end of the day, it all comes down to what feels right and satisfying for the particular couple.
In order to have better sex, both partners should take active participation in the sexual act. You should know your partner's hot buttons and know when to press it! You should not just be a spectator to the sexual act. In the end, there are chances that you and your partner will not be satisfied and you will be frustrated. A trick to overcome this is to always remember the best sex that both of you had and your only duty is to deliver a sexual performance which surpass the last best experience. This is called continuous sexual improvement and a valuable trick to sustain a life long relationship.
Better sex for couples also includes being confident in the sexual act. You should also look, smell and feel good. No one would like to have sex with a person who has bad breath and whose body gives a foul order.
Sex can be performed anywhere. It is not necessary to have sex in the bedroom. Sex can be performed on the sofa, in the basement,under the stairs, in the car, in the garden shade, on the beach etc. The location and whereabout is only limited to your own imagination and creativity.
To enjoy better sex, both partners should have the same amount of passion between each other. Sex does not start under the sheets. It can start during the day like giving your partner a passionate kiss when he leaves for office or holding each other's hands in the park.
You should never plan the whole sexual act in advance but keep it spontaneous. The moves can change according to the situation. It is fine if you plan the first few moves in advance though to warm up the atmosphere.
Another very important tip for having better sex is foreplay. It is absolutely essential before you get into the actual act of making love. This is because foreplay breaks the ice and also creates a lot of excitement in you and your partner and makes you ready for the final act.
You can also create a romantic environment in your bedroom by lighting exotic candles, keeping the room dimly lit and decorating the room with flowers. This proves to be a perfect setting for your sexual act.
In the end, remember to tell your partner how exciting and pleasurable the whole sexual experience was and you would definitely love to do it more often.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
Sex Is A Good Thing
Sex is a Good Thing!
by: Gwenneth Morgan
Orgasmic sex between consenting adults provides more benefits to humans than simple shared intimacy. It's also important in maintaining one's physical and mental health.
Numerous studies have shown the beneficial effects of regular orgasms. Sex has been shown to be a great cardiovascular workout and it has been proven to relieve stress, thereby preventing stress related disorders. Regular, satisfying sex may even help you live longer!
On the other hand, sexual frustration, in my opinion, is one of the greatest problems humans face today.
Now, I'm not talking about a guy who's frustrated because his wife has been out of town for a week. I'm talking about 40 year old guys who have never had sex. I'm talking about women who have been so scarred sexually, that they are hoping to get through the rest of their lives without ever having to have sex again. Where does this come from?
Well, let's start by taking a look at history and religion. In many cultures, sex has been labelled "dirty." And it's evident in the way we interact with each other every day that this perception has endured. One of the most obvious instances is the work "fuck." Apparently left over from even more repressive times, the letters are intials describing a stockade offense, "For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge." Today, it has become one of the most negative and widely used words in American English.
Look at high school boys who already have distorted views of sex before they've even participated in the act. We hear things like, "eat me", "bite me", "suck this," "nice girls don't but naughty girls do," and even as they get older, "she's fun, but she's not the kind of girl you want to marry!" How many good hearted and adventurous teenage girls have submitted to the wishes of their beau, only to be shamed, publicly ridiculed or abandoned?
Then boys become men. They get married to "nice girls" and spend the rest of their lives wishing their wives were more adventurous in bed. How many husbands hassle and harrangue their wives to give them what they need (often without thinking of their wife's needs) until she is fed up and no longer interested at all? Our whole concept of sex has become so twisted that many actually scorn its healthful and bonding effects because it has become so tangled up with pain.
And don't forget the contribution of acute sexual frustration to crime. Every sexual offense has its roots in sexual pain and frustration or misconceptions about sex. If sex offenders were capable of having loving, responsible, adult relationships, there would be no need for them to commit such crimes as rape and molestation.
What can we do?
First, let's get it straight that sex is not "dirty." It is a perfectly normal biological function and ignoring the urge won't make it go away. This is simply the way we are designed. If we truly have respect for some kind of all powerful Creator, then it's time we honor the fact that He/She/It made us the way we are. The Human body is a beautiful thing and it's wrong for us to attach such negative connotations to any aspect of our natural selves in favor of some Human conception of how we "should" be.
We must learn to embrace our sexuality. Just because you might have had a bad experience in the past does not mean you're incapable of having a good sexual experience. If your current sex life is not all that you'd like it to be, talk to your partner about what you'd like and work together to break through inhibitions. If your partner is too demanding or not open to such discussion, I suggest you think about finding another partner.
Teach our children. Studies show that children who grow up in households where the parents are more open about their bodies, as opposed to always hiding naked bodies behind closed doors, are actually better adjusted as adults. Children who get unconscious signals that the naked body is shameful or disgusting end up with many more personal hang ups and inhibitions resulting in lower self esteem which only makes it harder to enjoy a healthy sex life.
And don't be afraid to talk to children about sex. It certainly encompasses far more than "where do babies come from." Considering the impact sex, or lack of sex, has on one's life, it seems pretty silly to make everyone figure it all out for themselves by trial and error. Don't shrink away from opportunities to talk to your children about what you've learned when it comes to choosing a partner and maintaining a relationship. Even if you don't feel very successful, they can benefit from your openness and experience.
Guys, apply yourselves and learn how to get laid. Don't say stupid stuff that only serves to increase resistance to sex. You want sex. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face by sending messages that what you really want is disgusting or loathesome. And, don't let yourself get to a point where you are so desperate for sex it's all you can think about. It shows. We've all seen an unneutered dog that tries to hump the leg of everyone that comes along; it's not attractive and it won't help you reach your goal. Don't be afraid to take matters into your own hands periodically to release excess tension so you can present the real you to prospective partners.
And remember, sex is a two way street. Men wouldn't want sex all the time if they rarely ever had a real orgasm and it's the same for women. I know women who have never had an honest to goodness, shuddering, mind blowing, toe curling orgasm! Why, because their partners were far more concerned about their own pleasure instead of focusing on nuturing a long lasting sexual relationship. If all you care about is yourself, then go and pay someone to take care of your needs. Legal and regulated prostitution could go a long way to alleviating the overwhelming amount of sexual tension and resulting crime in our society.
Imagine a world where there is no sexual tension. Hold on, I'm not talking about a world where people run around naked having sex everywhere with anyone who happens to come along. I'm talking about a world where people are happy and comfortable with their bodies and sex. Where people are not so desperate for physical affection that they are actually more attractive. A world where people feel safe and willing to open themselves up to all the beneficial effects of sex. It's a tall order, I know. We've never had such a society, but it's worth it to try.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
by: Gwenneth Morgan
Orgasmic sex between consenting adults provides more benefits to humans than simple shared intimacy. It's also important in maintaining one's physical and mental health.
Numerous studies have shown the beneficial effects of regular orgasms. Sex has been shown to be a great cardiovascular workout and it has been proven to relieve stress, thereby preventing stress related disorders. Regular, satisfying sex may even help you live longer!
On the other hand, sexual frustration, in my opinion, is one of the greatest problems humans face today.
Now, I'm not talking about a guy who's frustrated because his wife has been out of town for a week. I'm talking about 40 year old guys who have never had sex. I'm talking about women who have been so scarred sexually, that they are hoping to get through the rest of their lives without ever having to have sex again. Where does this come from?
Well, let's start by taking a look at history and religion. In many cultures, sex has been labelled "dirty." And it's evident in the way we interact with each other every day that this perception has endured. One of the most obvious instances is the work "fuck." Apparently left over from even more repressive times, the letters are intials describing a stockade offense, "For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge." Today, it has become one of the most negative and widely used words in American English.
Look at high school boys who already have distorted views of sex before they've even participated in the act. We hear things like, "eat me", "bite me", "suck this," "nice girls don't but naughty girls do," and even as they get older, "she's fun, but she's not the kind of girl you want to marry!" How many good hearted and adventurous teenage girls have submitted to the wishes of their beau, only to be shamed, publicly ridiculed or abandoned?
Then boys become men. They get married to "nice girls" and spend the rest of their lives wishing their wives were more adventurous in bed. How many husbands hassle and harrangue their wives to give them what they need (often without thinking of their wife's needs) until she is fed up and no longer interested at all? Our whole concept of sex has become so twisted that many actually scorn its healthful and bonding effects because it has become so tangled up with pain.
And don't forget the contribution of acute sexual frustration to crime. Every sexual offense has its roots in sexual pain and frustration or misconceptions about sex. If sex offenders were capable of having loving, responsible, adult relationships, there would be no need for them to commit such crimes as rape and molestation.
What can we do?
First, let's get it straight that sex is not "dirty." It is a perfectly normal biological function and ignoring the urge won't make it go away. This is simply the way we are designed. If we truly have respect for some kind of all powerful Creator, then it's time we honor the fact that He/She/It made us the way we are. The Human body is a beautiful thing and it's wrong for us to attach such negative connotations to any aspect of our natural selves in favor of some Human conception of how we "should" be.
We must learn to embrace our sexuality. Just because you might have had a bad experience in the past does not mean you're incapable of having a good sexual experience. If your current sex life is not all that you'd like it to be, talk to your partner about what you'd like and work together to break through inhibitions. If your partner is too demanding or not open to such discussion, I suggest you think about finding another partner.
Teach our children. Studies show that children who grow up in households where the parents are more open about their bodies, as opposed to always hiding naked bodies behind closed doors, are actually better adjusted as adults. Children who get unconscious signals that the naked body is shameful or disgusting end up with many more personal hang ups and inhibitions resulting in lower self esteem which only makes it harder to enjoy a healthy sex life.
And don't be afraid to talk to children about sex. It certainly encompasses far more than "where do babies come from." Considering the impact sex, or lack of sex, has on one's life, it seems pretty silly to make everyone figure it all out for themselves by trial and error. Don't shrink away from opportunities to talk to your children about what you've learned when it comes to choosing a partner and maintaining a relationship. Even if you don't feel very successful, they can benefit from your openness and experience.
Guys, apply yourselves and learn how to get laid. Don't say stupid stuff that only serves to increase resistance to sex. You want sex. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face by sending messages that what you really want is disgusting or loathesome. And, don't let yourself get to a point where you are so desperate for sex it's all you can think about. It shows. We've all seen an unneutered dog that tries to hump the leg of everyone that comes along; it's not attractive and it won't help you reach your goal. Don't be afraid to take matters into your own hands periodically to release excess tension so you can present the real you to prospective partners.
And remember, sex is a two way street. Men wouldn't want sex all the time if they rarely ever had a real orgasm and it's the same for women. I know women who have never had an honest to goodness, shuddering, mind blowing, toe curling orgasm! Why, because their partners were far more concerned about their own pleasure instead of focusing on nuturing a long lasting sexual relationship. If all you care about is yourself, then go and pay someone to take care of your needs. Legal and regulated prostitution could go a long way to alleviating the overwhelming amount of sexual tension and resulting crime in our society.
Imagine a world where there is no sexual tension. Hold on, I'm not talking about a world where people run around naked having sex everywhere with anyone who happens to come along. I'm talking about a world where people are happy and comfortable with their bodies and sex. Where people are not so desperate for physical affection that they are actually more attractive. A world where people feel safe and willing to open themselves up to all the beneficial effects of sex. It's a tall order, I know. We've never had such a society, but it's worth it to try.
www.SwingerSitesReviews.com
Dreams Into Reality
Innovators: How To Turn Your Dreams Into Reality
by: Neil Armand
Whether you have tried to sell your ideas in the past and failed or whether you have never tried beyond nurturing your ideas in your mind, please remember this--if you deeply believe in your ideas and if you have a vision of greatness for your ideas, one day, you will be able to turn your dreams into reality.
Remember Carl Carlson's 17-year efforts to make his copy machine (Xerox) a reality and Thomas Edison's 10,000 experiments to invent the light bulb. The powerful lesson from many great inventors and entrepreneurs in human history is--Never Give Up! Even if everybody keeps telling you to give up and to get a life beyond your dreams, you should remember that negative people and negative reinforcements are only barriers to transforming your new ideas and dreams into reality.
Many famous inventors and entrepreneurs refused to give up regardless of how many people laughed at them or how many times they failed. Many of them took a great deal of risks in their personal and professional lives to sell their ideas and inventions. In their endless efforts to sell ideas and inventions they passionately believed in, these innovators approached hundreds of companies, paid multiple brokers to show their ideas to manufacturers, explained their new ideas to scores of consultants, attended dozens of trade shows and seminars, and made hundreds of telephone calls.
But, they knew that one can never be sure of how long it will take to succeed. And so, they never gave up. They smiled when friends and relatives would ridicule them and say "how is that big idea coming along"? They were heart-broken when some companies said that their new ideas were not worth considering.
But, after the initial disappointment, they became more determined to prove that those companies were wrong, and so they worked even harder to sell their new ideas and to transform their dreams into reality. All the negative people and negative reinforcements could not destroy their spirit of endurance, perseverance and resilience. They remembered the famous quote "Most people succeeded just one step beyond their greatest failure."
They kept on trying and did not allow the rejections and negative reinforcements to kill their new ideas and their hopes and dreams. They took every obstacle as a challenge to overcome. They picked themselves up after every rejection and kept on working even harder.
They deeply believed that one day, the right opportunities will present themselves and will open the doors to their hopes and dreams. They sincerely felt that the right company, agency, investor or marketer would realize how their new ideas could be turned into successful products, services, business entities or national development programs.
In the end, their confidence, perseverance and hard work helped them turn their dreams into reality. They realized that they had been approaching all the wrong people or companies who failed to see the possibility in their new ideas. And then one day in a magical moment, the right person or company had the opportunity to see their ideas and instantly recognized the vision of greatness in their new ideas.
For many industries the best new ideas are not generated in-house, they come from outside, from innovators such as yourself. Although all companies engage in in-house product development, the smarter companies also search outside to augment their resources. Investors, marketers and idea commercialization companies also help innovators develop their new ideas for market introduction.
Many such companies and investors are now using a number of online intellectual property forums to locate suitable new ideas for purchase, licensing or joint-venture deals These include PatentcafePatentcafe.com (http://www.patentcafe.com), NewIdeaTrade.com (http://www.newideatrade.com), and Inventioncity.com (http://www.inventioncity.com).
Human civilization rests on coming up with new ideas and better ways of doing things. As stated by the bestselling author and entrepreneur Seth Godin, “this century is about ideas…we recognize that ideas are driving the economy, ideas are making people rich, and most important, ideas are changing the world.”
In today's knowledge-based economy, new ideas are our greatest asset that can generate immense new value and wealth. All around the world, there are buyers and sellers, demand and supply for new ideas. Value is no longer derived by creating things, but by generating and trading new ideas.
Additional information on how to sell innovations is available at http://www.newideatrade.com/new_ideas.htm.
For more information on how to patent your invention visit http://www.newideatrade.com/patents.htm.
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by: Neil Armand
Whether you have tried to sell your ideas in the past and failed or whether you have never tried beyond nurturing your ideas in your mind, please remember this--if you deeply believe in your ideas and if you have a vision of greatness for your ideas, one day, you will be able to turn your dreams into reality.
Remember Carl Carlson's 17-year efforts to make his copy machine (Xerox) a reality and Thomas Edison's 10,000 experiments to invent the light bulb. The powerful lesson from many great inventors and entrepreneurs in human history is--Never Give Up! Even if everybody keeps telling you to give up and to get a life beyond your dreams, you should remember that negative people and negative reinforcements are only barriers to transforming your new ideas and dreams into reality.
Many famous inventors and entrepreneurs refused to give up regardless of how many people laughed at them or how many times they failed. Many of them took a great deal of risks in their personal and professional lives to sell their ideas and inventions. In their endless efforts to sell ideas and inventions they passionately believed in, these innovators approached hundreds of companies, paid multiple brokers to show their ideas to manufacturers, explained their new ideas to scores of consultants, attended dozens of trade shows and seminars, and made hundreds of telephone calls.
But, they knew that one can never be sure of how long it will take to succeed. And so, they never gave up. They smiled when friends and relatives would ridicule them and say "how is that big idea coming along"? They were heart-broken when some companies said that their new ideas were not worth considering.
But, after the initial disappointment, they became more determined to prove that those companies were wrong, and so they worked even harder to sell their new ideas and to transform their dreams into reality. All the negative people and negative reinforcements could not destroy their spirit of endurance, perseverance and resilience. They remembered the famous quote "Most people succeeded just one step beyond their greatest failure."
They kept on trying and did not allow the rejections and negative reinforcements to kill their new ideas and their hopes and dreams. They took every obstacle as a challenge to overcome. They picked themselves up after every rejection and kept on working even harder.
They deeply believed that one day, the right opportunities will present themselves and will open the doors to their hopes and dreams. They sincerely felt that the right company, agency, investor or marketer would realize how their new ideas could be turned into successful products, services, business entities or national development programs.
In the end, their confidence, perseverance and hard work helped them turn their dreams into reality. They realized that they had been approaching all the wrong people or companies who failed to see the possibility in their new ideas. And then one day in a magical moment, the right person or company had the opportunity to see their ideas and instantly recognized the vision of greatness in their new ideas.
For many industries the best new ideas are not generated in-house, they come from outside, from innovators such as yourself. Although all companies engage in in-house product development, the smarter companies also search outside to augment their resources. Investors, marketers and idea commercialization companies also help innovators develop their new ideas for market introduction.
Many such companies and investors are now using a number of online intellectual property forums to locate suitable new ideas for purchase, licensing or joint-venture deals These include PatentcafePatentcafe.com (http://www.patentcafe.com), NewIdeaTrade.com (http://www.newideatrade.com), and Inventioncity.com (http://www.inventioncity.com).
Human civilization rests on coming up with new ideas and better ways of doing things. As stated by the bestselling author and entrepreneur Seth Godin, “this century is about ideas…we recognize that ideas are driving the economy, ideas are making people rich, and most important, ideas are changing the world.”
In today's knowledge-based economy, new ideas are our greatest asset that can generate immense new value and wealth. All around the world, there are buyers and sellers, demand and supply for new ideas. Value is no longer derived by creating things, but by generating and trading new ideas.
Additional information on how to sell innovations is available at http://www.newideatrade.com/new_ideas.htm.
For more information on how to patent your invention visit http://www.newideatrade.com/patents.htm.
www.swingersitesreviews.com
Sunday, November 19, 2006
Teasing
I love this topic right here. First let me say I draw the reference 'pricktease' from the movie 'Dazed and Confused'.
With 'Alpha Relational Dynamics', Prickteasing is basically the behavior, act and reality of a woman or women being the stimulus for men to respond to.
Prickteasing is the social act of sexual communication.
Flirting is the natural act of sexual communication.
Your ability to differentiate that characteristic distinction with women, can mean the difference between no success and massive success with the most beautiful women.
A Pricktease is what I define as a Social 'Alpha' woman. It is the Lindsay Lohans, the porn stars, the Paris Hiltons, pop-tarts, the blonde hair, lipo'd, boob-jobbed softporn clones that you see everywhere and on myspace.com flashing their assets.
Prickteasing is a purely social CONstruct originating in America. It is NOT natural. It is used by the Architects as a control to get men to 'respond'. The women who have become prickteases are adapting to their causally rooted social environment.
They are harnessing that leverage which is much greater than their own 'inner' personality or character and it's effective to get men to 'respond'.
They are following the lead of the high social status icons they see on the covers of magazines, on reality t.v. shows, etc. which are rooted in the social matrix itself.
Without their cognition, they are essentially being used to follow the program of the Architects (producers and executives) to generate more profits across multiple industries such as makeup, clothing, fashion, beer, magazines, etc..
When you look at the cover of Maxim magazine for example, you will always see pure prickteasing. It's taking the sexuality of a woman and exploiting it to be the stimulus for men to respond to. Similar to the Pavlovian experiment, many men actually will start drooling to that stimuli.
So why on earth do you think they're NERVOUS and incongruent with themselves when they approach women similar to these?
This prickteasing phenomenon (which is growing strong) doesn't lead to sex itself, it leads to creating a divergent and paradoxical fantasy lifestyle for men and women. After being conditioned for so many years, men and women have become jaded.
Millions of women have forgot how to flirt because of the power of this social influence; they're used to prickteasing and getting all of the attention. Their natural abilities and roots have been covered up because it's so rarely used or promoted in our social culture (pornography is socio-sexual programming, not natural).
Millions of men have become nervous and uncomfortable around all beautiful women because they have become the response to this social 'sexploitation' over all these years. That relationship has altered their physiology.
This is the root of the problem because they have been in a disempowering relationship in the first place that was created by the architects.
Their answer is NOT in pick-up lines or hot new tactics to try and 'get' the obvious social 'prize'. The real answer lies in the root relational dynamics in the first place. They have to take an entirely different frame on reality.
Place the social game where you're already doomed to fail and lower on the hierarchy, or take your power back, BE the stimulus yourself and play the natural game where women will actually respond to you.
When you can differentiate prickteasing from flirting and represent that through every fiber of your body, you won't be anyone's 'pawn' anymore and women will respond to you more powerfully than any pheromone.
You'll be able to see right through the 'game' or representation of any woman because you know and are grounded in your relationship to the truth of that power and what it means to you and her. You'll actually be fearless around these women and actually get somewhere and they're waiting for more men like that (who aren't jerks).
Remember that with Alpha R.D. we look at the pure and true relationships that exist. It is often the most subtle of things that lie beneath the surface or that invisibly frame the truth. That is what you want to look for.
So when you see a woman acting like a hot bitch who 'knows it' or a social pop-tart who expects men to respond to her, you should start seeing the type of relationship that exists. Are you going to play that social game (which holds her back from success with men too)?
Or are you going to be independent from that type of CONstructed relationship and work with the true sexual part of her (her natural character)?
For it's then, when the game begins.
In other articles I'll talk more about her natural character and differentiating these characteristics.
Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.
His work focuses on the regaining and improving of real character within frustrated men who do don't want to 'act', use pick-up lines or techniques to get women.
He teaches modern men how to truly be natural and comfortable in their own skin to consistently succeed with women, attraction and dating. You can sign up for his free eZines and find out more information at http://www.relationaldynamics.org
Saturday, November 18, 2006
Time for A Smile
Here's a lil story for ya:
I'm not feeling quite right so I decide to have the Doc check me out. Well, I go to the Doc and I tell him about feeling a little off. He asks me to describe my day. I tell him I get up around 6 am, clean up, grab some breakfast (cereal, etc) and sit at my desk and check to see how the market is doing. Then at 8:15am I go to the bathroom and have a BM. Then lunch around 2pm and dinner at 9pm.
The Doc decides to a scan. He then tells me I have 3 worms!!! That he recommends that I have surgery in 2 days!!!
In the meantime: The 3 worms inside me hear the Doc say he is going to do surgery to find them! One worm says, "I'm going to hide behind the heart!". The other worm says, "I'm going to hide behind the liver". They ask the last worm where he is going to hide? The 3rd worm says, "Forget that! I'm taking the 8:15 out of here in the morning!"
Bada Bing!
:)
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I'm not feeling quite right so I decide to have the Doc check me out. Well, I go to the Doc and I tell him about feeling a little off. He asks me to describe my day. I tell him I get up around 6 am, clean up, grab some breakfast (cereal, etc) and sit at my desk and check to see how the market is doing. Then at 8:15am I go to the bathroom and have a BM. Then lunch around 2pm and dinner at 9pm.
The Doc decides to a scan. He then tells me I have 3 worms!!! That he recommends that I have surgery in 2 days!!!
In the meantime: The 3 worms inside me hear the Doc say he is going to do surgery to find them! One worm says, "I'm going to hide behind the heart!". The other worm says, "I'm going to hide behind the liver". They ask the last worm where he is going to hide? The 3rd worm says, "Forget that! I'm taking the 8:15 out of here in the morning!"
Bada Bing!
:)
www.carsnet.com
Thursday, November 16, 2006
David Has Passed
I have very sad news. David passed away on Tuesday night at 10PM. He had gotten worse day by day, his spine was destroyed and he never came out of the coma. The Doctors said if he would be a vegetable if he survived and would be on a ventilator the rest of his life. David would have never wanted that. He was a strong hunk of a man and would never want to be a lump in a bed. David is on to new and better things. I'm angry and depressed over such a fine, young man is taken from us. Life can really be sad and hard to understand at times. Keep David in your thought. He was a fine, young man and will be missed.
Friday, November 10, 2006
Need Soem Fun
Its been months since our last 3 some. I'm so horny, I get hard if the wind blows. Time to get on line and find some new f buddies.
Tuesday, November 07, 2006
The CARS Net
I started The CARS Net in 1995 as an experiment to learn HTML code. I first used it as a site to promote my San Diego Auto Swap (www.SanDiegoAutoSwap.com) Then a buddy asked if he could advertise his Street Rods on The CARS Net. That was the first of hundreds and hundreds of ads for Classic Cars, Motorcycles, Boats, Trailers and Trucks,
Now after over 10 years The CARS Net is NOW FREE! My goal is to make The CARS Net the place on the Net to Buy and Sell all the Classics and Special vehicles we all love. Now that its FREE, you won't have to have to think twice about lisiting your vehicles, and parts.
I also set up a CARS Net Forum so you will have a place to share ideas, ask questions and just generally interact with other enthusiasts from all over the world.
Additionally, I built a CARS Net Blog where I can speak my mind and you can comment on my ramblings.
Use The CARS Net as your online tool to assist you with your Classic Vehicles. Let people know what you have For Sale, or Find that Deal you've been looking for. Use the Forum to find answers to your questions or to just express yourself. Its there for you and your use of it will make it better for you and everyone else who visits it.
Thanks for stopping by The CARS Net. If you have any suggestions or questions, please leave them on the Forum. I check it often. Keep The Shiny Side Up & I'll See Ya On The Street !
The CARS Net
I started The CARS Net in 1995 as an experiment to learn HTML code. I first used it as a site to promote my San Diego Auto Swap (www.SanDiegoAutoSwap.com) Then a buddy asked if he could advertise his Street Rods on The CARS Net. That was the first of hundreds and hundreds of ads for Classic Cars, Motorcycles, Boats, Trailers and Trucks,
Now after over 10 years The CARS Net is NOW FREE! My goal is to make The CARS Net the place on the Net to Buy and Sell all the Classics and Special vehicles we all love. Now that its FREE, you won't have to have to think twice about lisiting your vehicles, and parts.
I also set up a CARS Net Forum so you will have a place to share ideas, ask questions and just generally interact with other enthusiasts from all over the world.
Additionally, I built a CARS Net Blog where I can speak my mind and you can comment on my ramblings.
Use The CARS Net as your online tool to assist you with your Classic Vehicles. Let people know what you have For Sale, or Find that Deal you've been looking for. Use the Forum to find answers to your questions or to just express yourself. Its there for you and your use of it will make it better for you and everyone else who visits it.
Thanks for stopping by The CARS Net. If you have any suggestions or questions, please leave them on the Forum. I check it often. Keep The Shiny Side Up & I'll See Ya On The Street !
Friday, November 03, 2006
Free Cars Net Ads!
| Now Cars Net Ads Are FREE! www.FreeCarsNetAds.com is Up and Running... |
| The Cars Net has been on line since 1995. It was one of the first on line sites to help people Buy, Sell and Trade their Classic Rides. Over the years, we have changed and updated www.CarsNet.com but the time has come for a whole new way of assisting you and thats with the Brand New www.FreeCarsNetAds.com To place an ad all you needs to do is go to www.FreeCarsNetAds.com , register and enter your ad and upload your photos. You controll your ad. You can update your ad anytime you want. You can add more pictures, change the price, modify the text and then mark it SOLD! Its all there for you on line at www.FreeCarsNetAds.com Stop by today and put up your ad, check out the deals and let me know of any improvements you would like to see. (any problems too, its brand new) P.S. See Ya at the "Q" on Saturday, December 16 for our 16th Annual "Toys For Tots" Show & Swap. Remember to bring a New, Unwrapped Toy for the Kids and a get a FREE Continental Breakfast as our Thank You! Go to www.SanDiegoAutoSwap.com for more info. |
| Ray Taylor The Cars Net email: ray@carsnet.com phone: 858-484-9342 |
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